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Fake it till you Make it! By Mohnish Nair
Fake it till you Make it!
By Mohnish Nair
As I sit down to share some thoughts with you today, I am blank. I don’t know where to start from? What should I write about? Should I write something that is inspiring or at least attempt to be inspiring? Or should I share about how I feel today about a particular subject? Or maybe I should just not write at all. Well as these questions keep playing around in my mind, I suddenly realize, who do I think I am? I am no trained or qualified writer. I definitely am no fool to think I have any command over writing my thoughts articulately. Why do I even think I can write? My grammar is all wrong and I find it utterly difficult to frame sentences and think about suitable words. Why am I unleashing this mercilessly jumbled bunch of alphabets on my poor dear bloggers?
As I continue to stare at the
blank screen, slowly my nervousness subsides and my self deprecating original
self starts withdrawing its tight grip of hands from the throat of my “Wannabe
Motivator” alter ego. This change in my thought process happens because I am
now reminded of what I read somewhere once i.e. “You have to fake it till you
make it.” I know it sounds a bit cheap, but if you really give it a
thought, it really makes sense. We all have been faking it until we make it.
Remember the first few words you uttered as a toddler. Well I don’t know about
you, but I don’t remember. Haha…
However, my mum would always say that the first words that I ever uttered were
“daddydaddydaddy…”or something like that. How do we as kids learn to speak? We
listen to the sounds around us and then imitate the sounds till we start making
sense out of them. That’s how we learnt to walk, to run, to write, to play. We
have always been faking it first before making it. And so this self created
theory pacifies my fear of writing and I now start punching the keys on my
keyboard. Thoughts flow down from my brain into my hands and finally through my
fingers onto the keyboard. I want to express myself and that is why I write. I
write not to prove to anyone about my writing skills but just to express my
point of view on a medium that has a far greater reach compared to anything
that is physically possible.
Lets assume that my argument
about human learning is correct as mentioned above, then I am now encouraged to
believe that we can apply the same principle in our development as well. Since
learning and development go hand in hand, I assume that if I start to imitate
the most successful person in my field and do things that he or she is doing,
slowly but steadily I may start developing the traits that the person
possesses. This may eventually lead me to becoming what I desire to become. So
if I want to be the most knowledgeable consultant in my field, I must just
start imitating what the most knowledgeable person in my field is currently
doing. If I want to be a painter I must start doing what the most successful
painter that I admire does. Isn’t this a great way to reach to the top? Now
critics would argue that this robs you of your individuality and uniqueness. If
you imitate a person, you lose yourself. And I must say that is a valid point. But
what if I imitate their actions and add something of my own to the delivery of
the final act. So if I am an aspiring singer, I must follow the daily routines,
the practice methods and the lifestyle habits of the most successful singer and
improve my capability, but when it comes to performing I must sing in my own
style. Now wouldn’t that be a fair way to get successful? So what I am actually
doing is imitating the behavior that goes into making a great singer but not
the style of a successful singer. This way I avoid myself from becoming a
clone.
The same principle can be applied
to our moods and emotions. If you are really sad and depressed, how would your
body language be? You may walk looking down at the floor. If you are sitting,
your shoulders would be droopy, your jaws would be hanging and your entire
posture would be laidback. Your face would look all gloomy and grumpy. Now how do
you change your state of mind to becoming happy? Well many would say, think
positive thoughts. I have tried this, and I am sure you would agree with me,
that when you are depressed, thinking positive thoughts is the last thing that
you are capable of doing. So that option is null and void. I have a reverse
idea. Now that you are sad and you are deep in your thoughts about how
miserable your life is, I want you to just change your body language. Yes, all
I want you to do when you are sad is, SMILE! Okay do it now…SMILE!! Now that
you are faking a smile, hold the smiling posture of your lips and think about
negative thoughts. You cant, can you? Well that is the magic of faking it until
making it. The moment you smile, even if you are faking it, you cannot think
negatively and your mood is uplifted. So the reverse works here. You have to
control your actions to change your thoughts. Simple!
Now as I come to the end of this
post, see how much I have written. Haven’t I really faked it till I have made
it? I wrote an entire article by just pretending to be a writer..ha ha…!
So the next time you want to
achieve something in life, or in your career, or if you simply want to feel
happy and excited, I give you this secret,
FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT!! A better way of doing it is believe in whatever you think you are faking. So when I think that
I can be the most successful motivational speaker and writer in this world, I
have to first follow the activities that the most successful motivational
speakers and writers do and most importantly I should start believing that it
will work. I must invest faith in my thoughts and desires. And that’s because
if I don’t fake it with conviction, I will never make it! So a better way of
achieving things is FAITH IT TILL YOU
MAKE IT! You have to develop faith in what you desire to become, you have
to develop faith in your capabilities and you have to develop faith that all
will be well as per your desire!
All the best! :-)
Mohnish
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Wednesday, March 20, 2013
Happiness and things like that… By Mohnish Nair
Happiness and things like that…
By Mohnish Nair
20/3/2013
Happiness is a choice. Stop
searching for it outside. Those who blame others will never find happiness. Stop
expecting others to make you happy. You will not necessarily be happy if
others make you happy. You will not necessarily be happy if others are happy.
You will be happy only when you want to be happy. Yes! you must WANT to be
happy. The people around you will only care about your unhappiness to a point.
It is not necessary that everyone around you will be happy just because you are
happy. You walk alone. Accept that you will always walk alone. There is nothing
wrong in walking alone or being alone. If others join you, be happy, if they
don’t, be happier.
Detachment is the secret to
happiness. Stop being obsessed about people, material things and events. Things
will happen when they have to happen whether you want it or not, whether you
like it or not. Your desires won’t come true just by believing, they will come
true by doing. Sometimes even doing does not guarantee that things will come
true. Your choices decide your circumstance but your circumstance need not
decide your choices. A man living in miserable conditions can make a choice to
become the richest man in the world. A rich man cannot change the circumstance
of a poor man if the poor man does not want his circumstance to be changed. You
can only do something for others, but you need not necessarily make a change in
their life unless they accept your offer to make a change. The goal of life is
happiness however, happiness comes to those who decide to be happy where they
are, how they are. When you expect others to please you, you will get
disappointed. Disappointment leads to unhappiness. The source being you placed
your faith in others to make you happy. They may not deliberately do something
to make you unhappy; however, their action to create self-happiness could
become a reason for your unhappiness. Each one of us has the right to make
oneself happy. Don’t be upset with people who do things that upset you. They
did it because they wanted to be happy. There is nothing wrong in wanting to be
happy. Understand their point of view and be happy that they are happy.
Happiness lies in forgiving and
detachment. That’s the ultimate secret. It lies in not expecting and it lies in
doing things without any assumptions about the outcome. You need not search for
reasons to be happy. You need not search for reasons to be unhappy. You only
need to breathe in the moment and find happiness in the rhythm of your breath.
Your breath is the gift from the almighty. It is the gift of nature. It is the
rhythm of comic energies and it is in sync with all that is alive and moving.
The rhythm in your breath is the same rhythm that runs in a stream, which moves
in the wind, that vibrates in the mountains. The rhythm of your breath is part
of what makes the earth go round and the moon move around us. The waves in the
ocean carry the same frequency that your heartbeat carries. All you need to do
is believe that you are one with nature and that you are in sync with all
things natural. When you do this, you will find yourself rich, you will find
yourself in oneness with the divine and you will find yourself happy. It doesn't take wealth to be happy but it takes happiness to create wealth. Sing
your tune. Walk your path. Dance like a bird and you will see that all that you
are is reason enough to be the happiest soul in this universe. Feel your
breath, find your happiness.
- Mohnish
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Sunday, March 10, 2013
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Saturday, March 9, 2013
Building Credibility at the Workplace By Mohnish Nair
Building Credibility at the Workplace
What separates the 'performers' from the 'average' at the workplace? Why is it that a few succeed to build an image of a winner while many toil very hard but yet fail to leave a lasting impression? I am sure you too have noticed that some individuals carry a halo of reliability around them and almost everybody seem to trust and bank on them for their ability to deliver. Therefore, I have listed down a few crucial traits that one must have to build a repute and credibility of a reliable executor.
1. Be a doer
In a competitive work environment that we live in today, it becomes pivotal to have a repute of a DOER than someone who merely passes off as just another employee. Employers seek out for performers who can deliver the goods every single time. They would want to have capable individuals who can match up to the organization's goals and also go the extra mile to ensure completion of projects successfully.
2. Mr. Dependable track record
The past history and the reputation of a person in the organization play a very important role while being selected in the core team of performers. It's no secret that those who can boast of "Mr. Dependable" credibility are the ones who find themselves moving up in the corporate world.
3. High personal standards
Always aim for excellence. Expect only the best from yourself and disallow mediocrity in your performance. Always focus on achieving the highest standards in whatever you do. Don't pass off anything as complete unless you think you couldn't have done it better.
4. Keep your word
A man is known by the word he keeps. Your reputation is built based on how much you walk the talk. Always remember the golden rule of DOING what you say you will do. Be obsessed about honoring your commitments.
5. Finish Line Habit
Another important trait necessary to build amazing credibility is to be known as someone who finishes what they start. It is important you take tasks and initiatives to their logical conclusions and not just keep on starting new things but never end up completing them.
6. Time Obsession
Your reputation grows when you respect deadlines and honor them. People who are punctual and time bound own the greatest ingredient of credibility building. Remember, you will be respected when you respect time.
You can build a great reputation for yourself if you follow all of the above suggestions at your workplace.
This article is written by Mohnish Nair. Mohnish is a business coach specialized in small and medium size enterprise coaching in India. A young, dynamic motivational speaker, creative designer and a strategic coach, Mohnish has helped hundreds of business owners transform their world creatively. That's Mohnish's motto in life, to transform the world creatively. Contact Mohnish by visiting his blogsite - http://www.mapledreamsindia.com or write to him at mapledreams22@yahoo.com
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