Happiness and things like that…
By Mohnish Nair
20/3/2013
Happiness is a choice. Stop
searching for it outside. Those who blame others will never find happiness. Stop
expecting others to make you happy. You will not necessarily be happy if
others make you happy. You will not necessarily be happy if others are happy.
You will be happy only when you want to be happy. Yes! you must WANT to be
happy. The people around you will only care about your unhappiness to a point.
It is not necessary that everyone around you will be happy just because you are
happy. You walk alone. Accept that you will always walk alone. There is nothing
wrong in walking alone or being alone. If others join you, be happy, if they
don’t, be happier.
Detachment is the secret to
happiness. Stop being obsessed about people, material things and events. Things
will happen when they have to happen whether you want it or not, whether you
like it or not. Your desires won’t come true just by believing, they will come
true by doing. Sometimes even doing does not guarantee that things will come
true. Your choices decide your circumstance but your circumstance need not
decide your choices. A man living in miserable conditions can make a choice to
become the richest man in the world. A rich man cannot change the circumstance
of a poor man if the poor man does not want his circumstance to be changed. You
can only do something for others, but you need not necessarily make a change in
their life unless they accept your offer to make a change. The goal of life is
happiness however, happiness comes to those who decide to be happy where they
are, how they are. When you expect others to please you, you will get
disappointed. Disappointment leads to unhappiness. The source being you placed
your faith in others to make you happy. They may not deliberately do something
to make you unhappy; however, their action to create self-happiness could
become a reason for your unhappiness. Each one of us has the right to make
oneself happy. Don’t be upset with people who do things that upset you. They
did it because they wanted to be happy. There is nothing wrong in wanting to be
happy. Understand their point of view and be happy that they are happy.
Happiness lies in forgiving and
detachment. That’s the ultimate secret. It lies in not expecting and it lies in
doing things without any assumptions about the outcome. You need not search for
reasons to be happy. You need not search for reasons to be unhappy. You only
need to breathe in the moment and find happiness in the rhythm of your breath.
Your breath is the gift from the almighty. It is the gift of nature. It is the
rhythm of comic energies and it is in sync with all that is alive and moving.
The rhythm in your breath is the same rhythm that runs in a stream, which moves
in the wind, that vibrates in the mountains. The rhythm of your breath is part
of what makes the earth go round and the moon move around us. The waves in the
ocean carry the same frequency that your heartbeat carries. All you need to do
is believe that you are one with nature and that you are in sync with all
things natural. When you do this, you will find yourself rich, you will find
yourself in oneness with the divine and you will find yourself happy. It doesn't take wealth to be happy but it takes happiness to create wealth. Sing
your tune. Walk your path. Dance like a bird and you will see that all that you
are is reason enough to be the happiest soul in this universe. Feel your
breath, find your happiness.
- Mohnish
