Tuesday, September 13, 2011
By Avdhessh Arya
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/6533407
The night becomes too deep and intense just before the sunrise, you have to be patient and soon the sun will be there. Same is the case with difficult times. They are simply transitioning phases of your life. They indicate that something far greater is around the corner, just hold on.
Now it's up to you whether you give up or take it as a challenge-A challenge to learn and grow.
Here are 8 tips to help you stay positive and hopeful during difficult times.
Stay Focused on What You 'DO' Want.
It's easy to lose focus when facing difficult times. You start thinking about the things you DON'T want. For example
I don't want to fail.
I don't want to suffer.
I don't want to stay behind.
Have you ever visited a restaurant where waiter comes and asks you "Yes sir, what would you like NOT to have?
Well, no such restaurant exists. The waiter is supposed to ask "Yes sir, what would you like to have". You go through the menu card, decide what you want and place an order. Simple!
Life is also about placing an order with your thoughts and actions. If you use the right thoughts and actions, you get what you want. I know it's quite difficult to focus on what you want when everything seems to fall apart, dreams look like illusions and nothing seems to work. But, this is your test. Be persistent.
Find Time for Relaxation
Nowadays life has become so busy that we don't even find time to unwind, to be with ourselves, to relax. All we worry about is work, work and more work.
Work is surely important, but so is relaxation. Here are some ideas to help you get relaxed.
Get a massage
Though you surely can go to a spa and get an exotic massage done by a HOT girl, it doesn't need to be costly at all times, your neighborhood barber can also give you a head massage and that too at a very reasonable price. (Yeah, you'll have to compromise on the 'hot' part but that's ok)
Go for A Walk In A Park
The natural ambiance of a park gives you a great chance to consume tons of fresh air and be with a person you have forgotten-yourself.
Try walking on the grass bare footed, it's a pleasure you won't find anywhere else.
Watching moon for a while will give you a sense of oneness with the universe. Moon is a symbol of peace, purity and tranquility. It's said to have calming effect on your mind and that's exactly what you need to battle stress.
Watch Your Favorite Movie
Watching your favorite movie is a wonderful experience and it's not that hard. Just get the DVD from the local library or shop, switch off your mobile phone, grab a cup of coffee and enjoy.
Apart from the ideas above, playing with kids, walking down the street with your wife (or someone else's, if you are lucky) or killing enemies on play station could also help you relax.
Spend Time with Positive People
It's better alone than in a bad company. Sure, there are lots of negative people around, but that doesn't mean you have to be with them.
Spend time with positive and vibrant people instead. It'll help you see the world from a new and positive perspective. (Hanging out with a bubbly and positive girl for even 15 minutes is more empowering than spending a whole day with a boring and dead negative person)
Read Positive Literature
Just like positive people, positive and uplifting books are a great way to increase the positive vibes around you. Read positive literature, especially just before going to bed. It will help you stay positive during hard times.
Reading biographies of people who survived hard times and rose above the else will inspire you to stand tall and never give up on your dreams.
Do Something Out Of Your Comfort Zone
We all have our comfort zones.
We do things in a certain way and never think of going out of them. It gives a sense of security and comfort, but is dangerous for your growth. When you do something that you've never done before, it boosts your confidence and self faith, which in turn helps you become more positive.
Ask Successful People How 'They' Did It
We all know successful people. Like negative people, they are also around us but we never approach and ask them-how they did it.
The people who you think never had a hard time also suffered, faced challenges, handled criticism and survived difficult times. And now they have something which is far more valuable than anything else-EXPERIENCE.
You can take advantage of this experience. Ask them to give you some tips-what did they do, what worked, what didn't and why, what mistakes did they commit and what advice they have for you?
(Everyone successful person around you has a story to tell. I have an uncle in my family with whom I never talked much for around 20 years. One day we were sitting together and he started sharing with me his life experiences-how he faced the challenges and survived really hard times.
I was amazed at his courage and enthusiasm and also sorry for myself for not talking to him earlier (read-for not asking him to share). Don't assume that people will not share their secrets, they will, but only if you ask)
Watch What You Eat
We have a saying here in India "Jaisa khao ann, waisa ho jaye mann" (The type of food you eat have great impact on your mind)
Eat spicy and junk food and you'll feel anxiety and stress all day long.
Eat raw and unprocessed food and you'll stay more calm and relaxed. I know, it's easy to grab a ready made burger or hotdog or pizza than preparing a nice raw salad, but the time spent preparing your meal is worth it because the food you are eating will alter your emotional state.
Eat raw food as much as you can, start your meals with a plate full of raw vegetables and fruits. Eat salad first, and then start eating your main course.
Eating lots of raw and unprocessed food helps you feel relaxed, calm and confident, which in turn helps you stay positive about yourself and the world in general.
Also, if you drink, limit your alcohol intake and try herbal tea or a simple glass of good old milk before going to bed. It promotes good sleep and helps you rejuvenate.
Clean and Organize Your Closet
Have you ever experienced anger and frustration in the morning time while getting ready for a business meeting because you couldn't find your black pair of socks? You know it's there but couldn't find it. It is because you have more clothes in the closet than it can handle and you know what? A cluttered closet can drive you nuts.