Tuesday, November 30, 2010
By Stephen Hager
Have you been passionate about communicating something important to others, but have not received the acknowledgment, attention and outcomes you envisioned? Three "golden rules" for communication success are neuroscience-based methods that draw people into engaging with you and improve the probability of reaching win-win outcomes. They engender respect, build trust and improve relationships.
Golden Rule #1: People do things for their reasons, not for yours.
The brain only engages with listening, observing, thinking and action when a value component is present. The value can be feeling important, being needed or reaching out and helping someone because it's the right thing to do. It may be intellectual curiosity, solving a nagging life problem or acquiring a physical possession. The reason is irrelevant. Any reason the brain deems valuable gets the brain's attention. If you don't know the "hot buttons" of a person or group, try using phrases like: "I have a problem and need your help." "Will you take a look at a situation that may change your life for the better?" "Is this a good time to ask your opinion about something that may interest you?" Make sure the "attention getter" has integrity, serving the best and highest interests of the person or group you are addressing.
Golden Rule #2: Do it the Socratic way.
Provide information with a minimum of "telling." Maximize asking questions that draw the person into the communication process, thus encouraging an exchange of information and insights, rather than a one-sided monologue. Questions expand insights and integrate knowledge into common understanding, consensus, solutions and pathways to positive action. Asking Socratic questions is a life skill that anyone can learn. You can start the process now by beginning conversations and presentations with "what, why, when and how." Everyone learns with this method and you can be the facilitator of this dynamic and fun learning process.
Golden Rule #3: Communicate on the wavelength of your audience or listener
Visual Learners Need: Visual media, key written points, pictures, graphics, images, color, clutter-free environment
Kinesthetic Learners Need: Physical or hands-on experiences, comfort, freedom to move about, frequent breaks
Auditory Learners Need: Clarity of words, attentive listening, ability to ask questions, quiet environment
Sequential Thinkers Need: Logic, order, particulars, realism, practicality, data, schedules, content
Global Thinkers Need: Possibilities, options, generalities, open-ended, big picture, context
These "golden rules" for communication success are neuroscience principles available to everyone interested in positive outcomes for all parties. People engage when subjects are important and valuable to them, not necessarily to you. Therefore, you must provide reasons for them to interact with you and the subject. Inclusiveness, rather than exclusiveness is the operative word. Asking open-ended questions with a minimum of telling is an ancient Socratic principle of learning, more recently discovered to be based in neuroscience. Communicating on the wavelengths of others enables them to take in, process and gain understanding in the minimum amount of time.
Monday, November 29, 2010
By Guy Farmer
Leaders and managers ask me whether there is a practical way to build stronger teams in their organizations. I often suggest that they think about going beyond the occasional activity or retreat and create a deliberate culture of team building in their workplace. Creating a culture means designing an environment where employees are encouraged to work well with each other. The ultimate goal is to build a workplace where people collaborate effortlessly and help each other succeed.
Many of us don't practice team building in the workplace on a regular basis even if we realize that it would help us improve productivity and morale. This is usually because we are creatures of habit who like doing things the way they've always been done. Successful collaboration requires conscious and ongoing commitment from leadership and employees so that it can take root in the organization. Let's look at five practical ideas to help you create a workplace that celebrates working together.
1.Team building starts at the top of the organization. We need buy-in and participation from the company's leaders to make it work. It's possible for individual departments or employees to do some activities on their own but it's exponentially more effective when leaders actively and continuously show their commitment to being part of the team. When leaders participate it sends a positive message of dedication and interest. Our employees see first hand that we value being part of the group.
2.Developing a culture of team building. Every business creates a culture based on what it values. You can create a culture of team building at any time if you choose. You create this type of environment by giving people the opportunity to work together effectively and showing you care by supporting them along the way. This may require shifting from a competitive or compartmentalized culture to one that encourages collaboration. As a leader, you set a positive example by being an active part of the new culture.
3.Team building takes commitment, time and effort. We can't build cohesive teams if we only offer a one-hour workshop or seminar every few years. Creating strong group collaboration is an ongoing process where people continually practice the skills related to thinking, collaborating and working as a group. The goal is to create a workplace where team building becomes the standard way of doing things. Leaders play an important part because they demonstrate through their actions whether team building is really valued in the organization or just a bunch of words.
4.Set time aside to do activities. Identify a team building activity (there are many online) that makes sense to you and practice it once a week. My clients ask me how to find the time to do team building when they have so much other stuff on their plates and my answer is that one either dedicates the time or doesn't. Either choice shows the organization's level of commitment and virtually guarantees certain results. You decide whether the activities are a priority and how you will fit it into your work schedule. I recommend a free-standing weekly meeting that stands on its own and doesn't have to fight for attention with other meetings or topics. Give these activities importance and conduct them with no interruptions.
5.Celebrate your employees. We get so busy that we forget that creating teams is really about celebrating our employees and helping them enjoy a more positive and supportive work environment. When our employees are encouraged to collaborate positively they tend to perform better and do it more happily. Leaders have a profound effect on the productivity and well-being of their employees when they focus on encouraging them and building cohesive teams.
Team building is about helping your employees unite so they get more done in less time and with more enjoyment. The key to your success will be to commit to creating a viable program and setting aside the time and resources necessary to make it happen. The reward is that our people and workplaces function better. Try the ideas we've talked about in this article and you'll be on your way to enjoying the benefits that come from creating a culture of team building. How will you get the process started?
Saturday, November 27, 2010
By Dave Cleary
Without a doubt the fear of failure has to be one of the strongest phobias there is. The truth is that most of us have this fear in some form and it's something which holds most of us back from achieving our dreams. This fear can be quite complex in nature and it's quite hard to get rid of but it's not impossible. People who have severe forms of this phobia will live out their life in mediocrity; they won't achieve all they want to achieve because they never try anything worthwhile because they fear they won't be able to succeed.
The irony here is that how can anyone expect to achieve anything in life if they simply don't try. You can't get to where you want to be in life if you simply sit back and wait, you need to take risks in order to achieve success. Taking risks will open even more doors which will eventually lead you to the life of your dreams.
However this fear will stop most of us dead in our tracks so overcoming fear of failure should be top priority. If we weren't brought up with a winning attitude to life then the odds are that we simply won't take any risks. It's the risks which pay off in the end so it's very important to rid yourself of this fear if you think you have it.
The real truth is that we all fail at some stage. If we don't fail then how can we ever learn? Edison had over thousands of failures before he invented the light bulb, he didn't view these failures as failures at all, in fact he said that each time he didn't succeed he put it down to another way of not to inventing the light bulb, he obviously didn't suffer from the fear of failure phobia.
Friday, November 26, 2010
By Sheryl Schlameuss Berger
Are you doing what you believe you are meant to do here on Planet Earth? Do you feel you are aligned with the intentions of your soul, in sync with your spiritual "grand plan" of life?
Theoretically, one would be most enlightened, serene and at balance with the world if one is truly living their life "on purpose." But as complex human beings in possession of egos and personalities, it is not always easy for us to figure out exactly what we want to do in life.
What does alignment mean to you personally? Are you in the flow of what you are meant to do here? And how do you know if you are?
I believe there are four different aspects that make up our "alignment." Consider these aspects to help you evaluate whether you are currently on the life path that feels right to you.
1) What you do - your work here. This can refer to your job/career/service that you provide. Though this is usually in exchange for income, sometimes it is voluntary. Are you doing something that you are passionate about, something that feels right to you, something you are proud of doing or something that might serve or help others in some way? If you answered "yes" to most of these, then you are are most likely in alignment about what you are doing here on planet Earth.
2) Where you do it - geographically. Do you feel comfortable, joyful about your location? Or are you longing to be elsewhere? If you are in the busy city, do you yearn for open space, greenery, land? Or vice versa? Are you dreaming of living in another country and establishing a life there?If you answer these questions honestly, and if you are truly at ease with this aspect of your life, then congratulations.
3) Who you are - are you content with the fundamental concept of the inner you - your core personality? Are you kind, compassionate, readily and easily connecting with others? Are you able to love? When you look in the mirror, are you able to smile at yourself and be comfortable with who you are? All these traits comprise someone who is on track with their soul's purpose.
4) How you feel - are you joyful, upbeat, motivated, well-rounded, balanced, peaceful? Do you greet each new day with enthusiasm? Or are you mostly bogged down with negative thoughts? Only YOU know where you really rank on the emotional scale of life, and that can be a very accurate barometer of your alignment with the higher consciousness part of you.
Do you need to be completely aligned with all of the above to feel happy, fulfilled and heading in a positive, successful direction for yourself? Of course not. As physical beings, we are constantly evolving and growing spiritually, emotionally and intellectually. For example, in terms of job/career, I don't believe that we are meant to only have one specific path. Oh, for some people, that may be true - such as my brother who knew by age three that he wanted to be a pilot and became one, and still likes what he is doing. For most people, finding their passion and forming a career from their passion is a process.
Thursday, November 25, 2010
By Emma Vale
Lead generation is a marketing strategy that involves calling customers to be able to create interest, gather prospects and update information on a database. This strategy can be used for many purposes and serve to many advantages depending on the type of business that employs such marketing strategy.
Lead generation is not something new for many businesses and marketers because it has been a strategy that has been used before to be able to generate more customers and in the long run, generate more revenue and increase sales. It is just a matter of adapting to the new technologies and the changing times that lead generation tends to evolve and transform in the last few decades.
There are a lot of companies or agencies that take great interest in creating leads for various other businesses. The process itself does not take much. A website is developed to create partnerships or affiliates with other more websites wherein the product or service is promoted and advertised. Any consumer around the world will find these websites and once they are interested in purchasing or availing of a product or service, they fill up forms with their information. These information are then collected and sent back to the lead generation agency. They compile these and categorize them in various classifications. Once a business owner comes up to them and asks for leads of a specific demographic, the agency just filters their leads out and then produces a list for business use.
Lead generation is something that many businesses take seriously because they consider it as a way to get more customers. It can work for any type of industry, any type of business, and any company.
Having leads can mean a lot for a business aside from just having more customers and more sales. Having targeted leads means focusing on a specific market to advertise a specific product or service, making, say, a specific line of beauty products be the champion of the business. It provides a focus for the campaign strategy. It makes advertising methods more specific. There is a sense of business control so that specific figures or goals can be achieved. This way, you can put a spotlight on somehow doubling your revenue, your sales, and the other goals that you may have for your business.
It is best to leave lead generation to professionals such as the ELV Telemarketing. This way you can be assured that you are getting quality leads that can be of great use for your marketing strategies. ELV telemarketing agency works with your business as a part of your business.
Reaching out to your customers in a friendly, efficient and effective way to promote your products and services and arrange sales meetings for your teams.
Wednesday, November 24, 2010
By Sam Borrett
The task is to take a business card and write your idea on the back of it. Hand it to someone you don't know and ask them if they grasp clearly what you do. Others call it the elevator pitch method or some such phrase.
It is not so easy to do as we are usually so close to ourselves and what we do to have a real clarity about our work, life and situation.
There is a saying in web design that in this age of Twitter and short messaging you should be able to communicate what you do in twelve syllables or a few short words on your home page.
For example "buying luxury real estate for busy executives," or "personal training sessions in the privacy of your own home," or "cheap travel made fun," which could apply to Jetstar in Australia or Virgin anywhere.
The point is that you are looking for what they call a generic positioning statement and you have to ask others whether they can understand the message, not whether you can.
The other thing to remember is whether your offer is easy to differentiate. Your specialty may be your point of difference, so what is your specialty or point of difference?
For example I would say that my generic positioning is "to help people leverage their ability and talent to get the life they need or want." These latter words, "need" and "want," are of course miles apart in meaning and each of us must confess to what we want and need now.
Is your pitch working for you now?
Since I took some recent advice for which I am grateful my pitch is re-working its magic although I don't need to be so gross as to use it; you see I never go to networking events, although I might if it there was one interesting enough.
Tuesday, November 23, 2010
By Mike Krutza
Most leaders don't know that their actions, even routine actions, might have a stifling influence on their teams. These are the leaders that go much by the conventional rulebook and do things what they think leaders ought to do. A lot of times, they just copy what leaders before them have done. When such thoughtless acts start stunting the creativity of their team, it becomes a big issue for the leader.
Now, you don't want to fall into the trap of what many mediocre leaders do. To save yourself from it, here are five things you have to be wary of. These are the things leaders do by which their teams' creativity is stifled; avoid them by all means.
Some leaders think too much about 'their way' of doing things; so much so that they don't even want to give a chance to other people in their team to try out things. They are too set in their own ways; they don't even take suggestions from other members. This way, you are as good as shouting out to your team-"Don't try out anything new here; I am the only one who should think!"
Another way in which leaders retard the creative expression of their team is when they put too much emphasis on their own experience. These leaders speak a lot about how experienced they are and make that as a reason for everyone to obey them without thinking much. It is all right to let people know that you are experienced, but it is not all right to tell them to shut up and obey you blindly just because you are more experienced than them.
A third way by which leaders can stifle their team's creativity is by being too elaborate, like when they are describing a particular assignment. Now, one might think why being too detailed can be a problem. Well, it is a problem because when you are too detailed, you are almost spoon-feeding your team and not giving them a chance to think about it! Whenever you want to speak to your team, keep the open-ended approach. Ask questions, invite suggestions and opinions. Let them think too.
These are the ways in which most leaders stunt the creative development of their team and that becomes a big problem for them later on, because the team just stops thinking! Leadership coaches always suggest leaders to make their team members participate in every possible way and give their inputs so that their creative minds stay well-oiled all the time.
Monday, November 22, 2010
By Steven Hourston
We've all worked with terrible leaders. But nearly all leadership development focuses on what great leaders do. Forget that. We learn much more from the truly awful leaders. Those who are so selfish, incompetent, arrogant, two-faced and heroically bad.
They teach us how not to develop and motivate individuals or teams. Their lessons are memorable and the experience of working with them often scars people for life. All that needs to be done is to NOT lead by their example. Remember what they did and vow never to repeat their mistakes with your team. You'll become a much better leader and your career will flourish.
Look out for these warning signs.
Lose your enthusiasm, drop your passion, have a charisma bypass and become an energy sucking black hole draining the life from your team.
Catch people getting it wrong and humiliate them. Find their weaknesses. Ignore their strengths, it's their weaknesses that give you control. Never miss a chance to undermine their confidence.
Lose your values, they get in the way. Integrity is over-rated, as is straight-talking. But spin and insincerity are excellent skills.
Keep the people who make you look good. Steal their best ideas and present them as your own. Never share the credit. Astonish your team by promoting the least able, self-seeking yes person - it worked for you.
Divide and rule. Stamp on ideas and teamwork. You want control. Keep people in the dark, the less they know the better. Knowledge is power. Use it to your advantage.
Stick to the middle lane, accidents happen in the fast and slow lanes. Become proactive with your hindsight. Be wise after the event. Find your scapegoats. You must always have someone else to blame.
Appear to welcome change, but make sure it doesn't work. Maintain the status quo. You never know where new ideas will lead.
Heroic fire-fighting makes you look good. Your boss will think you've saved the day again. Forget the wood it's the trees that count.
Practice the dark arts of office politics. Undermine the talented and praise the incompetent, they make you look good.
Become a World class creep, ingratiating yourself with your boss is a wonderful skill. Bosses are lonely and a yes-man often makes them feel good.
You'll have your own examples. Add them to this list.
Saturday, November 20, 2010
By David Brock
Training is a key part of any person's development. We need training to develop new skills, to acquire knowledge, and to build our capability. Whether it's on new products, new sales skills, new tools, training is a vital part of everyone's development (sales professionals and managers alike).
But, training is not a substitute for coaching! often I encounter managers who "don't have the time to coach." Actually, I think it's they don't want to coach. Instead of coaching, they are glad to invest in training, thinking a few hours or days of training will correct all bad behaviors and skills deficiencies. Let's take an easy example. All of us make sales calls, improving our ability to execute the sales calls, improving the results we get from each call, and reducing the number of calls to close are critical to improving sales performance. We can take people through training programs on how to plan and execute high impact sales calls. Many of these training programs will have great role plays, tools and materials the sales person can use to improve their impact in each call.
But training isn't a solution for talking to Bill about that last sales call we went on together. Training can't pose questions like: "Did you accomplish everything you planned to achieve?" "Could you have accomplished more?" What would you have done differently that might have improved the impact of the call?"....and many other questions a manager might ask in coaching the call.
See coaching is about personal and professional development, but it deals with real situations, things that are actually happening, in real time. And they are different circumstances for each person. Training can never (and should never be expected to) achieve this.
Training and coaching, do have a very tight relationship. Too many organizations don't get the results they should get from the training programs they implement. Little of this is the problem of the training supplier or vendor, but more of this is the way training has been implemented, and the role-or lack of it-that management has in reinforcing the training. Training can have a great impact in developing the capabilities of the team-but management has to be engaged, not only in determining what is being taught, but participating in the classes, and doing ongoing coaching reinforcement afterwards.
Having done a lot of training, it's amazing the numbers of classes I've been involved with where management doesn't attend or participate. Managers sitting in the back of the room, working on their Blackberry's, not participating in any of the workshop (other than perhaps introducing the trainer) are not participating-they are attending. Managers need to be involved in the training workshop. Likewise, much is done through distance or eLearning. If managers expect their people to take the courses, they need to take the course as well-setting a powerful leadership example.
Most important, however, is what happens after training is completed. This is where managers need to coach and continually reinforce what's been done in the workshop. Using our sales call skills example, managers need to coach and reinforce the planning process introduced in the class, they need to talk to sales people as they are planning calls, using what they've learned and reinforcing it in their coaching the sales call plan. Of course that's difficult if the manager didn't participate in the class or workshop.
No training program should be implemented without a plan and a commitment on the part of management to coach and reinforce the training afterwards. Otherwise, you are just wasting your people's time and throwing money away. Recently, I got involved in with an organization that had invested a lot of time and money in training on major accounts. They had used one of the "name" vendors to provide the training-they provide a great program. But the management team asked me, "Why aren't we making the progress in the major accounts that we should?" (It was surprising to me they didn't ask the vendor this or get the vendor involved in the solution-but that's a different topic.).
I asked, "What are you, as managers doing to coach the people in developing and executing the major account strategies?" They kind of looked at me as if I had two heads, "Don't you understand, we had training on this?"
I asked the question again, with more clarification. "What are you doing to coach your people in developing and executing the major account strategy? Your vendor provides great tools for developing major account plans, do you regularly review those plans and use the tools when you talk to your people?" They started looking at each other, no one wanted to answer, but none of them had incorporated anything that was done in the training into the way they reviewed the major account plans and progress in executing them. They didn't even know what the tools were and how to use them. It's no wonder they weren't making any progress. Their people weren't using what they had learned, managers weren't continually reinforcing it.
Training and coaching are important. One does not replace the other, both are needed, both need to reinforce the other.
Dave Brock is President and CEO of Partners In EXCELLENCE, a global management, leadership, sales, and marketing consulting company. Partners In EXCELLENCE helps clients achieve the highest levels of performance by focusing on the customer.
Friday, November 19, 2010
By Ann Marosy
Over the years I have extensively studied and used goal setting techniques and found that there are a few simple rules that help to make them work. These include:
Make a long list of all the things you want, and then prioritise them. Start working on just the first 3 or 4 items. When they have been achieved, cross them off and begin on the next ones. If you list too many goals and try to start working on them all at once you may become so overwhelmed with the whole process that you eventually give up on all of them.
For my annual goals, I first divide my chart into major areas of life such as: personal goals, relationships, work and finances, health and body, etc. Then I have about 7 or 8 goals for each area for the whole year. However, I then transfer only 3 or 4 of them to each month on my calendar. So overall I may have about 40 goals for the whole year, but only focus on just a few each month.
Goals can also just manifest by themselves. For example, last year one of my goals was to sell an investment property for 'x' amount of dollars. In the New Year I arbitrarily placed this goal in April. I didn't go out of my way to sell the property, and low and behold in late March a real estate agent approached me out of the blue and he sold my property for the exact amount I wanted in April!
Sometimes you may achieve what you desire more easily by simply focusing on the actual outcome you want to achieve, rather than the physical item.
For example: you may want a new car. However, ask yourself why you want a new car. Is your existing car in bad repair? Are you having transport problems in your family and think you need another car to solve them? So, instead of asking for a new car, your ultimate objective may be: "Freedom from transport problems" or "Carefree, comfortable and enjoyable transport". Then wait and see what happens - sometimes you may get a new car and sometimes your existing problem will be solved with a better solution that you hadn't originally even thought of.
There are lots of different and creative ways to design your goals chart and children love to do them as well. In fact, it brings out the inner child in most of us.
A goal chart works for several reasons. First, it allows you the time and space to sit down and think about what you want to achieve. The chart then defines these goals and creates a visual image, which you can be framed or mounted on your wall. This has both a direct and indirect impact on the results. The chart will directly remind you of your goals as well as have a subconscious effect by drawing the desired results into your life. This is creative visualization at its most practical and profound level. It works like magic.
To start, buy a large poster size coloured board or paper for your chart. I love those metallic gold, blue or magenta papers that most stationers carry. Grab all your old magazines and greeting cards to cut out pictures, and sometimes even words, that represent the goals or concepts you want to achieve.
Use your imagination to design the layout. You may wish to create a geometrical effect by cutting out matching wrapping paper in the shapes of stars, triangles or circles in which to place your goals. I also write out my personalised goals on self-adhesive labels and stick them into the geometrical patterns. You can also glue on small affirmation cards or photos. Make it as personal as you like. Use you imagination and have fun - and then watch all your goals and intentions magically appear! At the very least, you will find yourself more motivated to working on these goals and have something positive to aim to.
Remember, a life without goals is aimless and soul destroying.
Thursday, November 18, 2010
By Christopher Edgar
We hear a lot in personal development circles about how it's important to "play to our strengths," instead of wasting time trying to improve our "weak" areas. I want to rethink that notion a bit in this post.
It's probably true that we all have our natural aptitudes. It's hard to dispute, for example, that some people are born with body types that make them better athletes.
But sometimes, when we see ourselves as "bad" at some activity, it's simply because we don't like the way we feel when we're doing it -- not because of any inborn lack of talent.
The Making Of A "Weak Point"
Early in life, many of us heard sometimes in a harsh or mean-spirited way -- that we weren't good at something. For example, maybe we tried to paint, and heard that we had no artistic talent. Or perhaps we were the last kids to get picked for the sports teams at school, and we decided we weren't athletically inclined.
The result is that, today, if we do the activity we got the hurtful feedback about, some of that shame we experienced early on will come up. Because we know this, consciously or otherwise, we avoid doing it -- and we excuse our avoidance by telling ourselves we "just aren't good at it."
This has been true for me when it comes to building stuff with my hands -- doing things like carpentry and metalwork. When I tried these activities as a kid, I made some mistakes, and heard that I couldn't do these things because I "had no common sense."
The upshot has been that I've largely avoided "working with my hands," except in the sense of typing on the keyboard. Instead, I've gravitated toward "working with" abstractions like law, philosophy and spirituality -- which I'm supposedly "better at."
How I Played To My Weaknesses
So, I'll bet you can imagine my anxiety when I volunteered to build houses with a local organization. I not only expected to mess something up and get accused of lacking common sense -- perhaps a house I worked on might collapse, due to my incompetence, and hurt someone.
Of course, none of this happened. The people I worked with were nothing but understanding and appreciative. And, as far as I know, the houses I took part in building are still standing. But I'll keep reading the local news just in case.
Anyway, the bigger point is that I was going through life assuming I was "just bad at" building things, when in fact my stumbling block was shame and my unwillingness to feel it -- not a lack of skill or talent.
I think it's great to get a sense of what we're naturally good at, and cultivate our strong areas. But I also get the sense that, by exploring our so-called "weak points," we can learn about gifts we have to offer the world that we may not have been aware of before.
Wednesday, November 17, 2010
By David Samuel
We have spoken of the many layers of the totality of our being in previous articles, and now we shall explain how each one has its own mind. There is the mind of each of the physical senses, the mind of discrimination of good and bad, the mind of thought and creativity, the mind of the soul, and many many other minds. There is the self, the soul, the intellect, ego, personality, prejudices, etc.
Each mind thinks and sees itself as the only mind in your being. But the essential self, the soul, through its mind, observes all the other minds combined. When you can see yourself think and act, and look upon your many minds objectively, then you are detached and observing from your higher mind. If you think you know yourself, then you are looking through one of the many minds and are just a tiny temporary fragment of your whole being, but you think you are everything you are. This is why people are so unreliable. They think they know themselves and so do not audit their words and thoughts with the knowledge that what they are thinking at the moment is temporary and subjective, coming from only one of their minds. This is one reason why we practice the speech diet, so that you will develop the ability to hold your tongue until you are sure of what you are saying before you say it.
This is a tricky thing to accept in the western world of psychiatry. Basically it is saying that we are all multiple personality disorder. Perhaps it was thought out when the organization was looking for a new field that they could have a reason to catch every mortal human as a client. If you take the basic natural state of being human and call it an illness, then you guarantee that every human is a potential patient. That combined with the gullibility of humans, they have a real winner.
For those seeking freedom from their own mind, it is the same as any practice on the path of self refinement. You accept your present situation, do nothing to counter it, but just observe it. Even if you do not see your fragmentation right now, if you begin to observe objectively, willing to accept that you may not like what you find in your self, then you will begin to see these things if you look for them.
If only you could see the simplicity in all we have in front of us on the path to Truth. There is nothing to do, but merely to sit back and watch. It is the turning on of the light that makes the monsters leave the child's room at night. However, not only must we begin to watch, we must know what to look for. This school, or one of the many that have been in existence for thousands of years, can give you exercises to follow, if you can understand them. That is the reason a teacher or school is needed, someone who has already walked the path is the only capable guide. You cannot guide yourself across the barren desert if you have never been there before.
A true teacher is like a guide. He or she will take their charge across the desert, then once crossed, they leave them and go to guide another traveler. This is to help you know that a true teacher is a guide to bring you to your destination. If you follow as quickly as the guide can lead, you will achieve your goal, but if you dally and take your time, napping daily, then you may never reach the oasis.
Back to the minds. Do you notice how easily your manner is changed by simply dressing differently, in tattered house cloths, or in very expensive dresses and gowns? You may like to try this experiment, it works for both men and women, to the degree you are comfortable with, although with today's styles, women will find it easier to do than men. For men, just try dressing like a bum, not shaving for a few days, then keep yourself clean shaven and proper, dressing in only the finest cloths you have for a few days.
For women, try dressing in men's style cloths for a few days, no makeup or hair style, then for the next few days, do yourself up and dress in the most feminine cloths you have, no pants or jackets, only dresses and skirts, feminine blouses and such.
Observe how different you feel about yourself, how different you act and speak, how you notice yourself. This will prove how manipulateable mortal humans are, if simply changing your cloths can effect you so deeply. I remind you, no practice or teaching is of any value until you have tested and proven it for yourself. The guide leads you through the desert, he does not carry you.
As you begin to see how you are many more people than you think, and how each of your minds takes charge without your knowledge or permission, easily twisting you to its desires, then you will start to notice when that happens. Eventually you will be able to see the different minds, and you will start to see yourself acting or speaking from each mind with each ones particular attitudes.
Once you have attained a clear state of awareness of this fragmentation, then you will develop the strength to stop the uncontrolled life of being manipulated by whichever mind is in control, and select which mind you wish to function from at each moment. This is the state of balance where you can have all the emotions, but they do not overpower your actions and thoughts, and can take years to develop.
Imagine any argument you have had, especially with someone you love or care about. Can you remember how you said things that you knew where mean or not necessary, but you could not control yourself? Or perhaps how you felt one way, then the next day after talking to someone about the fight, or just simply sleeping on it, you felt completely different? This is a perfect example of a person who is not aware of their multiple minds. Depending on what you where arguing about, it was a specific mind that was related to that subject. Then as the argument progressed, did you notice how it may have taken a turn to an entirely different subject? This happens when one of the other minds jumps in and takes over.
Your many minds sometimes work like a tag team race. When one is running out of energy, another jumps in to take the fight in another direction to keep it going. The goal of the union of the many minds is to keep us so confused that we can never see them and what they do to us. When we say union, we are not referring to a harmonious union as in the union with the Divine. Rather it is like the Teamsters. A Mafia organized union of disgruntled workers who are doing whatever they can to hurt management and maintain control of the company. I hope these examples are clear and can reach you, we try to bring things to words that you understand to give you a picture. Once you have the picture, it should trigger another light in your unified soul mind that all of a sudden makes sense of it all, and that picture has nothing to do with the analogy. We must use mortal human words to reach mortal humans. When you have separated the yellow and blue and shine green, then you will be an immortal human and not require such words.
The mortal and immortal parts of our being are now mixed together, like yellow pieces and blue pieces of a jigsaw puzzle and mixed in the same box. These pieces are transparent like colored glass. They make up two puzzles, one of all yellow and the other of all blue, one the mortal and the other immortal. (These two choices of color are just analogous for this teaching.)
First we must see that there is a puzzle that needs solving and not just a bunch of broken glass, and that the beginning is in separating our mortal and immortal selves. Once the two colors are separated, and you have two separate piles of pieces, the two sides can see each other and now recognize their own duties, capabilities and limitations that the other color must take care of. You see that you are both mortal and immortal. Prior to this clear vision which comes from the separation of parts, you think you understand that you are both, but you really are just one big mess. That is just knowledge of certainty, and not truth of certainty, therefor, limited in its usefulness.
The work of awakening can be said to be the sorting out and putting together of the two puzzles. Once they are completed, they make a simple sheet of pure color each. Then the final step is to place the two sheets one on top of the other. When you mix yellow and blue, you get green. And when the two parts of our being, the mortal and immortal, material and spiritual sides are sorted out, clearly assembled, and placed one on top of the other, they cease to be blue and yellow, but only one color, green. Green is the highest level of spiritual development in the Sufi Path. (Although I used the colors randomly, it turned out that there was a significance in their finality. I would say that everything in this world is like that. Much of what we do and see may seem irrelevant, but as the Kaballah teaches, not even a leaf falls from a tree that does not have a spiritual significance.)
Even though there is now only one color that you project, that of green, you are still the two separate sheets of yellow and blue. It is the laying one on top of the other that brings enlightenment but even with this level achieved, the two parts are still individual and useful each in their own place. It is like a combination lock, separate numbers used in unison can open the lock. So you become each and both at the same time, separate and united at the same time, mortal and immortal simultaneously.
This is how you can live in the world and still be pure inside, yet normal people will not recognize your level. They will only see the yellow, while the blue exists within, only showing its green light in the presence of those who can stand to see it. It is the same with seeing God. You can see the yellow, the material manifestation of Its existence, you may have the spiritual experience and see the blue light of Gods spirit, but to see the two together, the green light of Khidr, that is only for the ones that cultivate the strength to bear the experience of such power.
You can become filled with energy and love as well as special abilities to succeed at whatever you desire, even if that is finding your lost car keys, you can live in this world and the next, you can have no fears, no attachments, no concerns. All this if you can meld the two realms, you will live in both realms and so not fear either.
This lesson is for advance seekers on the path who have worked on cleansing their heart in the practices of giving for the sake of giving, living as a child of each moment, and releasing desires, among other practices. This is mentioned so that you realize that this lesson is not something that will be easy to achieve or comprehend, but comes after much preparation. Nonetheless, any of you who read these words can work with them to the best of your ability, and that will benefit you as much as it can, even help you progress quicker. Eventually, perhaps week by week, if you reread it, it will continually make more and more sense to you.
Tuesday, November 16, 2010
By Vicki Perry
Fall has been here for a while, taking away our bright sunny days of summer. The dead of winter will soon be upon us, leaving the skies dark, gray, and gloomy and the greenery around us bare. During these months, many people will become depressed, especially if you reside in a place where winter keeps that first glimpse of sunlight from beaming through the trees for quite some time.
In the Pacific Northwest, skies remain gloomy for about 8 or 9 months, depending on the year. Some people may need assistance in keeping on the "sunny side" of life during these months.
There are some things you can do to help alleviate feelings of depression and unhappiness right in the comfort of your own home. If you are clinically depressed, while these suggestions may help, you need to seek advice from a physician or psychiatrist for certain medicinal therapies. But for those of us that want that "pick-me-up" during the duller, depressing, darker days of winter, these suggestions might be of some help.
Be sure to keep your area well lit. Not with ordinary lighting alone, but invest in some various types of lights. Black lights, florescent lighting, and even sun lamps can assist in bringing plenty of light rays into your view. Lighting of different varieties will lift your spirits and allow for happier moods.
Burning rose oil or lilac oil in a potpourri burner will help too. Rose oil aromatherapy is known for raising mood levels. Plus, your home will smell nice also! Association with flowery aromas reminds us of spring and summer months, uplifting our moods. The combination of light and aromas are very effective together.
Don't isolate yourself. Being at home alone occasionally is healthy, but avoiding friends and family constantly is an unhealthy attitude and habit. Be sure to get out and enjoy the time with a companion. See a movie or go shopping with a friend. Have lunch with your family. Taking a walk or a jog for exercise is a great way to improve moods.
When you are alone, take a walk and enjoy the day. Drive to the store and window shop. Make certain you are able to get outside to breathe some air and allow natural lighting in your day. Whether the sun is out or not, the natural light of being outside is must.
Comedy movies or stand up comedians will bring your mood up. Put on a DVD or watch a movie on television that makes you laugh. You will soon find yourself immersed and not thinking negative thoughts.
Correct your way of thinking. If gloomy thoughts enter your mind, switch them to thinking of good things. Don't allow negative thoughts to permeate your psyche. We control our mind and have the ability to change what we allow into our imagination or thoughts.
Listen to cheery music. No hard, head-banging, metal music, but something that is light and cheery. Music is also known to pull up negative moods.
While listening to your music, jump up and clean your house. Movement throughout the day will get your mood up and you will also feel much better when the house is clean! Don't tell yourself you hate cleaning and dread each moment you are dusting or vacuuming, but look at it as you are feeling good because things are getting done!
We have control over our brains, not the other way around. By controlling the outlook of things to come, good things, we can produce positive thought patterns and we will then raise our moods. Sit in a room alone with candles lit and let your mind go. Imagination a beautiful place, whether it is on a beach with crystal clear water or in a cave with millions of crystals reflecting light back at you, let your mind go. Control your thoughts and bring yourself back to that place if negative patterns get in the way.
Picture yourself surrounded by these brightly colored light rays. Bask in them. Appreciate them. Allow them to flow through your body and mind, cleansing all the negative and dark thoughts waves out of your head, into the atmosphere around you where they disappear into thin air.
This form of meditation is an absolute must if one is to keep in positive thoughts. Over a period of time while using this meditative form of therapy, you will find your thoughts will flow in a positive pattern rather than a negative one.
Monday, November 15, 2010
By Angelene O'Reilly
This is a great way to describe the extra effort we have to use when we take the easy road. Imagine you have a seed to grow a vegetable, you just want to get the end result which is eating your own fresh vegetable. In your mind you have gone over the process of what it will take to get the seed to the stage of being a ripe tasty vegetable.
It seemed an easy process until you got started, you start preparing the soil so it is the right quality for your vegetable to grow, then you start to feel anxious about how long it is taking to achieve your results. So you move on without worrying about the quality of the soil and just put the seed in any old way.
Each day you check to see the progress and give it a bit of water, in the back of your mind you do have a little doubt. This is because you know you have taken the easy road, but still you water it and hope you can reap some kind a reward for very little effort. As the time passes you see the little sprout turn into a plant, then into a plant with some vegetables forming, you get excited and think yes it worked this is great. Each day it begins to grow and ripen, then the day comes for you to pick it.
You pick the vegetable and hold it in your hand so excited to see how great it tastes, so off you go into the kitchen with a little bounce in your step. You prepare it just how you like it, now is time for the taste test.
You take a bite and almost gag as the taste is so bitter. Why is this so? Well the short cuts you took have ended up being obvious with the end product as the vegetable was not grown int he right conditions. So guess what, back to the begin all of again, this time you know you can not take the easy road as it has not worked and has made more work for you then you would of had in the begin.
It is exactly the same when we apply the easy road to anything in our lives, the anxiety we feel at the beginning tricks us into thinking there is an easy option. Don't be fooled as when ever we want to achieve a good result with anything the easy road does not work and will actually be the hardest in the long run.
Saturday, November 13, 2010
By Ama Bartimeus
In the current economic climate, many people, young and old, are seeking avenues to enable them improve their personal finances and create wealth for the future. The cuts in spending and budgetary allocations as a result of the recession have spread like wildfire across governments all over the world. Securing the future has never meant so much to people than it does now. There is a new sense of urgency for people to take financial control of their lives and position themselves to be financially free and create wealth. In this new quest for financial freedom, there are lots of challenges that both young and old are faced with. It is important to be aware of these challenges, know how to deal with them and ensure that your financial situation does not get any worse than it was when you started the journey; and that any decision and action you take lead you a step closer to your financial goals and dreams.
1. Free Seminars: There are a lot of free seminars aimed at people hungry to change their financial situation and looking for solutions to their financial predicament. Most of these seminars give very good value for time but it is important to know that there are a lot of training programs and products which are sold as a complement to these seminars. While these may be very good programs to guide you along the way, they normally take you by surprise and there is the likelihood of buying even when you are trying to figure out how to get out of debt. To make things worse, some of these products and services are way too expensive for most people to afford. Your decision to buy any of such products, especially if your financial situation is already in a bad shape, should be based purely on the return on investment for the product or service and how long it takes, in your own estimation, to recoup the costs. Make sure the benefits far outweigh the costs and that you are not putting yourself further and further into debt. Remember that a lot of good debt can be as bad for you as bad debt.
2. Preparation: Plan your finances in advance. Avoid making impulsive buys. Give yourself time to reflect before making big financial commitments. Remember the whole point is to get out of debt, take control of your finances and start living better than you were before not worse. It may be good for you to start looking for those educational products that are not too expensive but which equally give you good value for money. Books and CDs can be purchased at reasonable prices and these can help start you on the journey for wealth. One thing to note is that when you start this very exciting journey, the key thing you need is an understanding of the options available as well as a shift in your mindset - the shift that give you the confidence to take required actions and keep you focused. Don't start with the big things. Prepare yourself mentally and psychologically by reading or listening to motivational and educational books till you are ready to start playing the big games. Remember that luck happens when preparation meets opportunity.
3. Personal Financial Management: I cannot stress enough the importance of getting out of debt and getting your sanity back, of focusing adequately on exploiting the opportunities and wealth creation strategies that you find on your journey to financial freedom, instead of worrying about your finances. Stop buying on credit. Don't buy if you cannot afford it. Learn to simplify your life to enable you take control of your finances. Don't live above your means for the next couple of months or even years if you are serious about creating sustainable wealth. Remember that if you are faithful and prudent with little, you acquire the skills to manage much. The more skilled you are at managing your finances, the more resources will be put in your hands to manage.
4. The Right Strategies at the Right time: It is important to choose the right strategies at the right time, that is, when you are adequately prepared and your mind is set to pursue that course of action. Many times, very good strategies fail because of bad timing. How much time and effort you need to put into the strategies being considered? Does your current schedule give you enough flexibility to take on time-consuming ventures? If you have a job, how would that impact on the initiatives you start? How can you manage your time wisely to enable you devote enough time to working on your strategies? These are important questions to consider when considering following particular wealth creation strategies.
5. Finally... Big seminars will give you inspiration but they may not be the answer when what you need is step by step support, encouragement and motivation to enable you hit the ground running with your new strategy. They are also time-consuming and may have the effect of shifting your focus. Once you are clear about your strategy, find tailor-made step by step services that will help you grow to the point where you can make the time and money to spend on inspirational activities The quest for financial freedom is a noble one. You only need to plan carefully and make sure you are aware of some of the hurdles along the way. If a better financial situation enables you to impact the life of even one person, it will be a great achievement. With time there will be a multiplier effect.
Friday, November 12, 2010
By Hannah Samuel
"How can I be responsible for what someone else expects of me?" you may ask. Well, managing expectations is a two-way process, and if you don't influence those expectations, and negotiate an outcome that works for both of you, you're partly responsible for what they may think or assume.
One of the biggest problems of expectations is they are completely subjective. One person's perception of 'friendly' or 'speedy' might be quite different to someone else and unless we have similar expectations to those we are dealing with we run the risk of being unfairly judged and have our reputation put at risk. The good news is that managing expectations is relatively straight-forward and can help us enhance our reputation and build trust in the process.
Make checking expectations a priority. Avoid making assumptions based other people or past experiences. Instead check what their expectations may be as this will give you facts to work from, help you negotiate more effectively and show you genuinely care about achieving a positive outcome.
Clarify current expectations. Ask open questions (who, what, when, where, why and how) to gain information about their current expectations. The answers will help you prioritise what may be most important to both you and them, and give you an opportunity to let them know about possible constraints you may face that they may be unaware of.
Be realistic. Over-promising and under-delivering is one of the biggest reputation-damagers there is. If you know you're not going to be able to meet their expectations let them know and if possible recommend someone who can. You'll maintain your reputation and earn plenty of 'goodwill' points in the process.
Reach agreement. Whether written or verbal, make sure you reach agreement about expectations on both sides before parting company. If mini-agreements are needed to help achieve a final outcome make sure you can deliver on each of these in their own right.
Taking an active role in managing expectations is essential to long-term personal, business and reputation success. The first promises we need to keep are to ourselves, then to those we give our word to. Now that's a great expectation worth having.
Thursday, November 11, 2010
By David Writer
Mahatma Gandhi was a unique individual. If you read up some Gandhi famous quotes what will strike you is an amazing and unnatural depth in leadership styles in management of a nation's mindset.
Truly, management is completely different from leadership. Like opposite ends of a coin. While Gandhi might have been 'managing' the Indian freedom movement with a troop of comrades on clockwork precision, he was actually leading a change of mindset that effected change in everyone who participated with him.
Leadership is about casting a vision and allowing it to seep into others so they follow the lead. Management is about dealing with situations such that results become tangible. You can manage people but that will only be because you have the authority to do so bestowed upon you. But you can lead from anywhere, by example, so that your influence infects others and regardless of your position or authority, they follow what you say.
Gandhi said "We must be the change we want to see in the world." This is a powerful quote. This is one of the leadership styles in management that encourages people to 'self-manage' themselves. He also said, "A small body of determined spirits fired by an unquenchable faith in their mission can alter the course of history." And he did that too.
Leadership is best by example. Do what you say in such a way that others can do it too. Management is best an expertise. Do what others cannot so you gain authority over them.
So, to be a good leader you need to be very skillful to construct bridges of empathy with people. Else you will never be in their shoes and they will not follow... because you don't know them and they can feel it.
This is also why most people find it easier to be managers. Management can be taught. Leadership must be cultivated. Mahatma Gandhi was a leader who kept working on himself till he became the man worthy of gaining a country's following.
He took a stand on issues. He said, "A 'No' uttered from the deepest conviction is better than a 'Yes' merely uttered to please, or worse, to avoid trouble." A manager would try to please in order to diffuse a situation. A leader will not worry about creating a situation.
So the leadership styles in management that we see with Gandhi famous quotes are distinctively what anyone can evolve into being. Provided one wants to. He did. And look where it took him!
Wednesday, November 10, 2010
By Ramir Sarmiento
As I was walking down the street, I catch myself staring at a beautiful lady. She looks so nice and clever wearing nice outfit with expensive bag on her shoulder. I wonder how the lady looks after her life. Maybe she has this thinking of, I got everything I want. The good looks, well-shaped body and I even have with me all the expensive stuffs a woman craves for!
What else can I ask for? Then suddenly I appeared like timid but I quickly get this thinking knock off while uttering these words, No, no, no...I started to get jealous again. Why do I always fall for that thoughts? - my dear friend shared me a long while ago. She actually has this inferiority complex because of her appearance as to what she think is not pleasant for others to see - a fat body.
All of us certainly have this, what you called insecurities in life. Me, you and maybe your friends and relatives have our own pessimistic respond to a certain thing or things in our lives that don't have a good catch.
Physical features, wealth, way of thinking and maybe how a dress should fit one's body - all these are the main reasons why some people would prefer to consult a skin doctor, buy supplementary capsules and spend lots of money just trying to fit themselves in a more satisfying approach.
But believe it or not, self- fulfillment cannot actually be found in these transformations because the mere fact that no one and definitely not even the most beautiful woman in the world are perfect! Everybody has flaws, which each of us is trying to get resolved hence others would admire us in a way that we want.
However if you find yourself drawing out your closet, looking for a dress to wear, running out for a face revamp schedule, then I'll tell you, you're the worst and undeniably the first who criticize yourself!
Get yourself fixed up! Not what you think a "face-lift" but I'm pertaining to your way of thinking. Change your attitude and the way you respond to what your mind is persisting you. So what if you have that feature?
Don't you know that somebody wants to be like you, I mean because you have other attributes that cause others to admire you? You don't have to think as if you're on other's shoe, cause you may not know it but others might want to be on your shoe as well.
We must the first one to love and respect ourselves! Learn to stand out and face the crowd driven with a positive viewpoint. This will help improved your self-esteem and developed your way of living. If you are motivated with encouraging mind setting, then you'll be able to leave the dark shadow you're hiding with.
Accept yourself for who you are and for what you are made of. In this way, you'll find the true contentment in life. Leave your discouraging moments by getting yourself busy in doing things and habitual practices. Learn to make friends and develop circle of acquaintances. You'll see the development in you.
Positive thinking can cause you to attract and can even give inspiration to others while negative can make you lost even your one true friend. Optimism can raise your esteem and may cause others to respect you as well while pessimism can destruct a good relationship. Being positive avoids failure while negative delays success.
You see negative views bring a whole lot of destruction to you and to your whole life.
As a friend who suffered from such inferiority complex before, I gladly advise you to fight what's not good on your mind and take a step ahead. You have more reasons to spend your life with.
You have a good job, a loving family and a beautiful life to live with. Never mess up your life with just a simple way of thinking. You'll never know but there's a great future awaiting you. You just have to believe your worth as a wonderful creation.
Tuesday, November 9, 2010
By Liv Senstad
Everyone starting an internet business has a dream about success.
By following these three marketing steps you are well on your way.
1. Learning how to market your business.
The first thing you of course have to do is creating a website and a sales funnel- -but for your success you want people to get to your website- -and that might be a bit tricky.
There are multiple ways of driving traffic to your site but you should choose one- -maybe two methods to start with- -focus on these- -become a real expert buy reading, studying and copying those already having success- -learn perfection!
2. Learning how to monetize your list.
Now you've got traffic to your site and a lot of leads- -then you want to sell.
Copywriting is one thing you- -as an internet marketer- -have to learn and get used to if you want to succeed.
You can outsource a lot and get help to do your writing, but even though it will be important that you learn how to present different offers to your list. These skills you will use in your emails, on your websites, blogs etc.
It means also you have to learn about sales psychology to be able to know what triggers you have to push to get your prospects to buy.
3. What you also need to learn is personal development and posture.
You must learn how to think, speak and act like a leader because that is going to come across to your prospects. If they don't feel and accept you as a leader they won't want to join you or buy from you.
In both your emails and on the phone you have to show them that you can solve their problems and help them reach their goals.
This is all so simple but maybe not so easy if it is all new to you. We all know that starting something new might be hard but everything can be learned- -and then it is easy.
If you learn and follow these three internet marketing steps you will be well on your way to victory.
Monday, November 8, 2010
By Belsheba Nyabwa
Reading a life quote is not enough but doing something about it can truly change one's life. There are so many issues of life that still confounds man. In this world, there are many changes that occur in one's life and one has to learn to cope with them. One who is enduring and open to new opportunity will thrive at the expense of the one who is weak and pusillanimous.
A life quote from Robert Frost states too well: "The world is full of willing people, some willing to work, the rest willing to let them."
Life is difficult and there are endless challenges thus the life quote "Survival for the fittest". If you are willing work, it is another story. Always be on the watch for an opportunity to seize it. The most interesting thing I ever learnt was that a problem is a sweet fruit with a bitter skin. One must seek the good part of everything that happens around him/her even if it means risking. After all if you do not risk anything, you risk even more.
A life quote from Thomas Paine states: "I love the man who can smile from distress and grow brave by reflection. He will pursue his principles unto death." A man's success is not measured by accolades but rather by the hardships he encountered and how he tackled them. Experience is not what happens to you but what you do with it.
When you are faces with obstacles of life remember, where it may seem like it is the end may also be the only beginning. Take your chance well and always focus on the goodness of what life has to offer. Freedom has nothing to do with your current circumstances but your trust in life. This life quote defines it all so well, "When nothing is sure, everything is possible."
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Thursday, November 4, 2010
By WL Reidhead
Have you ever felt like your life was a movie and you were the star? I believe we all have; at one time or another! The thing we need to realize is our life is like a movie and it is up to us to decide whether it is a comedy, a tragedy or an inspirational triumphant block buster!
We are the stars, the producer, the writer and director of the movie of our lives. Only we have the power of the direction that we want to take our production. Do you not think that we should take some serious thought about how we want the story to turn out?
The comparison of a movie and our life is not too far out because our lives are like a movie and can be either a success or a failure. Since we are the writer; we need to do some serious thinking about the plot and the adventure! Of course; this takes some time, research, dreaming and planning.
What do you imagine the star to be like; what kind of character? Is the star going to be suave, cool or a bum? You have the power to make your star any kind of person your want.
A fun exercise is to imagine the star of your dreams and then think of all the attributes and characteristic your star has. Then think of what your star had to do to become that character. By taking the time to analyze your character; you can find what would take to become like the star of your dreams.
Why not set a goal to become like the star of your dreams?
After you have analyzed all the attributes; do the research to find how you can obtain those same qualities. Begin taking steps to become like your dream star; layout a step by step plan to become that person. With a little time and effort you can work your way to obtain the characteristics of your model star.
Do not lose your own identity but learn and emulate the good qualities that you want to obtain!
Once you start becoming the star that you have imagined; then you can incorporate that into your script and begin planning the next chapter of your story.
Using this exercise you can continue with each part of your life and by doing some planning, dreaming and research you can write every phase of how you want your life story to continue for the rest of your life.
Wednesday, November 3, 2010
By Carla Jiroux Kaplan
Having trouble achieving your goals? Think positively. People who think positively are more focused on their strengths. This makes it easier for them to work out their direction and at the same time, drum up the motivation to make the best use of their time. Here are some positive thinking tips to help you become more focused, productive, and happy.
1. Be Grateful - Take a few minutes of each day to think of all the good things that are in your life. Gratitude calms the mind. It also shows you just what you are capable of doing, to make your dreams come true.
2. Be Optimistic - Are you in the habit of saying "I'm doomed" or "I'm done for"? Do you see problems as personal, permanent, and pervasive? If so, stop. Do not believe the worse of situations. Be optimistic. When you believe you can do anything, you really can. Such is the power of optimism.
3. Persist - Are things not working out the way you want them to? Don't give up. Rather, persist. Dust yourself, and start all over again. Remember that difficulties exist not to keep you away from your goal. It exists to keep away those who are not serious about reaching their goals. So, don't quit. If at first you don't succeed, try again and keep on trying.
4. Laugh - Do you know that simply anticipating a funny, happy event is enough to raise your pleasure-inducing hormones and lower your stress hormones? Make it a habit to laugh more and laugh out loud. Even if you don't feel like laughing, do so. You'll be surprised at how much better this makes you feel.
There are only a few positive thinking tips to help you become the best you. Use them well. Good luck!
Tuesday, November 2, 2010
By Heather Matthews
The rediscovery of the ancient eastern art of meditation has made it possible for people to improve their personal lives by just sitting for a few hours each day to reach their inner selves and find peace from within. It is the best and most successful way of finding a real change in life.
Meditation can make you improve self image and that means how you regard yourself. A positive self image will also enable you to have self confidence and improvement in the way you communicate with the rest of the people around.
Continuous meditation will make you rid yourself of most bad thoughts which would otherwise succeed in making you feel miserable. It also helps you to reach into your inner spirit.
Having a very low self esteem will lead to you suffering inferiority complex which also makes a person thing they cannot make it in life. It is the kind of mindset that breeds failure. Taking the meditation exercises seriously will really help you to improve your image and self confidence; thus leading you to be a success. Just doing your meditation twice a day will give you inner peace and greater confidence.
Of course everyone knows what high self worth can do to a person. It makes him a go getter and high achiever.
You would be able to interact with people more freely without any inhibitions or shyness. They would stand on their own feet without needing to lean on people.
If at all they used to pretend to be quite collected, that is what they will start feeling for real after some couple of months of faithfully going through each day´s 30 minutes meditation. This will all be as a result of their newfound inner peace that gives them greater confidence. They will be facing life more assertively and with more purpose to be successful in life.