Saturday, August 13, 2011

How to Stay Confident While in the Process of Change

By Suzie Doscher

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Becoming aware that 'something has got to give', working through exactly what that is, figuring out how to unravel the behavior, working with the pain attached to letting go of the 'known' and taking the steps to enter 'the unknown' is all very difficult. It takes courage, time, patience, support and acceptance.

It is easy to start doubting your own abilities. Change/Transition is a real challenge for your confidence level. Whether you are looking for a new job, making a fresh start, moving, ending a relationship, changing your own behavior patterns, changing how you react to someone/something - all of these are slow processes but very worthwhile!

Some tips to help you build and maintain your confidence along the way:

•Ask yourself what your definition of success is? What has to happen for you to feel you have reached your point of success? How will you know you are there? Write your definition down and review it regularly. This helps you to see the progress you are making.

•Make another list of what you praise yourself for. What do you like about yourself? What value do you add to other people's lives? Review this often; it will help you feel energized and confident.

•Think about the worst-case scenarios. What will happen if you do not succeed? Examine this for strategy and planning purposes only. Focus on best-case scenarios with plans to overcome problems. Once a worst-case scenario has served its purpose, let it go. It is there only so you know what to do if something happens.

•Use visualization. Hold the image of the successful "you". What are you wearing in this image? Feel into it, breathe it. Get familiar with how it feels to be you, when you 'get there'.

•Remind yourself of past success. Confidence comes from recalling past experiences in which you overcame an issue or problems. These thoughts will be energizing and uplifting.

•Stay in the moment. Focus on what you are doing right then and there. Don't multitask. Do one thing well and feel good about it.

The best support you can give yourself along the way is to be kind to yourself. Choose to get involved with people, things, projects, actions that give you some power. Avoid anything that drains you, robs your energy or wastes your time.