Friday, December 23, 2011

Are You A Negative Thinker?

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Are you addicted to thinking the worst? Do you always look at the down-side to life, spend all of your time exhausted and worrying - surrounding yourself with constant negativity?

Negative thinking causes so much stress on the body. All the negativity and catastrophic thinking will leave you feeling anxious and stressed and, as the medical profession have been pointing out for a long time now - stress is one of the leading causes of illness. Stress sets into motion the body's fight or flight response, pouring hydrocortisone into the body and eventually exhausting the adrenal glands. Adrenal exhaustion can be one of the results of so much negative thinking.

The problem is, we all know that negative thinking and stress can affect our health, but we can find it extremely challenging to give up all the negativity. We wrongly believe that the negative thinking keeps us safe from disappointment. We believe that it prepares us to deal with any bad thing that could happen - as we are then prepared to deal with it. We believe that the pain of disappointment would be less, if we know about it in advance and actually expect it to happen. We don't want to get caught off guard.

People to think the worse believe they can gain an element of control in their lives. They believe they can prevent the bad things actually happening in the first, by thinking through them before they happen. They think they can control what other people think of them, by constantly being vigilant about their behaviour - by watching that they always say and do the right thing. In doing so, they can always be alert to putting themselves in a good light and ensuring that other people would then treat them right and feel good about them as a person.

Negative thinking can actually make you ill and exhausted; as you are constantly on alert - not only of yourself but of the people and events around you.

Quite often the root cause of negative thinking is actually a need for control and/or the fear of disappointment and rejection.

Unfortunately, the feeling of then being in control is actually an illusion of control. It would be impossible to foresee every event that might cause you pain or upset. If something happened that you didn't foresee; you are then feeling both the pain of the event and the feeling of being hugely disappointed that you didn't see it coming!

Trying to foresee future events prevents you from being present in the moment. The only thing you can really control is your attitude and thoughts to events and other people, events that are happening right now, in this moment. Being in the moment also enables us to listen to our inner guidance and knowing.

If you are a negative thinker, you probably have been practicing and building on this most of your life. Moving forward will be a long process, one that takes time - it won't happen overnight. Tuning into your stress and learning to connect it with your thought patterns will enable you to work on changing them and you will then be able to have happier thoughts, be a happier person who lives fully in the moment.