Friday, October 29, 2010

How to Develop a Sales Culture

By Tim I Millett

If you want your sales to increase then all you need to do is introduce training programs to develop a sales culture! There are two intrinsic mistakes in the above statement. Firstly, it is believing that sales training is the only thing that will produce sales results. And secondly, it is believing that somehow training alone will create any kind of culture.

The truth of the matter is that training is indispensable in supporting a successful sales culture, but it cannot succeed in isolation.

Let's look at the first of these assumptions. Coming home from a shopping expedition, whether it is to buy shoes or a golf club, what would you tell your partner - "Look at the shoes/golf club I just bought" or "Look at the shoes/golf club I was just sold"? Like most of us, you would choose the first as, from your perspective as a customer, you have been doing the buying. That is what customers do.......they buy from us, and all too often we don't acknowledge that and only approach the sale from how we sell to them.

One of the biggest mistakes we can make in sales is to ignore the opportunities we have to make our customers feel comfortable in buying from us through the many layers of service that we provide - before, during and after the sale. And not just service provided by the sales department, but by every level of the organisation, whether or not they have any direct contact with the customer.

It does not matter how often we say as part of our service "credo" that we care, that we are professional, that our customers can rely on us. Our customers won't believe us until we show them that we care through the relationship that we build with them and the personalised service we provide; that we are professional through the absence of mistakes and our attention to detail; or that we are reliable through our prompt follow up and our pro-active approach to problems.

If our customers don't feel comfortable in buying from us, then they will buy from someone else. It's as simple as that!

And now to culture. People often comment "you can't teach attitude". And, coming from both a service and a training background, I agree.......however I firmly believe that you can develop attitude and a commitment to excellence. As Aristotle said "We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit." And it requires a lot more than just training to develop that attitude - it needs a corporate culture that unashamedly values the attitude you are trying to create. No organisation can train for every service eventuality, but it can strive to create an environment where its people feel empowered to provide the kinds of service and treating their customers as they would like to be treated.

The single most important skill in bringing that value to life lies in developing a culture that clearly indicates what behaviours are important to you - from the top all the way through the organisation. Because if the people at the top don't show what cultural elements are important to them, then these will never be important to the people further down the organisation.

So if you want to create a culture where the customer buying experience is exceptional, then it can't start on the shop floor. It has to start with the culture created by the team in the boardroom that values such attitudes.

The sort of behaviours that will support this cultural development include the reinforcement and celebration of desired actions and activities, as well as directly addressing those actions and activities that undermine the cultural integrity of the organisation.

Which brings us back to training. And one of the ways that the organisation can show that they are committed to a customer centric environment that supports outstanding experiences in the buying process, is to introduce training programs that are more than just about closing skills and objections handling. Indeed they must also address the environment and motivation behind these actions. These will be needed to lay the foundations, deliver the skills and help to develop the attitudes that will support such an environment.

But the training will be just a part of the solution - not the entire solution!

Thursday, October 28, 2010

Creative Invention Ideas

By Kenneth Meyers

Invention Ideas

There is no question that life is filled with obstacles, but it is also filled with inspiration. Every day your brain comes up with ideas and solutions to the problems you face. Your mind just keeps on flowing. It can't help itself, that is how you were made.

The big question is what do you do with those ideas? You must realise because of your uniqueness you ideas are important.

So what can we do about these invention ideas that run around in our brain?

The first thing to realise and to do is to stop wasting your creativity.

To flesh out your invention ideas you need a plan of action. You need to set aside thinking time at least twice a week, more if you can. At first this will seem difficult and like a waste of time. But stick with it, discipline yourself. Soon you will find they ideas begin to flow, first a trickle, then a river and then a torrent, so much so that you will find the time you have set aside will not be long enough.

Write down your invention ideas, this is important. Then spend time developing your ideas. Writing everything down.

In the beginning you will have to concentrate on not letting your mind wander and to stick to the task of coming up with invention ideas.

In closing as a matter of interest, there are companies that employ people just to think, to come up with ideas for the company. There are instances where the invention ideas of these employees have made and or saved the company a lot of money

Keep on thinking

It is said that necessity is the mother of invention. Now while this may be true to some extent many inventions are just the result of creative people doing what they do beat, creating

Wednesday, October 27, 2010

Empowerment Can Turn Your Weaknesses Into Strengths

By Yu Zhen Ng

What is empowerment? Well, empowerment is defined as increasing the spiritual, political, social, or economic strength of individuals and communities. Empowerment often involves the empowered individual developing confidence in their own capacities. To quote Abraham Lincoln, he said, "Whatever you are, be a good one." But how do you become good at what you do? How do you increase confidence in what you can do? How do you become empowered? Here are some tips:

1. Tell yourself positive things.

Each person has a positive and negative aspect in themselves and sometimes, when you are with a lot of people you only want to highlight the positive aspects. But when you are alone in your room, all you see are your flaws, and you talk to yourself about how dumb you are and or how useless and pathetic you are. That is not going to do you good. You only put yourself down. Your piercing words are as good as someone's insult on you. Your mind is like a computer. If you input negativity, your output is negative too. Thus, say nice things to yourself. Give yourself a pat on the back for a job well done no matter how small it is.

2. Get your goals clearly set.

You say you want get the best of what you are. Then right now, you must have a clear mindset of what your goals are. It is not enough to just say, "I will be successful in the future." You must climb your way to success. First you must know whether your goal will be worth the effort. Next, eliminate all the things that will keep you from reaching your goals whether it is a bad habit or a negative experience, etc. Lastly, post encouraging quotes on your wall, so every time you feel knocked down, you can read things that fuel up your mind.

3. Practice Makes Perfect.

Yes. It may sound like a cliché but it is in fact right. If you want to be good at something then practice. If you have poor math skills then try to compensate by practicing during your free time. Just like in life, the more you make the same mistake over and over again, in the future, it should not happen once more because if it did, then it means that you did not learn your lesson and you should practice until you master the art of overcoming that obstacle.

4. Speak your mind and take action.

This may sound a bit absurd to many who say that one should be tactful wherever he or she may go. Well, being tactless is different from speaking your mind. Of course, you should say things respectfully at the right time. When you speak your mind, it is when you felt that your rights have been stepped upon and you want to make the oppressor understand that it does not please you. Learning to speak your mind can lead you somewhere. Take action. If you see others are not doing anything to make a difference, be a good example. This is one way to hone your empowerment skills.

5. Open your mind.

The more you clam up, the more you learn nothing. It is through open channels of communication that people can actually understand each other. According to Confucius, "Do unto others, what you want others to do unto you." In this way, if you want people to listen to you, try to listen to them too.

Tuesday, October 26, 2010

What Is Your WHY for Getting Organized?

By Martha Clouse

In case you haven't guessed by now, organizing is not an end in itself. There is always a "WHY?" that must be in place. Who wants to even get started on this thankless job otherwise? (Besides the organizer who loves it!)

Fill in the blanks to find your WHY.

I want/need to organize my _______________________ so I can _________________________.

These are compelling reasons to organize as expressed by my clients:

... home office, so I can attract and keep more clients
... closet, so I can get dressed quickly and get to work on time feeling confident
... kitchen command center, so I can better keep track of my family's activities
basement, so I can get rid of non-essentials and quickly access what I have stored there

Think of the pain that your disorganization is causing. Then imagine what your space would be like if you could have your ideal solution come true. How would that solution make a difference in your life? THAT is your WHY!

Only when your WHY is big enough will you take action. The most common results that will stir folks to action are:

*Save time

*Benefit my family

*Save money

*Be more productive with less effort

*Avoid physical pain, be more healthy

*Gain emotional freedom

The best part when someone figures out their WHY and is ready to take action is that I get to help - with written encouragement, group support classes, show-you-how eBooks, and 1-on-1 organizing sessions. Gotta love this job!

When you know your WHY, the pieces fall into place and you will move forward with purpose and resolve

Monday, October 25, 2010

4 Steps to Making the Impossible Possible

By Molesey Knox-Brunson

Your mindset is the battery that powers your life. You can't think ordinary thoughts and expect to have an extraordinary existence. Success takes shape in the mind first, so it's important to elevate your mind above the base level of thinking.

Incredible feats will only be impossible to you if you believe they are! I call this the "Wile E. Coyote Factor". This Looney Tunes character, well-known for his relentless pursuit of the Road Runner, is so intent on catching his prey that at times he runs completely off a cliff into thin air. Wile E. Coyote is just fine until he realizes that it's impossible to walk on air, then he falls. The lesson here is that you will always achieve what you believe you can...just don't look down!

So, here are 4 steps to making the "impossible" possible:

1. Set your mind to G.R.E.A.T.ness. Sometimes in our lives we are unable to move forward because we are trying to do new things with an old mentality. We are trying to pour new wine into old wineskins (Mark 2:22). But greatness is a mind set, happiness is a mindset, health is a mindset, wealth is a mindset. In other words, get your mind right. How you think will determine who and what you shall become. Set your mind on being G.R.E.A.T.!

2. Create a "new normal". Living a G.R.E.A.T. life is when you make the uncommon common and when the supernatural becomes a natural occurrence. Train your mind to believe that it is strange to live an unfulfilled life. Get to the point where you are unable to comprehend living beneath your potential. Believe that there is only one way to live, and that's successful and on your own terms.

3. Conjure up a visual image. "Out of sight, out of mind" is a common and true belief. However, "out of mind, out of sight" is more accurate. If there are things in your life that are absent, then develop a consciousness of what it looks like. For example, if you want to be wealthy, observe wealthy people. Ask yourself: How does a wealthy person spend their time? How do they think? What do they do for a living? Where do they go for entertainment? Gather information to create a complete picture in your mind of a wealthy lifestyle. Then begin to align your actions, attitudes, and habits with that visual image.

4. Take action. Once you have a clear mental picture of what you want, begin to align your actions, attitudes, and habits with that visual image. Practice the impossible! Like "Wile E. Coyote" be sure of your vision and clear in your intentions, and keep on running. Turn away from information that attempts to verify that what you are trying to achieve is impossible and abnormal. Set your intention high and don't look down!

If you understand the Universal Law of cause and effect, you can create an image of what you want in your mind. If you can build it in the spiritual world (cause), you can have it in the physical world (effect). There are absolutely no limitations! A G.R.E.A.T. person makes the impossible possible.

Saturday, October 23, 2010

Don't Say Don't: How to Make the Law of Attraction Work For You

By Charles G Boyer

DON'T think about the Statue of Liberty!

Now tell me - what was the first image that popped into your head? My guess is that you pictured the Statue of Liberty in your mind's eye, even though the first word you read was "don't."

Our minds have a peculiar way of filtering out what information we receive, and in this case, the suggestion to think about an image of the Statue of Liberty was a lot stronger than the "don't" message.

Just like a kid. What happens when Mom yells out, "Don't slam the door!" What do you think the kid hears? The "don't" doesn't seem to register as much as "slam the door!" - and you can guess the outcome, if you haven't already experienced it firsthand.

What about this one: Don't forget to take out the trash! What is left when you filter out the don't? Of course - forget to take out the trash. Or: Don't be late. And what's left? Be late!

Emphasizing what not to do seems to be a widespread practice. How many times does a teacher, parent, or supervisor say, "Don't do that," and then wonder why their message seems to fall on deaf ears.

There is something strange going on here - and it's that negatives don't really work as well as positives. Did you notice the trap I just walked into? "Negatives don't work." It's really a double negative, and the truth is that negatives do work. They work against us, and they reinforce the negative. Our minds really do internalize the signals sent by "don't, not, no," especially when the negative is directed back to us. When a child repeatedly hears, "You can't do that," the child begins to believe he/she is not capable of doing whatever "that" is. When we tell ourselves that we can't do something, we begin to believe that is true, that we are incapable of that accomplishment.

How can you turn the negative into a positive? Turn it around: What are you FOR? What DO you like? What DO you most want to happen? What if you tell yourself that you can do something? Stated very simply, the Law of Attraction teaches us that we tend to attract what we focus on. If you want to attract positive energy, you must think positive thoughts and practice positive actions and self-talk.

Why spend time and energy describing what you don't want or don't have? Many of us are pretty good at it. What that does is attract to you what you don't want. Turn that negative into a positive and say what you do want. Take note of the difference you feel in your energy, in your attitude, and in the results you get. It takes time and practice, but the Law of Attraction does work!

Turn the negative into a positive, and notice the difference: · "Don't slam the door!" can become "Please close the door quietly."

· "Don't slouch" can become "Sit up straight."
· "I can't do that, because..." can become "I can do that, and I will."

Do you see the difference in print? Do you feel a difference when you read the positive statement out loud?

Here's something you can practice on your own with a sheet of paper:

· Write down one negative statement, and then ask yourself how you can turn that negative into a positive statement.
· Re-write the negative statement as a positive one. · Then, focus your attention only on the positive statement.
· As you read the positive statement - out loud - what differences do you notice in your energy, in your attitude, in your outlook?
· Say - out loud - your positive statement three times a day for three weeks and notice any differences you feel. Yes, it does take that long to get a new, positive habit started.

Friday, October 22, 2010

Meditation Tips - Am I Doing It Wrong? 3 Common Distractions

By AM Howe

When first starting out, meditation can feel a lot like listening to a radio station you can't quite tune in. It can be just like a bunch of static on the radio. It can also be like when somebody is hogging the remote control and flipping the channels every few seconds. That level of distraction is common, especially as you begin a new practice. When all of that is going on in, we often wonder "How do I know if I'm doing it right?"

These are a few common distractions that we all have to deal with at some point as we apply ourselves to silence and to stillness. Some days the diversions are never ending. The most common and most trivial side effects include:

Mind chatter

Physical discomfort

What time is it? How long have I been doing this?

No Right or Wrong Way First of all, we defeat ourselves if we assume there is a wrong way to do it. You will indeed improve as you continue to sit, to breathe, to return to the center. It is called a meditation practice for a reason-it takes practice. With time and repetition, it becomes more fluid, more natural. Depending on how attached you are to the distractions, it might feel awkward for awhile. Whenever we run up against a wall as we meditate it is important to understand there is no right or wrong way.

Why do we meditate? One of the core reasons a person meditates is to get to know their mind and to develop and accept compassion. Most of us do not realize in the early stages of our practice that the compassion must begin with ourselves. If you cannot have compassion for your own mind, how will you ever develop it for another's?

Thursday, October 21, 2010

Why Your Ego Can Keep You From Achieving Your Dreams and Reaching Your Goals

By Sam Obitz

Vision is one of the most underrated traits in sports, as well as in life and business. I do not just mean your eyesight when I speak of vision (although that is hugely important as well) I mean the vision in your mind.

When our ego gets out of control it works like blinders that stand in the way of our seeing what we need to see. Imagine a quarterback that has blinders on which block his peripheral vision. Will he see the field better or worse? Will he make more or less plays? Will he get sacked more or less often? The answers to all of the above are obvious. Blinders inhibit our personal learning and growth. Yet many players/people never reach their true potential because they get in their own way and block their own progress in this way. They are no different than the teenager who "knows all there is to know" already. Unfortunately, the player or person that let's this happen has to learn the hard way and unlike the teenager they do not have their whole life in front of them to recover from this avoidable mistake. Sadly most players and people that get to this point do not recover and have no one but themselves to blame.

Athletes and people that I have worked with who have let their ego get out of control are usually so blinded that when I describe this problem to them, they have no idea I am talking about them personally. In fact most of them respond by saying "I know people just like that," proving beyond any doubt that they have completely lost rational sight of themselves. Keeping your ego in check is vital to your progress regardless of what sport or field you are working in and having the proper mental attitude and tools will help you keep your ego in check.

Wednesday, October 20, 2010



Difficulty walking, blurred vision, slurred speech, slowed reaction times, impaired memory: Clearly, alcohol affects the brain. Some of these impairments are detectable after only one or two drinks and quickly resolve when drinking stops. On the other hand, a person who drinks heavily over a long period of time may have brain deficits that persist well after he or she achieves sobriety. Exactly how alcohol affects the brain and the likelihood of reversing the impact of heavy drinking on the brain remain hot topics in alcohol research today.

We do know that heavy drinking may have extensive and far–reaching effects on the brain, ranging from simple “slips” in memory to permanent and debilitating conditions that require lifetime custodial care. And even moderate drinking leads to short–term impairment, as shown by extensive research on the impact of drinking on driving.

A number of factors influence how and to what extent alcohol affects the brain (1), including

•how much and how often a person drinks;
•the age at which he or she first began drinking, and how long he or she has been drinking;
•the person’s age, level of education, gender, genetic background, and family history of alcoholism;
•whether he or she is at risk as a result of prenatal alcohol exposure; and
•his or her general health status.
This Alcohol Alert reviews some common disorders associated with alcohol–related brain damage and the people at greatest risk for impairment. It looks at traditional as well as emerging therapies for the treatment and prevention of alcohol–related disorders and includes a brief look at the high–tech tools that are helping scientists to better understand the effects of alcohol on the brain.


Alcohol can produce detectable impairments in memory after only a few drinks and, as the amount of alcohol increases, so does the degree of impairment. Large quantities of alcohol, especially when consumed quickly and on an empty stomach, can produce a blackout, or an interval of time for which the intoxicated person cannot recall key details of events, or even entire events.

Blackouts are much more common among social drinkers than previously assumed and should be viewed as a potential consequence of acute intoxication regardless of age or whether the drinker is clinically dependent on alcohol (2). White and colleagues (3) surveyed 772 college undergraduates about their experiences with blackouts and asked, “Have you ever awoken after a night of drinking not able to remember things that you did or places that you went?” Of the students who had ever consumed alcohol, 51 percent reported blacking out at some point in their lives, and 40 percent reported experiencing a blackout in the year before the survey. Of those who reported drinking in the 2 weeks before the survey, 9.4 percent said they blacked out during that time. The students reported learning later that they had participated in a wide range of potentially dangerous events they could not remember, including vandalism, unprotected sex, and driving.

Equal numbers of men and women reported experiencing blackouts, despite the fact that the men drank significantly more often and more heavily than the women. This outcome suggests that regardless of the amount of alcohol consumption, females—a group infrequently studied in the literature on blackouts—are at greater risk than males for experiencing blackouts. A woman’s tendency to black out more easily probably results from differences in how men and women metabolize alcohol. Females also may be more susceptible than males to milder forms of alcohol–induced memory impairments, even when men and women consume comparable amounts of alcohol (4).


Women are more vulnerable than men to many of the medical consequences of alcohol use. For example, alcoholic women develop cirrhosis (5), alcohol–induced damage of the heart muscle (i.e., cardiomyopathy) (6), and nerve damage (i.e., peripheral neuropathy) (7) after fewer years of heavy drinking than do alcoholic men. Studies comparing men and women’s sensitivity to alcohol–induced brain damage, however, have not been as conclusive.

Using imaging with computerized tomography, two studies (8,9) compared brain shrinkage, a common indicator of brain damage, in alcoholic men and women and reported that male and female alcoholics both showed significantly greater brain shrinkage than control subjects. Studies also showed that both men and women have similar learning and memory problems as a result of heavy drinking (10). The difference is that alcoholic women reported that they had been drinking excessively for only about half as long as the alcoholic men in these studies. This indicates that women’s brains, like their other organs, are more vulnerable to alcohol–induced damage than men’s (11).

Yet other studies have not shown such definitive findings. In fact, two reports appearing side by side in the American Journal of Psychiatry contradicted each other on the question of gender–related vulnerability to brain shrinkage in alcoholism (12,13). Clearly, more research is needed on this topic, especially because alcoholic women have received less research attention than alcoholic men despite good evidence that women may be particularly vulnerable to alcohol’s effects on many key organ systems.


People who have been drinking large amounts of alcohol for long periods of time run the risk of developing serious and persistent changes in the brain. Damage may be a result of the direct effects of alcohol on the brain or may result indirectly, from a poor general health status or from severe liver disease.

For example, thiamine deficiency is a common occurrence in people with alcoholism and results from poor overall nutrition. Thiamine, also known as vitamin B1, is an essential nutrient required by all tissues, including the brain. Thiamine is found in foods such as meat and poultry; whole grain cereals; nuts; and dried beans, peas, and soybeans. Many foods in the United States commonly are fortified with thiamine, including breads and cereals. As a result, most people consume sufficient amounts of thiamine in their diets. The typical intake for most Americans is 2 mg/day; the Recommended Daily Allowance is 1.2 mg/day for men and 1.1 mg/day for women (14).

Wernicke–Korsakoff Syndrome

Up to 80 percent of alcoholics, however, have a deficiency in thiamine (15), and some of these people will go on to develop serious brain disorders such as Wernicke–Korsakoff syndrome (WKS) (16). WKS is a disease that consists of two separate syndromes, a short–lived and severe condition called Wernicke’s encephalopathy and a long–lasting and debilitating condition known as Korsakoff’s psychosis.

The symptoms of Wernicke’s encephalopathy include mental confusion, paralysis of the nerves that move the eyes (i.e., oculomotor disturbances), and difficulty with muscle coordination. For example, patients with Wernicke’s encephalopathy may be too confused to find their way out of a room or may not even be able to walk. Many Wernicke’s encephalopathy patients, however, do not exhibit all three of these signs and symptoms, and clinicians working with alcoholics must be aware that this disorder may be present even if the patient shows only one or two of them. In fact, studies performed after death indicate that many cases of thiamine deficiency–related encephalopathy may not be diagnosed in life because not all the “classic” signs and symptoms were present or recognized.

Approximately 80 to 90 percent of alcoholics with Wernicke’s encephalopathy also develop Korsakoff’s psychosis, a chronic and debilitating syndrome characterized by persistent learning and memory problems. Patients with Korsakoff’s psychosis are forgetful and quickly frustrated and have difficulty with walking and coordination (17). Although these patients have problems remembering old information (i.e., retrograde amnesia), it is their difficulty in “laying down” new information (i.e., anterograde amnesia) that is the most striking. For example, these patients can discuss in detail an event in their lives, but an hour later might not remember ever having the conversation.


The cerebellum, an area of the brain responsible for coordinating movement and perhaps even some forms of learning, appears to be particularly sensitive to the effects of thiamine deficiency and is the region most frequently damaged in association with chronic alcohol consumption. Administering thiamine helps to improve brain function, especially in patients in the early stages of WKS. When damage to the brain is more severe, the course of care shifts from treatment to providing support to the patient and his or her family (18). Custodial care may be necessary for the 25 percent of patients who have permanent brain damage and significant loss of cognitive skills (19).

Scientists believe that a genetic variation could be one explanation for why only some alcoholics with thiamine deficiency go on to develop severe conditions such as WKS, but additional studies are necessary to clarify how genetic variants might cause some people to be more vulnerable to WKS than others.


Most people realize that heavy, long–term drinking can damage the liver, the organ chiefly responsible for breaking down alcohol into harmless byproducts and clearing it from the body. But people may not be aware that prolonged liver dysfunction, such as liver cirrhosis resulting from excessive alcohol consumption, can harm the brain, leading to a serious and potentially fatal brain disorder known as hepatic encephalopathy (20).

Hepatic encephalopathy can cause changes in sleep patterns, mood, and personality; psychiatric conditions such as anxiety and depression; severe cognitive effects such as shortened attention span; and problems with coordination such as a flapping or shaking of the hands (called asterixis). In the most serious cases, patients may slip into a coma (i.e., hepatic coma), which can be fatal.

New imaging techniques have enabled researchers to study specific brain regions in patients with alcoholic liver disease, giving them a better understanding of how hepatic encephalopathy develops. These studies have confirmed that at least two toxic substances, ammonia and manganese, have a role in the development of hepatic encephalopathy. Alcohol–damaged liver cells allow excess amounts of these harmful byproducts to enter the brain, thus harming brain cells.


Physicians typically use the following strategies to prevent or treat the development of hepatic encephalopathy.

•Treatment that lowers blood ammonia concentrations, such as administering L–ornithine L–aspartate.

•Techniques such as liver–assist devices, or “artificial livers,” that clear the patients’ blood of harmful toxins. In initial studies, patients using these devices showed lower amounts of ammonia circulating in their blood, and their encephalopathy became less severe (21).

•Liver transplantation, an approach that is widely used in alcoholic cirrhotic patients with severe (i.e., end–stage) chronic liver failure. In general, implantation of a new liver results in significant improvements in cognitive function in these patients (22) and lowers their levels of ammonia and manganese (23).


Schematic drawing of the human brain, showing regions vulnerable to alcoholism-related abnormalities

Drinking during pregnancy can lead to a range of physical, learning, and behavioral effects in the developing brain, the most serious of which is a collection of symptoms known as fetal alcohol syndrome (FAS). Children with FAS may have distinct facial features (see illustration). FAS infants also are markedly smaller than average. Their brains may have less volume (i.e., microencephaly). And they may have fewer numbers of brain cells (i.e., neurons) or fewer neurons that are able to function correctly, leading to long–term problems in learning and behavior.


Scientists are investigating the use of complex motor training and medications to prevent or reverse the alcohol–related brain damage found in people prenatally exposed to alcohol (24). In a study using rats, Klintsova and colleagues (25) used an obstacle course to teach complex motor skills, and this skills training led to a re–organization in the adult rats’ brains (i.e., cerebellum), enabling them to overcome the effects of the prenatal alcohol exposure. These findings have important therapeutic implications, suggesting that complex rehabilitative motor training can improve motor performance of children, or even adults, with FAS.

Scientists also are looking at the possibility of developing medications that can help alleviate or prevent brain damage, such as that associated with FAS. Studies using animals have yielded encouraging results for treatments using antioxidant therapy and vitamin E. Other preventive therapies showing promise in animal studies include 1–octanol, which ironically is an alcohol itself. Treatment with l–octanol significantly reduced the severity of alcohol’s effects on developing mouse embryos (26). Two molecules associated with normal development (i.e., NAP and SAL) have been found to protect nerve cells against a variety of toxins in much the same way that octanol does (27). And a compound (MK–801) that blocks a key brain chemical associated with alcohol withdrawal (i.e., glutamate) also is being studied. MK–801 reversed a specific learning impairment that resulted from early postnatal alcohol exposure (28).

Though these compounds were effective in animals, the positive results cited here may or may not translate to humans. Not drinking during pregnancy is the best form of prevention; FAS remains the leading preventable birth defect in the United States today.

Children with fetal alcohol syndrome (FAS) may have distinct facial features.


For decades scientists believed that the number of nerve cells in the adult brain was fixed early in life. If brain damage occurred, then, the best way to treat it was by strengthening the existing neurons, as new ones could not be added. In the 1960s, however, researchers found that new neurons are indeed generated in adulthood—a process called neurogenesis (29). These new cells originate from stem cells, which are cells that can divide indefinitely, renew themselves, and give rise to a variety of cell types. The discovery of brain stem cells and adult neurogenesis provides a new way of approaching the problem of alcohol–related changes in the brain and may lead to a clearer understanding of how best to treat and cure alcoholism (30).

For example, studies with animals show that high doses of alcohol lead to a disruption in the growth of new brain cells; scientists believe it may be this lack of new growth that results in the long–term deficits found in key areas of the brain (such as hippocampal structure and function) (31,32). Understanding how alcohol interacts with brain stem cells and what happens to these cells in alcoholics is the first step in establishing whether the use of stem cell therapies is an option for treatment (33).


Alcoholics are not all alike. They experience different degrees of impairment, and the disease has different origins for different people. Consequently, researchers have not found conclusive evidence that any one variable is solely responsible for the brain deficits found in alcoholics. Characterizing what makes some alcoholics vulnerable to brain damage whereas others are not remains the subject of active research (34).

The good news is that most alcoholics with cognitive impairment show at least some improvement in brain structure and functioning within a year of abstinence, though some people take much longer (35–37). Clinicians must consider a variety of treatment methods to help people stop drinking and to recover from alcohol–related brain impairments, and tailor these treatments to the individual patient.

Advanced technology will have an important role in developing these therapies. Clinicians can use brain–imaging techniques to monitor the course and success of treatment, because imaging can reveal structural, functional, and biochemical changes in living patients over time. Promising new medications also are in the early stages of development, as researchers strive to design therapies that can help prevent alcohol’s harmful effects and promote the growth of new brain cells to take the place of those that have been damaged by alcohol.

The Right Business Name

By Joaquin Duenas

A properly selected business name tells customers who you are, what you do, how you do it and differentiates your company from other companies. Most of the time owners are in a hurry to open their doors for business and neglect to choose the appropriate name.

A company name is very important as it creates the identity of a company. Consider the following elements when choosing the right business name:

The right business name tells the world who you are - Your name is your 'Identity'. Your company name is an essential aspect of your branding. For years to come you will be promoting your new name, showcasing it in front of as many eyes as possible. Names come in different shapes and forms. Incorporating a persons name is common in professions like legal, medical and accounting firms, in other cases a more descriptive business name is preferred.

The right company name tells what you do - Your business name should be a descriptive indication of the type of work your company is involved in.

The right name tells people how you do business - Words are powerful. By carefully picking the correct words you can convey a great deal about how you do business. It's challenging but the right business name can differentiate your company from others in the way you do business.

The right business name differentiates your business from your competition - By incorporating and emphasizing aspects of your products or services that cannot be found anywhere else or what you do better.

You have options when choosing the right business name. Take your time to brainstorm names, shorten your list and discuss the choices with friends and business partners. Make sure your business name is the right business name for your company.

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Tuesday, October 19, 2010

Five Unique Qualities That Will Set You Apart From the Crowd and Make You a Winner

By Clement Sadjere

One of the most memorable soccer matches I have ever watched was the final of the soccer events of the 1996 Atlanta Olympics soccer events for male. It was a match that saw Nigeria going up against hot favorites Argentina.

Most sports commentators never gave Nigeria a chance to win the gold medal, as they knew the Argentinians were far more experience.

At the end of 90 minutes however, the Nigerian Olympic soccer team, who were then referred to as the Dream team one, overwhelmed the Argentine team 3-2. The Joy of winning gold was so obvious, as the players danced round the pitch waving Nigerian flags.

What made the team thick? What were the winning qualities that saw them brushing aside Brazil in the Semis and Argentina in the finals?

The never gave up

Football is a game that is played for 90 minutes, and like people use to say,: "it is not over until it is over". The team never gave up even when they were down against Argentina. They came back from 2-0, to equalize the game 2-2, before super substitute Emmanuel Amunike scored the winning goal in the dying minutes of the 2nd half. One of the qualities of a winner is the ability to hold on and never to give up. When you give up, you admit defeat.

They were focused

A winner is someone who is 100% focused on the goal to be achieved and begins to focus all his energy and resources towards that singular goal. The Nigerian team was focused right from the very first match against Hungary. They defeated their rival 1-0 and that same focus saw them all the way to the finals. The reason why many people are not successful is their inability to focus.

They had the right mental attitude

Having the right mental attitude will ultimately set you on the path of success and victory. It is not enough to declare that you are a winner, when on the inside you do not have the winning mentality. Winning starts from the inside and manifest on the outside. As a team, the Dream team one of Nigeria, were mentally strong. They were loosing 3-1 against Brazil in the Semi Finals, before they used their mustered enough mental strength to come back into the game and eventually triumph over the best team in the World.

They were passionate about winning

Winning is all about passion. The more passionate we are about something, the more energy, time and resources we channel into it to ensure we succeed.
Lack of passion will spell doom for any individual who desires to succeed in life. The passion to win the ultimate prize at the 1996 Atlanta Olympic soccer event overwhelmed the team and they eventually got what they desired.

They were not satisfied with Silver or Bronze

Silver and Bronze are good reward for hard work, but Gold is the best. If we are satisfied with been second best, we will not aspire to become the best. The Nigerian team were not satisfied with Silver or Bronze, and that urge to go for Gold gave them the edge over other competitors. The ability to hunger for the best and refuse anything else, will set us on the winning track. Why must you settle for peanuts when you have the ability to create unlimited wealth for yourself? Why must you be directed to do something when you can become the director of your own profitable business? Hunger for the best and you will be satisfied with only the best.

Saturday, October 16, 2010

How to Utilize the Powerful Tool of Imagination

By Clement Sadjere

Imagination is the ability of the human mind to create distinct picture and convert it to reality. It is a secret which have been used by inventor and entrepreneurs.

What we must realize, is that nothing tangible can be achieve in life without deploying the potent power of imagination. Whatever we create in our mind can be ours as long as we work tirelessly to achieve it.

There is a distinct difference between imagination and day dreaming. There are millions of individuals who are building mansions in their dreams and wallowing in poverty here on earth.

How then do we utilize this powerful tool called imagination?

Open your mind to opportunities
There are numerous opportunities that come our way on a daily basis. Sometimes we miss these opportunities, because our mind is not tune to the right frequency. We shut our mind and prefer to concentrate on the little things available at our disposal. If the Wright brothers had shut their mind to the possibility of a heavy object flying in the sky, the idea of an airplane would have been buried years ago.

Develop you mind
The human mind is like magnet. Whatever comes in contact with it can easily be absorbed. If we desire to utilize the power of imagination, then we must be prepared to develop our mind through the reading of useful materials, attending training and seminar programs and watching creative videos which can expand the horizon of our creativity and imagination.

Destroy every mental barrier
One of things that hinder us from utilizing the power of imagination is the presence of certain mental barriers in our life. These barriers act as limiting factors in our quest to achieve success in life. In my years of sharing with youths and adults alike, I have discovered few of these mental barriers which include: fear of failure, procrastination, inferiority complex, shyness and wrong myth about success. These mental barriers have destroyed budding stars and rendered future billionaires into paupers.

Take action
There is one basic fact I would want to bring to our knowledge. Everything we are today, or ever will be in the future, is up to us. Your life today is the sum total result of your choices, decisions and actions. This means that unless we take a decisive step to make use of potent gift of imagination, we would remain stagnant in the same spot we were last year. Our imagination can open doors of prosperity and breakthrough for us!

Friday, October 15, 2010

Why It's Now Possible To Permanently Erase Negative Memories

By Nick Arrizza, M.D

Do you know that many healthcare practitioners will tell you that it is a) impossible to erase negative memories and b) harmful to do so? Do you know that there is irrefutable evidence that neither of the above beliefs are true any longer? Do you know that this is based on a new and revolutionary understanding on the nature of memories and how they are stored within us? Do you know this understanding helps one in erasing negative memories thus rapidly restoring one to their natural empowered, divine and radiant self rapidly and permanently? So what does this all mean?

Well, if one examines the effects of negative memories on ones' life it becomes readily apparent that they contribute directly to the negative mental and emotional conditioning that many colloquially refer to as their "emotional baggage". Emotional baggage severely limits ones' self esteem, self worth, self confidence, relationship success, their mental, emotional and physical health, their performance, and the ability to attract abundance into their life to name a few.

In other words it is directly responsible for the "invisible" subconscious programming that makes life extremely difficult and ultimately not worth living. Now, I realize this may sound a bit dramatic for some but if you honestly examine the effects that your negative memories are having on your life you will invariably find exactly the results mentioned above.

Sadly few ever do instead they tend to try and bury them along with the emotional pain associated with them deep in the subconscious mind. Well that is like burying an abscess deeper and deeper because one is afraid to acknowledge its ugly presence. Now, does that sound like a tenable solution to you? Hardly!

The only real solution is to extract it. In the same way the only real solution that will help you reclaim your life from that negative emotional baggage is to erase it. Well it is possible to do this simply and systematically.

After a decade in which thousands of individuals who have been courageous enough to undertake this journey an entirely new consciousness has begun to emerge around who we really are as human beings. You see, it turns out that those negative memories were never actually meant to be stored inside of us at all. Much like in the film "The Matrix" these memories behave like foreign and parasitic downloaded programs that wrestle our freewill away from us and create a mental prison which enslaves us and which we call our "reality".

Many yearn to become free of this prison in the mind, remember and become who they were meant to be, a free, self empowered, self directed, self confidence and radiant being of life?

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Thursday, October 14, 2010

Breaking the Tyranny of Time Management Teaching

By Francis Wade

It's a turbulent time for working professionals who want to keep improving their productivity.

The number of messages coming at them each day is growing, as is the number of communication channels. There are also more choices of personal technology than ever before, with new announcements of the latest gadgets such as iPad's, smartphones and netbooks dominating the news.

Software options are also increasing, as Microsoft Outlook, GMail and Lotus Notes have evolved from simple email programs to hubs for managing the bulk of many users' time demands.

Unfortunately, there is little help from those who teach time management programs.

I remember when my friends at AT&T office we worked at in the early 1990's came back from a time management class with new DayTimer diaries in hand. They admitted that the class itself was no good, but that the tool itself was quite useful. I eventually bought my own diary with all the useful inserts, and went about fashioning a system of my own.

Fast forward to 2010, and we have millions of electronic gadgets flying off the shelves, but the focus has shifted. DayTimers were clearly "productivity tools." Smartphones, tablets, laptops and netbooks are used for everything ranging from banking, to ecommerce to pornography to time management. Many people who buy them are simply using their unproductive old habits with this new technology to wreak havoc on their productivity.

Thanks to smartphones, checking email once or twice a day has turned into a 24 hour per day habit, and there are many who check their email more than 100 times per day. The habit of sending a message as soon as you can, has become an excuse to send a text while driving at 80 mph. Answering the phone whenever it rings has become an action that involves furtive whispering because the recipient of the call in a wedding. Sending email has become an action that's performed with the BlackBerry just below the surface of the table, in what's now being called "The BlackBerry Prayer Position."

Old habits plus new technology are a prescription for trouble, yet the smartphone manufacturers have made no attempt to teach users how to use them to enhance their productivity. The assumption seems to be that as long as you have a lot of electronic features at your fingertips, then it's up to you to figure out how to become more productive as a result.

It's no wonder that the number 1 use of smartphones is to play games, according to the most recent research. "Productivity" was a mere 10th on the list.

The problem is that things are changing so quickly that a book written today about "BlackBerry Productivity" won't be released until two years from now, and by then the devices that are featured in the book will be stale, and out of use. Anyone who thinks that they can prescribe a set of detailed practices for a smartphone user is likely to fall fatally short through no fault of their own.

It's impossible to give detailed prescriptions to today's managers, because the unique blend of habits, software, gadgets and web services being used makes it too hard to guess what they actually need. Instead, what's required is someone to tell the truth,and that they stick to certain fundamental principles regardless of whether or not they decide to switch from an iPhone to a BlackBerry tomorrow, and their company decides to get rid of Lotus Notes in favor of Outlook.

The truth is simple -- there are only a handful of people on the planet who are using someone else' system as they were taught. Most of us have devised something that works for us, and us alone. When the time for change comes upon us, it's either because we want to take advantage of some new technology or deal with more time demands than we ever have. We need help in making the switch.

Time Management 2.0 is all about users making intelligent upgrades to their time management systems based on their evolving needs. Instead of trying to follow an outdated prescription, users must undertake the following three steps:

1. Understand how one's current system is working

2. Figure out where the holes are, relative to where one wants to be

3. Fill in the gaps with changes in habits, gadget technology, software, etc.

Wednesday, October 13, 2010

A Great Name and A Great Brand

By Nermin Hadzikadunic

A great name could be beneficial to the business as this will likely be remembered by your prospective clients the next time that they would like to purchase something or avail products and services that you're offering. Naming your company is as important as identifying your target market. Several business entrepreneurs brand their company without thinking if their target market would be able to relate the products and services which are being offered to the brand. A business does not have to just have a reputation that sounds great and looks fine on paper. The brand must be applicable to something about the product with the business or service. For example, a name know to millions of people is Specialty Merchandise Corporation. The name is easy to remember, explains what it offer and most importantly, simple.

The brand of the company should explain what it does and has to provide to its consumers. These businesses need to possess a specific suggestion to what the business truly is rather than expose them to some fancy title lacking any meaning at all. Rather than attempting to find a name from the perspective of the owner of the company, one needs to think of a name utilizing the customer's perspective.

Business owners must ask themselves, what specific characteristics or features of the product or service would best emphasized as a feasible component of the organization name. The target market should also be specified so that entrepreneurs will be in a position to visualize their potential clients. Their needs and wants have to be identified together using the size of the market and gender. Entrepreneurs may want to put themselves in the shoes of potential customers to examine and identify what they want out of the product or service which is becoming sold to them. They may possibly wish to give certain reasons to their buyers as to why they really should work with the company. The advantages of customers that will conduct business together with the organization should also be recognized in addition to how the business will stand out from the rest of the companies in the business.

Once all of the facts are identified, company owners could now take a look at the list of words that he was able to come up with based on the information that he studied earlier. The particular words and phrases could be jumbled or combined with other words and phrases to decide on the perfect title for the business. Saying the names aloud could help to decide what sounds best and effortless to pronounce. Business owners need to remember that the name of the company will certainly grow to be its identity.

Friday, October 8, 2010

Don't Let Fear Stop You From New Opportunities

By Giovanni Pereyra

There exists no worst enemy in human nature than fear. It affects all aspects in our lives. From political ideas to religion, from traditional business opportunity to new trends in industries such as home base business.

Fear has stopped many great ideas to come alive. Fear manifestation is best when change is involved.

Think in the dark ages. It was fear to change what stop implementing new scientific and religious believes to flourish. In times when unemployment is determined to remain high, companies letting go good people out in the streets, there exist a great opportunity to make a change in your life, don't let fear stop you.

Here are some tips for you to keep flowing to your Opportunities.

Control Your Fear. Many times we let our mind to take control. When this happens, we are at mercy of the most fretting experience. Scary movie starts rolling fast in your head, even your blood pressure rise and your hands starts sweating. The most effective way to let fear go is by opening the door when it knocks, most of the time, nothing is there to knock you down.
Practice Your Awareness. Try to practice to be in the now, to be aware of your emotional state of mind. One method is by taking time every day to be in the Know for short time, like 5 minutes period. Then expand longer. You will start noticing all kinds of new details around you. Perfection is as far as next opportunity to try.

Positive Self Talk. You see it all the time. Boxers before the match, students before their thesis presentation. What then stop you of doing in it every morning before each day tasks take control of your life? Gee, aren't you the most important person? Then take few minutes and talk to yourself. There so much information on this topic, due your diligence and get assistance with books, audio etc. Just do it!

Forget Your Title. You lost your business or got lay off, lost your parking place and the title along with clubs and other privileges. You are considering a home business opportunity but you are tied to past labels which don't defined who you really are. You feel defeated by everything you are facing and are not sure what to call yourself by investing in this new industry of home based business.

Ask yourself these questions:

How I could do it better and contribute to someone else solution by providing value in this new business?

What are my core experience and how will have them serve to this new community I belong to?

What is imperative for me to do in order to reach my goals?

How I visualize my life 5 years from now?

Thursday, October 7, 2010

Mind Map Software and the 3 Main Learning Styles

By Michael R Tipper

Let me start by asking you a question - do you know what your learning style is? Did you know you had a learning style? Everyone has their own unique way of absorbing and learning information and over the last 40 years or so a variety of different models of learning style have cropped up. In this article I shall introduce you to the basic learning styles and show you how the proper use of the right Mind Map software can allow you to tap into all of them.

First of all let me give you a quick lesson in learning styles. We make sense of the world using our five senses - what we see, hear, feel, taste and smell. We also use those senses to learn about ourselves, our environment and about new information so when we started going to school it is our senses that we used to gather and absorb what we were learning. The three senses that started to dominate our learning as we went through our education were the things we saw, the things we heard and the things we physically did. Our reliance on our taste buds and sense of smell dropped off rather rapidly as there isn't much to be picked up from a text book on the Napoleonic wars by liking it or sniffing its dusty pages! That is not to say that we don't learn using these senses (how would chefs and the manufacturers of deodorant survive!) but just that text book type learning doesn't tap into them.

So we are left with three main ways to process information and in Learning Style Speak these have become known as our Visual (what we see). Auditory (what we hear) and Kinesthetic (what we do) learning styles. Research has shown that whilst we may have the ability to tap into all three learning styles, we generally have a preference. I for example am someone with a strong visual preference because I like to see what it is I am learning. I struggle to understand, absorb and retain something that I can only listen to. I can learn physical stuff e.g. martial arts moves but it takes me a long time to get it into my body and I prefer to see the moves in order to try and copy them.

What this research has also uncovered is that though we may have a preference for one of those styles, we will still learn far more effectively if we incorporate all three into our learning and thinking - and this is where using Mind Map software can help tap into our visual, auditory and kinesthetic learning styles.

So let's start with the easy one first. A Mind Map is a graphical representation of our thought process because it has images, it is visually stimulating and you can see the relationship between the main themes and detail branches. As someone who has a strong visual preference, Mind Maps are perfect for me. Mind Mapping software also comes into its own in this style because it is so easy to create a map and add images in a good package.

So what about using Mind Map software to tap into the auditory learning style? Well one thing you could do as you create your map is to quietly talk to yourself describing what you are doing as you do it. However whilst this would help, another more powerful feature of Mind Mapping software is the ability to attach audio files to branches. So you could create your branch and then record your thoughts about that branch to listen to at a later date. At this point I am going to jump ahead a little and recommend you use iMindMap for this. Other software allows you to link to audio files but you will have to create them in a separate program, link to it and then when you want to listen the link will have to open up your default mp3 player. However iMindMap has this really cool audio notes feature that allows you to record the note inside the software (you only need a microphone) and link directly to the branch.

And finally we come to the kinesthetic learning style. When you create a hand drawn map the physical activity of drawing the branch at a particular point around the map helps tap into this learning style. Its orientation, its length and even the physical act of using a different colored pen all add to the physical experience. Early attempts to create Mind Map software were limited in their physical interaction with the map because it was simply a case of either using your insert key on your keyboard to generate a new branch or a primitive point and click action with the mouse.

Many current software programs still have that limitation but one of the reasons that iMindMap is surging ahead is that it has been able to replicate the physical action of the hand drawn process on a computer. This is a huge benefit to those people who have a strong kinesthetic bias in the way they process and internalize information.

Wednesday, October 6, 2010

The Step-By-Step Strategies How You Can Achieve Whatever You Want In Life

By Shawn Lim

can achieve anything you want in your life? If your answer is a yes, this will be the perfect article for you. You are going to discover what you need to do in order to be successful in your life. So follow through these steps now to produce the life of your dreams...

1. The first step you need to take is to find out exactly what you want to accomplish in your life. You need to know your destination before you can start your journey. How can you hit a target if you do not know where it is? Thus, take your time to design your destiny right now. Find out exactly what you want to achieve in your future.

2. Next, create a plan so that you can follow through and know what you need to do to achieve your goals. Just like building a house, you need to have a plan that you can follow through. It is the same in life, you need to have a plan and know what you will have to do to create the results you want. If you do not know what you need to do or how to do it, learn from other successful people who have done it. You can read books, attend to seminars or classes, or even better, get yourself a mentor.

3. Third, take action according to your plan. If you are not doing anything, you will never create the results you want. And if you are not producing the results you want, you will never achieve what you want and be successful. Therefore, put in 100% commitment and take the necessary action from now on.

4. Finally, believe in yourself and never give up. You have to have the faith and trust that you can do it. Whenever you truly believe that something is possible, you will automatically tap into your full potential and make it happen. And remember, do not ever give up.

Monday, October 4, 2010

Creativity Can Be Developed If You Follow These Steps

By Raman Kuppuswamy

Many people lament that they are not creative. This worry is not necessary any more. Psychologists have come out with simple solutions that can be implemented to develop your creativity. But, without our knowledge, we adopt creative and innovative solutions in our daily lives. By following one or more of these tips, you can become creative and solve your problems in an innovative way.

The first advice given by experts is that you should first make up your mind to become creative. It can not be achieved overnight. There may be several obstacles. You should not pull out whenever you face such hurdles.

If you want to use your creativity in a particular field, you should develop a good knowledge in the field. Even if you find that the field is a boring one, you may not be able to be creative in it. But, you should understand that if you delve deep into the subject, you may find that it contains many interesting things. This is applicable to any topic or field. Hence, developing good knowledge in the chosen field is the foremost step for developing and adopting creativity to the field.

Another point is that you should be curious to know more and more about the subject. Only if you are curious, you will know many things and this induces creativity.

You should develop confidence in yourself. This confidence will give you the required boldness to take risks in a judicious manner. By taking such risks, you can know if your creativity works or not. As success begets success, once you taste success in one creative pursuit, you will be motivated to take more such creative steps.

You should practice creativity. Experts suggest that by learning a new language or solving a mathematical problem or by playing games like Puzzles, Sudoku and so on, you activate the right hemisphere of your brain. This will help you in developing your creativity.

Lastly, the most important step is to shed your negativity. As long as you have negative attitudes, you will not be able to be creative. If you stay positive, your attempts to develop your creative skills will bear fruits. You should not get unduly worried about criticisms because these criticisms may lead to negative thoughts. You may start doubting your own skills. Hence, you should brush aside all the criticisms and have only positive thoughts.

You can adopt these simple steps and very soon, you will be able to find yourself creating innovative solutions for all the situations of your life.

Saturday, October 2, 2010

Your Life, Your Time, And Your Reality

By Joshua Clayton

No matter if we are mortal or immortal, time is valuable. What will you spend it doing? Well, I can answer that question for myself. Improving the world for myself personally as well as universally in all the ways I can. Now let me help you answer that question for you: Well, real wealth is the extent you can help others in the way that you can help others. Real power is improving your reality to the extent you want it improved, universally in small or large ways. Real love is a life worth living at all levels. It is that simple, yet that complex. Sure, it takes those three things to live a great life, but each life is an individual thing in all ways. There is no such genuine thing as a "collective life" except when it comes to phony social science polls and political tricks with opinions and the like.

So, I begin again: No matter if we are mortal or immortal, time is valuable. But what is not valuable is if it is spent totally unconsciously or destructively, or if the "good parts" are missed in order to get through all the "bad parts." I remember this motion picture known as "Click" where all of life was "skipped," good and bad, my point is that all life is worth living, if you are not enjoying, you are learning a lesson that teaches you to enjoy the good more. If you are mortal in consciousness, your immortality of consciousness is enjoyable once you realize how to use its nature; I refer to it this way, because consciousness is energy and really immortal in nature, the only constant in it is change, time, and existence, in that order. Indeed, to win we only have to live, really live. I will not reveal too much in this article except hints. But know this for certain, living purely animal pleasures and being evil is never really satisfying or value producing in the sense that we want it to be. On the other hand overt good, and overt altruism are the same things only reversed, but just as bad. The chord of balance is power, as the valid Asian Martial Arts philosophies have said before me. Why do you think that those philosophies survived for thousands of years, while unbalanced and fearful philosophies based on fear have been "fly by night" and not workable for any long term. Time is valuable as a commodity and a reality to us all, and nothing can change that reality. That is the key to the staying power, revolution power and evolution power of a philosophy, science, government or religion. Fear and force are games, and that is all they are. But real understanding and tolerance are the most serious things in existence. What will you spend your time doing? Fear and force or understanding and tolerance? It is in our hands. We need to make a decision, we need to lead ourselves.

My name is Joshua Clayton, I am a freelance writer based in Inglewood, California. I also write under a few pen-names and aliases, but Joshua Clayton is my real name, and I write by that for the most part now. I am a philosophical writer and objective thinker and honest action taker. I also work at a senior center in Gardena, California as my day job, among other things, but primarily I am a writer.

Friday, October 1, 2010

Two Sides to Every Coin Translates Into Choice for Your Life

By Tambre Leighn

No matter what the details of a situation you are facing, it comes down to seeing that there are two sides to every coin. Looking at things from this viewpoint recently has allowed me to get very very short order. It reminds me I have a choice and that there is always another side to consider. In the end, I get to choose which view to take ~ and my goal is to choose the one that empowers me, educates me or inspires me.

We can look at rituals as an example. When you consciously choose an action as a way that helps you relax, reconnect, refresh and ground yourself it is a ritual. This is an anabolic, creative approach. If a ritual becomes an unconscious habit, you've gone into a destructive way of coping. A red flag that a ritual has become a habit is the difference between actively choosing it or experiencing it a HAVE to do or HAVE to have. One side of the coin is an event or action you create to help you center, relax or reconnect. The other side of the coin is when ritual becomes an unconscious habit. Something that is a 'have to' is an experience that will drain your energy.

Another angle on there always being two sides occurs when there is more than just you in a room. By taking into consideration the fact that there is your experience of a situation and there is the experience of the other person, you can recognize that sometimes everyone may not be on the same page. If someone is being short-tempered with you and you can't identify anything you may have done to provoke this, you can use two sides to recognize that it just may not be about you at all. You don't know what underlying situations the other person is facing in his or her life. It is best when we can use awareness to set boundaries and not have overlapping issues, but sometimes it occurs. Understanding this and the fact that two people are coming to the situation with different concerns may help you keep a good perspective and stay centered in the conversation.

Two sides also is a great touchstone tool to remind you to not just talk but also to listen. There are two sides to a conversation - not just your story and their story but what you say and what you hear. If each of you is focused on saying what you feel you need to say without taking time to listen to the other side, you're basically participating in competing monologues instead of true communication. You will enhance your communication skills and deepen your relationships when you apply the two sides approach in your interactions with others.

In the moments where two sides is about your interpretation or framing of events, you can either be "pounding the pavement" or "tripping the light, fantastic." The weather can be cloudy with some sun or sunny with a few clouds. There is no question on some days it takes more energy to choose the up side. And it's not about being pollyana. It is just the matter of choosing your response. Let's be real and recognize some situations like a chronic illness diagnosis, the loss of a job and other major life changing moments have times and days that are simply and honestly tough.

In those cases, there is still the option to succumb or choose to find a way to overcome it. Keeping your core values and your goals front and center can help you inspire yourself to deal with the tough stuff. Asking for support or help is another tool that can fuel you to make the most out of whatever you are facing.

So the next time a situation threatens to take you off course or deplete your energy, remember the visual of the two sided coin and ask yourself how you can choose the side that will serve you most.