Success Is Enjoying Life - 3 Steps to Help
You on Your Way
Often when I ask people what success means to them they will
rattle off the things they want in life, they think they will have success when
they get this or that. There's nothing wrong with wanting things that you will
get pleasure from, but that is secondary. If you are enjoying life then you are
successful.
One of the ways in which you can become more successful in life,
that is to enjoy life is to find your purpose in life. I don't mean this in a
metaphysical sense, I mean doing what you love and loving what you do and
making a living out of this. Your purpose becomes your job, your profession. If
you love your work then it doesn't feel like work at all.
There is no one else in the world exactly like you. No one with
the same personality and characteristics, with the same outlook on life, no one
can explain things the way you do. You are unique and you have a gift to share with
the world, this is your purpose, to be your authentic self.
I believe when we come into this world we know who we are, we
know what we want to have and what we want to do. We know what our purpose is.
We believed in ourselves and we trusted ourselves. Then the process of social
conditioning started, social conditioning is "a sociological process of
training individuals in a society to act or respond in a manner generally
approved by the society in general and peer groups within society."
Instead of developing our unique abilities and aspirations we
began to do what other people expected of us, we started doing what other
people wanted us to do and being what other people wanted us to be. We have an
inner war going on, a conflict between what we really want and what we think we
have to do because it is more practical, or because we have been told we can't
do what we want to do.
Isn't it time we started to honour our true self. The way
towards success is to rediscover your true self, consciously choose the life
you want to live. Decide for yourself what is important in your life, what you
value and start setting goals and taking steps towards living your life with
purpose, enjoying your life. Follow your heart, follow your dreams. Stop
listening to other people, it's your life and all that matters is what is going
to make you happy. Your aim is to do what fulfills you.
A good place to start is to look at your values. The next 3
steps will help you on your way to becoming your authentic self, enjoying your
life and becoming successful.
1. Go through the list, writing down what you value.
For many people this will be the first time that they have
actually sat down and really thought about what they value. Up until now it
hasn't been clear to them at all.
2. Narrow the list down to your top 5-10 most important values.
These will be what you feel most passionate about. You will get
a rush of excitement or a feeling of peace or you may feel relief that you have
discovered this. Almost always there will be some kind of emotional response
when you discover what you think is truly important to have in
your life.
3. Then under each value write down why this value is important to you.
Ask yourself why is this important to me? What does this mean to
me? Often people will find themselves writing things like 'my father said I
should.....', 'society expects this of me', 'all my friends do this'. You
discover that you have based your life's decisions on something you don't care
for.
You now have the ability to consciously choose what it is you
value in life and start planning your new life, your new direction, your new
goals around your true values. Be the successful person you were meant to be,
enjoy life by discovering your true self and living authentically.
Comprehensive list of values
