Friday, June 4, 2010

Live by the Values You Want to Live By

By Len Williamson

I hold a great piece of advice for anyone is to be who you want to be and do what you want to do. I am absolutely convinced that these two pieces of advice lead to the best outcomes for a life. It seems tough as the constraints that arise from the need to earn money or survive daily life often lead you in to doing things you do not want to do and being who you do not want to be. In the area of values this is a particular challenge.

Take a look at the values you would like to live by. Go and Google personal values if you want a listing of the potential values you could live by. Go through the list and pick out the top ten values you want to live by. When you are comfortable with your ten now reduce your choice to your most important five. You will probably find this difficult as you weigh up preferences. This is normal. Most people experience this. Now you have the five values you would like to live by compare them with the five values you currently live by. A perfect match means a pretty good life on the scale of being who you want to be and doing what you want to do. This is also rare. If there is a mismatch start to explore the reasons behind living by values you do not want to live by. It could be to do with money, survival or because something is being imposed upon you. The question to ask yourself now is how could you meet the needs of the reasons you come up with in a way that allows you to live with the values you would like to live by. It is surprising how many solutions there are to this problem. Many people don't find the solutions because they do not look. Look hard and you will find something there.

You can also attack the problem from the other way by asking what you could do to live the values you would like to live by. What sorts of activities and ways of being would fit with the values you like? You now need to work through how you overcome the obstacles you see to doing these things. Look at what you would like to do first without constraints and only then consider separately the obstacles and what you can do about them. You can do far more about them than you initially thing.

Be who you want to be and do what you want to do.