Monday, July 4, 2011

Dont Quit

50 Ways To Constructively Channel Negative Emotions

By Steven Handel

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Emotional intelligence is not about never experiencing negative emotions, but learning how to channel them in positive and constructive ways. Here are some activities I find effective in taking emotions like sadness, anger, or grief, and then using them to learn something about ourselves or creating a more fulfilling and meaningful life.

50 Ways To Constructively Channel Negative Emotions

•Play an instrument.
•Listen to music that fits your mood.
•Paint or draw.
•Write a short story.
•Sing a song.
•Go to the gym or workout.
•Go some place where you can yell at the top of your lungs.
•Watch a movie that echoes how you feel.
•Do yoga, tai chi, or some other mind-body exercise.
•Vent your thoughts to someone who is willing to listen.
•Create a personal blog (see power of writing) or vlog to keep track of your experiences.
•Donate or volunteer at an organization that works toward your values.
•Ask yourself, "What are my emotions trying to tell me?" Often there is a thought process behind what we feel.
•Learn how to reframe a situation in a more positive or productive light.
•Try doing something nice for someone. Often creating pleasant feelings for others increases our own well-being.
•Go out to your local park or nature preserve.
•Find a good place to take pictures.
•Write and direct a short film.
•Hit a punching bag.
•Play a stimulating video game.
•View anxiety or stress as motivators to act, not things that inhibit you.
•Write a poem or song lyrics.
•Try to solve a puzzle.
•Go outside for a short walk.
•Reflect on negative experiences and see what you can learn from them.
•Meditate on your thoughts and emotions without being judgmental ("good" or "bad").
•Channel your emotions into a competitive sport.
•Go star gazing.
•Respectfully confront someone who may be responsible for how you feel.
•Engage in simple good feelings so you remind yourself of the finer things in life.
•Learn how to take criticism like a champ.
•Consider forgiveness as a valuable way to let go of past experiences.
•Read a book.
•Join a forum or online support group that shares similar troubles.
•Use negative relationships in the past as fuel to improve relationships in the future.
•When reflecting on negative events in your life, try to see the bigger picture. Often these experiences can build resilience in the long-term (related: post-traumatic growth).
•Use anger or other "high charged" emotions to drive you to be more productive at work.
•Blur the line between work and play to handle boredom or apathy.
•Use physical weakness or fatigue as a sign to take a break or enjoy leisure time.
•Wake up early and watch the sunrise.
•Find the value in occasional solitude.
•Surround yourself with positive and supporting friends and family.
•Use your emotional energy to create positive affirmations.
•Create your own self-hypnosis audio.
•Write your own daily prayer.
•Reflect on role models who may have overcome similar obstacles.
•Organize and redecorate your house or office space.
•Read some inspirational quotes