Tuesday, December 14, 2010

10 Ways You Can Learn From Rejection

James Adams


1. Assess the rejection

Take a look at the reasons given for your rejection. Was the letter you received more than ‘does not meet our needs at this time?’ Did the interviewer tell you why you were not suitable for the position? If reasons have been provided, can you understand where they are coming from? Great feedback can assist you in your success.

2. Ask some questions

If you have not been provided anything more than vague reasoning, find out why you were rejected from the position. Was it your level of experience? Was it the way that you dressed? Ask your interviewer to provide critical feedback about your rejection.

3. Don’t allow ego to interfere

Ego is blinding. If you believe that all of your work is perfect, there is no room for improvement. When you are deciding the validity of your reviewer’s feedback, do not discount their concerns as petty.

4. Examine your motivation

Were you completely committed to the project? Did you do everything that you could to make your acceptance occur? If you believe that you did everything possible to get that ‘yes,’ then realize that most decisions for promotion or acceptance are subjective. If you did not put your entire effort into the project, put time toward your success.

5. Chat with friends

If your writing has been rejected, ask your friends to read what you have written. Ask them to be completely honest with what they have read. Your friends will often try to shield you from their criticism, but they will respond if you ask them to remove the rose colored glasses.

6. Rejection is not the end of the world

You might have been turned down for a promotion or a book deal, but it is not the end of the world. Your acceptance and success is merely delayed. Every risk that you take has a possibility of failure. There will be more risks that you can take.

7. Attitude counts

Your reaction to rejection is just as important as the rejection itself. Whining, crying and pouting are great for toddlers, but you are an adult. Be positive about the rejection, knowing that you are going to have bigger and better triumphs. Skills can be taught. Attitude cannot.

8. Rejection is a learning experience

There is always something to learn from the rejections that you receive. If your company did not promote you, what qualities are in the person who was promoted? What kinds of books and articles are accepted by the publisher?

9. Regroup and Resolve

When you have been rejected, allow yourself a chance to regroup. Resolve to correct those issues. When you regroup, do something that is completely different to the rejection. If you are a writer, start sculpting. Stepping away from the situation allows your brain to come up with suitable solutions and corrections.

10. There are always more

Rejection is usually the result of one person’s opinion. You can make that article pitch to another magazine or another person within the same company. You can look laterally for another promotion, or look outside. There are always more opportunities for those who know where to look.

The rejection that you just received is not the end of the world. Take a day off, assess the lessons and continue. Those rejections pave the way for your future success