Saturday, July 24, 2010

Do You FEEL Successful? The Secret to High Performance (Emotional Intelligence)

By Dave C Hawkins

There's a great ocean between thinking, and doing. Everyone's got that golden invention that would tip the world upside down - millionaires overnight they'd be. But millions of people keep their ideas to themselves. Millions of opportunities live, and die in one mind.

But what comes of 'feeling' and doing. Is feeling and doing the same as thinking and doing? They couldn't be further apart...

"Trusting your gut instinct."

When people 'feel' and do, it's immediate. It's not a thought, it's just done. True achievement is when people continuously act/react on feeling, alone. They've practiced so much that the instructions don't even need to become a thought - it's instinct, it's habit, and it's like a God playing with mortals.

So why are people so full of broken aspirations and hollow dreams?

When we 'think,' we are translating feelings into thoughts. These feelings are messages from our instincts, our habits, our hormones, (the 90%) and even what we're physically seeing. By the time we've stopped to think, our logical brain has already desperately started to rationalise these messages.

During this process we get all the mixed messages. Now we have countless messages that your logical mind is trying to put some meaning to. Eventually we 'rationalise' the answer but by now it's hopelessly corrupt.

We get the following - · What if... · But... · I can't do that... · I'm not ready...

IMPORTANT POINT Our instincts, habits and hormones manifest themselves, if at all, in our conscious mind (10%) through feelings. When we act on feelings we are harnessing the raw power of the emotional mind. (90%) Star performance comes when you have put the conscious time into training, and have taught your unconscious mind all it needs to act upon. Through thinking you contaminate the message, and it results in limited performance.

When you have put your 10,000 hours into any one practice, whether that is playing the violin, or learning a martial art, true skill isn't about conscious focus. It's about living in the moment and just doing it.

"When you feel you get results"

Story: Ace!

As I write this book, a Tennis match has just this minute finished that will change the face of tennis; and no doubt the perceived stamina potential of humans. The previous record held for the longest game of tennis, if I'm getting my facts right, was 24 games to 26, which in itself was an incredible score when you consider the average game is a straight 'first to six games wins.'

It's Wimbledon 2010; American born John Isner is playing French born Nicolas Mahut. They're up to 59 games all and still serving at 120 mph. The powers that be, however, have decided to call it a night. It's getting dark. The next day the mutual resilience continues. Finally though, one relents. John Isner breaks away to win the game at a phenomenal 70 games to 68, after 11 hours 5 minutes of full throttle tennis. The match was stopped for the evening at 59 games all but it still stands to reason...

E.I Skills displayed: - Self Awareness - Communications - Handling Stress - Managing Feelings - Assertiveness

- How did they go on for so long? There are two explanations:
1. Both players were of an extremely close ability in performance.
2. Comparatively, they had very strong mentalities - this is where E.I plays a part.

These players, from the moment they stepped out onto the court were in 'feeling' mode, they would rely on all those years of training, the leveraging of the 90%, as the game progressed. If these players had been thinking, they would have 'thought' they were tired and 'rationally' called it a night after say, 20 games. If they were 'thinking' it would have destroyed that natural focus. They were just feeling, and as a result of that, they would have continued to play until their bodies collapsed.

"A thoroughbred horse will run until its heart bursts and it dies on the spot. A man will go to thirty per cent of his capacity and then he drops - but he is not dead by a long way. At this stage the mind must take over or force or fear takes over the mind to extract another thirty percent at least that is available." -- Legionnaire, by Simon Murray

How can YOU become a star performer?

"Every battle is won before it is ever fought" -- Sun Tzu

To put it simply, the single most important aspect is to prepare -- simple as that. Ask any fitness coach in the world, and they will tell you the most important part of your exercise routine is the warm-up.

If you don't prepare, acting on feeling alone is suicide, you simply can't leverage the power of your 90% because it doesn't know anything. Just because you 'feel', doesn't mean you should. But the more prepared you are, the better position you are in to rely on your 90% when it takes control in stressful performing conditions.

"Numerous experiments have conclusively found that abilities to handle emotions are better indicators of future success, than I.Q levels"

We humans are hard wired to 'know,' or rather, think we 'know'. Following, is a small section from a book called The Intelligent Investor. It's a seminal work on stock investing by Benjamin Graham, a man who taught Warren Buffett a thing or two. Incidentally, it's a book that reinforces emotional control over intellect, and if Warren Buffet endorses it, you know he was talking some sense.

"It turns out that our brains are hard wired to get us into investing trouble; humans are pattern-seeking animals. Psychologists have shown that if you present people with a random sequence-and tell them that it's unpredictable-they will nevertheless insist on trying to guess what's coming next. Likewise, we "know" that the next roll of the dice will be a seven, that a baseball player is due for a base hit, that the next winning number in the Powerball lottery will definitely be 4-27-9-16-42-10-and that this hot little stock is the next Microsoft."...Just remember this on your next holiday to Vegas, ok?

If, on the other hand, you have prepared, (and the line between being prepared and not prepared is hazy but read on) your chances of success are raised. Even if you fail, your mistakes will give you vital clues about the state of your 90%.

Just one mistake 'in the field' is better than endless preparation. Why? Because preparation becomes repetition and a mistake becomes pathos.

Imagine a player who has natural talent. This player is using his 10% very efficiently; it just makes sense to him. Take a seasoned professional who is leveraging 90% and you begin to see a whole different game. 90% is not only more powerful, but it's more consistent too, because it doesn't rely on the 'accident prone' 10% (the conscious mind).

Action Steps...

Do you understand the difference between thinking and doing, and feeling and doing?

Do you understand why people don't achieve?

Do you understand that great performance is about relying on your 90%?

Do you understand that when you feel, you get results?

Do you understand the importance of preparation?

Do you accept that we humans are wired to see what's not there? (Dice patterns, the weather, you name it. Even ghosts!)