Monday, May 31, 2010

Keeping Concentration and Comprehension at High Levels

By Tommy Mountain

Staying focused for longer periods of time is quite often a problem while learning new material. There are some tips that will help you to stay concentrated while you read.

First of all read with a clearly specified goal as this sets your mind in a proper state for acquiring new information.

If you will read just to read or think about your grandmother while you go over history of ancient civilizations then you might not get it quite well. You can compare reading with shopping. If you go to buy something without a list then usually you end up with bigger bag. When you read a piece of text without focus then you need to know that it is honestly not the best way to learn.

So when you are reading be sure that you do it with a right, conscious attitude and be sure of yourself.

In other words you need to be aware what you want to learn from text before you start reading it. This will keep your focus on a higher level and let you memorize things easily instead of wondering which information you should remember. To effectively learn from what you read it is good to note new facts with key words, graphic symbols and even connect them with your existing knowledge. The fastest way is simple tape recorder. Because your goals are clear it is much easier to go through material, pass on not needed information and speed up process while keeping concentration at a good level.

Sometimes it happens that you not only do not have a specified target in your reading but you do not even want to read it and everything that is connected to certain topics is simply boring for you. You may still need to know it as it can be for example your homework. What to do in such case?

The technique you can use in this is situation is quite simple. It is enough to convert name of chapters to questions and read chapters in search for answers. It is a way to get goals list for your reading session. Here is example:

Loss of Russian Army in battle for Krakow

What brings the loss to army, or
When did they lose,
What made the other side win?

After such conversion it is much easier to stay concentrated even while reading material you do not love so much. It is enough that you find answers to questions you created and you have it off your head.

Saturday, May 29, 2010

The Mind is a Phenomenal Part of Us

By Sandra Hendricks

Beliefs develop over time and throughout our lives, we add one after another. Sometimes we attempt to adopt the beliefs of others in our search for meaning. Our thinking leads to an intellectual knowing and then soon we believe. The trouble with trying to take on what other people make sound, logical and reasonable is that we must develop our own in-depth belief. This happens with religion and ideas like, The Law of Attraction. Without adding our own thought and creating a knowing, we cannot truly believe what we claim to understand.

We first think about what we hear or what another believes. Then with some thought, we slowly come to understand our own thoughts on the subject. It is at this point that we decide what to believe, concerning the ideas of another! Frequently, we claim to believe something that we have little in-depth knowledge of, and we label this faith. If you believe and have faith, the implication is that to understand is unnecessary. I must add here that, we develop destructive and constructive believes unknowingly. However, I am doubtful that we can undo those beliefs without a conscious effort.

I have come to understand that we must put thought toward what others tell us concerning new ideas. We cannot continue to go through life blindly accepting every notion that comes our way. On the same aspect, we cannot afford to dismiss new ideas, by refusing to put thought into them. We must strengthen our own minds and contemplate, and look for truth - our own truth. We do this habitually anyway, but more awareness toward what we think can help us determine better.

Say, for example, that someone tells you that you are stupid. Sometime later consequences reveal that you made a decision that turned out badly for you. Is this evidence that you are stupid and the person was right? With enough proofs like these, you could come to believe you are dumb. Accordingly, you will act on that belief by making fewer decisions. This verbal abuse did not develop your belief. It was your own thoughts about what the abuser told you that are the culprit! With enough failures, the truth of what you thought may have appeared to prove itself over time. Your thoughts actually seem validated by the events in your life and the reactions of those around you!

If we are going to better our circumstances, it is necessary to change the underlying beliefs, which we alone have developed! We act on what we believe and the results reveal themselves one belief at a time. Say, for instance, that someone has a strong belief (feels) that he or she is unappreciated. How did this idea come to be something that they believed? It began with a thought that developed into a knowing, through continual proof. Slowly, this imagined proof backed by the person's thoughts developed a strong belief. The thought may have started with one person but before long, the belief grows and includes everyone!

Ideas that sound logical to us may appear this way because the person giving the idea offers what seems like sure truth. Without our own thinking applied to the idea to develop the belief, the consequences are severe. We may attempt to act on another person's belief and ignore our thoughts completely. Where can this take us? We could end up in a hut in Arizona, dying from exhaustion and dehydration - okay so maybe that was a bit harsh, but close to home.

The mind is a phenomenal part of us, and we must utilize it effectively, if we hope to grow. Think with your heart, understand within your mind, and believe in your soul. Whether you are aware of it, you are developing, more beliefs daily. Choose what you think of and come to believe by being more in-tune with yourself. Contemplate what you hear from yourself and other people, and then consider the idea, so that the conclusion is a productive belief that will help.

Friday, May 28, 2010

Open Your Heart in Restorative Yoga

By Michele Geyer

Lying on my mat in a restorative yoga class is like floating on a cloud or on a raft in the middle of a quiet lake, fully conscious and aware. My breathing softens and regulates; my bones get heavy; my muscles melt like butter on a warm afternoon; my organs, especially digestive, are grateful for the opportunity to work optimally; and my mind, after a good release, a little focus and encouragement, becomes still.

It is not a stress antidote, it entrains the body-mind to find a different response, physiologically, emotionally and mentally.

Here, the word stress is a blanket identification and source for all maladies be they emotional, mental or physical. Each level of health or dis-ease can be a precursor for the next and begins with stress of some sort. They all link like fire, wind, water, earth and metal in Five Element Theory used by acupuncturists and herbalists. The stability of one creates health in another. If we want overall health, we can begin with the body and the body will communicate to the other levels that it's time to relax. We can also begin with the mind, which tells the emotional body, which tells the physical body to surrender to this moment.

Either way we approach it, Restorative Yoga has it covered, effecting all levels and states of being. No matter where it begins, stress creates acidity, which creates inflammation, which is the foundation for all illness and dis-ease.

Back on the mat I am fully rested, my body restoring itself as I breathe and watch as the days thoughts and emotions are channeled downward out of my head and heart. There is nothing wrong, and there is nothing right. All is accepted, all is neutral. My mind is mostly quiet, save the intermittent thoughts of gratitude and "why don't I do this every single day?" passing through. In this emptiness, I begin a conversation with my soul who effortlessly encourages my heart to open more and more with each breath I take.

The position is Supta Baddha Konasana, reclined bound angle pose. It is designed to open the heart, quiet the mind and relax the body. We sink into this pose (notice how I didn't say hold this pose), for approximately 15 minutes. In this fully supported simple back bend, we connect not only with our own souls, speaking to our inner voices, we engage with each other and the rest of the world via the spiritual web of connection. The telepathic lines of communication are ignited and pulsing with energy and recognition, compassion and enthusiasm. We become one with the Universal heart of all things.

This is how we begin the class, each time we meet; this is the foundation for de-stressing and further opening of the rest of the body-mind as the 75 minute class unfolds.

Here's how we set up for Supta Baddha Konasana:

1. Gather 2 medium sized blankets folded into rectangles about 1x12x36 inches, 2 small pillows or yoga blocks and one small blanket for under your head (about 1 inch thick).

2. Lay the two medium blankets lengthwise on top of one another, staggered just a bit on the narrow ends. Place this blanket stack perpendicular to your low back when you sit cross legged on the floor.

3. Keep the pillows or blocks nearby to prop up your knees and thighs..

4. Place the small blanket at the far end of the two-blanket stack for your head and neck.

5. Sit cross-legged about 4-5 inches from the closest end of the blanket stack.

6. If you can, instead of crossed legs, try placing the soles of your feet together, creating a butterfly with your legs.

7. Place your hands by your hips for support, curl your tail under and slowly roll your back one vertebrae at a time onto the length of the blanket stack.

8. Pull the smaller blanket down to the top of your shoulders so it supports both neck and head.

9. Place the blocks or pillows under your knees or thighs for support.

10. Arms are extended between 45-90 degrees with palms up.

11. Lengthen your low back gently, reaching your tailbone toward your heels.

12. Close your eyes (use an eye pillow if you like) and just breathe. Listen to your breath, feel your breath, watch it move up and down your spine.

13. This pose is gentle, easy and is not about forcing anything, not even a little stretch. Find the most relaxed position possible. It is designed to switch your autonomic nervous system from stress to relaxation. Do not push yourself to be in a position that is in anyway uncomfortable.

14. Rest here for 5 minutes to start, then up to 20 minutes as you become accustomed to it.

Try it every day and notice how you feel. Try not to worry about your thoughts, they will begin to dissipate more quickly each time you rest. Falling asleep is not part of this practice, yet if you do, don't worry. Being conscious, relaxed, aware and awake is the strongest and most powerful combination of elements to entrain the body-mind for less stress.

Thursday, May 27, 2010

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5 Essential Habits to Self Confidence

By Ma. Sheila Escuro

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The advancements in psychotherapy and psychological fields during last twenty or so years became very immense. Nowadays, we'll understand how a personality can be sustained and formed and how to develop quickly the method in enabling a person to change the feelings and behaviour.

How Do We Start Changing?

Here are Some of the Ingredients to a Successful Self-Confidence Change of Habit:

1. Acquire Self Belief - There's a need to believe the possibility to change ourselves. You can go to your school library or a public library and you search on several journals on different therapies and psychology subjects. You may also read on personal women experiences who already overcome issues on confidence building.

2. Search for a Motivation - It's a must that you want yourself to change. Due to the fact that changing ourselves feels so uneasy for us, people are contented waiting for some crisis before they face that need to change. So, at any means possible, think of the end in your mind, you become confident before anything disastrous comes due to the lack on self confidence. Do it now!

3. Acquire insight - its necessary to understand yourself and your behaviour. It's crucial that you are mindful of your feelings as well as behavior for the development of your personality.

4. Set a realistic goal - be sure that its yours and the goal is realistic. A person who lacks self confidence becomes an expert setting themselves to failure. For example, to tell yourself that: "I already knew it, someone nuts like me cannot possibly have this opportunity". The key in getting this goal will be in balancing "the game in playing safe" and aim very high, its best that you take a small step for a while. On that way, you'll have some chance to succeed and you'll be motivated from the nice feeling it brings.

5. Get a practice - keep spending energy and time to rehearse new self confidence building activities. To become self confident there's a need to develop new abilities, but, it doesn't come with neat package and comes in ready to use. As an example, you can try learning how to speak Spanish. It seems uncomfortable and odd for you but soon you'll be proud of yourself. There's nothing to be ashamed of when you practice in front of a mirror, when bathing in order to keep on practicing the new language. It's good also to rehearse in a camera to have an excellent practice.

Wednesday, May 26, 2010

Reading Twenty Five Thousands Words Per Minute

By Tommy Mountain

Most of people who I know says that it's impossible to read so fast and be conscious of what you read. They are right - you cannot read with such a speed and catch all the sentences. Photographic reading is not one that we know from school. It's a way to transport information that is possible only while our logical mind (left hemisphere of brain) is switched off.

Photographic reading takes place without our conscious mind participating and it use parts of brain, that aren't active in classical reading. It means that we can use our mind in a completely new way! Have you seen that scene from Matrix movie in which Trinity learned to pilot helicopter with one simple data upload? The things with photographic reading is very similar. To improve our reading speed to point when we are able to simply put asleep our conscious mind and read we need to learn how to synchronize both hemispheres of our brain. Left part of our brain is connected with logic and analysis while the other side goes for understanding, synthesis of information and creating inner images. When you learn how to make a photo with help of your mind in outstanding speed which is one page per second it means that you use new way of absorbing information. With such speed traditional methods of reading from left to right, line after line simply doesn't work. Instead you train your right hemisphere of brain to make photocopy of whole page. To arrive at that point you need to practice your mind because this will help you to recall information that your mind is keeping anyway. Before taking any other step or choosing a training you need to do one most important thing. You need to believe. It's equal to removing limits that has been set on your brain. Repeating things like "you cannot read that fast" create limiting belief which is the first obstacle that needs to be removed.

Just imagine yourself how many possibilities and doors can be opened once you are able to educate yourself and learn with outstanding speed. You know what is the best? That it is as real as the fact that you read this sentence now! We use just couple percents of our brain power so photographic memory and even photographic reading are skills that you can train! If you believe in it, your mind will make it happen - it's as simple as that!

Tuesday, May 25, 2010

Do Not Take Life Too Serious - Learn to Laugh a Little

By Paul Vann

In the late 1980s, singer Bobby McFerrin sang an infectious song titled, Don't Worry, Be Happy. Some of you reading this article have heard the song and it should be the anthem for America given the economic woes we have experienced over the past few years.

Its so important not to take life too serious because there are some things we can control, but for the most part there are a lot of things we have no control over. For example, we can mutually agree we can control our attitude, our temper and our outlook on life.

We cannot control the weather, the economy, nor other people. If we could control job losses, mortgage foreclosures and or natural disasters, we would but unfortunately we cannot. The best remedy for combating the stresses of life is to smile a little and accept the things we can change.

Coming into the fullness of life must include the decision to be happy, no matter what. Once we connect with reality and accept life on our own terms, then and only then can we flourish in a world filled with challenges and obstacles.

In many ways, having the ability to overcome crisis in life is a sign of success. Few if any who have achieved major success in life did not accomplish it without struggle. In essence without life struggles, we would not be able to enjoy the pleasures we experience today.

If Thomas Edison had not tried and failed to invent the light, we would likely be in darkness to this day. If inventors, doctors, scientist, lawyers, pilots and leaders not sacrificed, likelihood is we would still be trying to carve a niche in our efforts to live more meaningful and satisfying lives.

Put a smile on your face and be happy. This reminds me of the time I was serving in the military and one of my colleagues looked at me and said, "You make me sick, you are always smiling and happy all of the time." I replied, "I love life and want to share it with everyone I come in contact with."

The bottom line is we all have choices to make in life, we can choose to be miserable or we can choose to be happy, the choice is yours. I encourage you to pass this information to everyone you know, times are tough and we need all of the happiness ammunition we can get our hearts around. In the prophetic words of Stevie Wonder, Do not worry about a thing. Do not worry, be happy.

Paul Lawrence Vann is an inspirational speaker and author of the book, Living on Higher Ground. His purpose in life is to help others achieve their greatest potential. Paul is the Prince of Possibilities.

Monday, May 24, 2010

Attitude and Emotions Go Hand in Hand

By Tammie Szabo

Attitude, it always comes back to attitude. Your attitude more precisely. How you respond to any situation, person or thing that happens to you, around you or to someone that you care about. The emotion attached to what you want, don't want, do or don't do, is in direct proportion to your attitude. I never really understood this until recently. Let me explain what I am thinking.

You can have the most positive attitude in the worst situation you find yourself in and yet if you are 'feeling' any negative emotions that positive attitude isn't really going last long. You have to take baby steps in getting your emotions to be positive enough that the attitude is in sync with your emotional energy.

We are all energy beings. Science has shown that our bodies are made up of molecules, atoms and so on that creates our physical being. What is energy? Same thing...molecules, atoms and such. So we are energy beings, plain and simple. The world around us is made of the same stuff we are, that is why our environment is affected by us and visa versa. With that thought in mind, why would we want to allow ourselves to have negative emotions, feelings or thoughts? We would put it out there in attitude which would infect everyone and thing around us.

I got thinking about this this morning and realized that even when I have a great attitude about my life, I wanted to make sure that my emotions where on the same page. Most of the time it isn't hard to have this happen, but like I mentioned earlier, if you are experiencing a bad situation and try to keep the positive attitude going but your heart isn't in it or your emotions aren't matched to it then eventually the attitude will fade to bring out the truth.

Your attitude will either infect or affect others around you but that is because the emotions you are experiencing will radiate out. Why not make the choice of focusing on positive emotions and a great attitude. I am not saying "fake it till you make it". It takes work but you are worth the effort and you will love your life for it because you cared enough to do it.

I heard someone say once "Get rid of the crud, because it keeps you from getting where you want to go". He is right, by releasing the swamp water, crud or whatever you want to call it that affects your attitude and with a great attitude and positive emotions in the center of you, you will not only feel better but it will be passed on for others to experience. Like the stone tossed into the water creating a continuous ripple affect.

Here is to your positive emotions and great attitude!

As a freelance writer Tammie has published short stories, written news article, historical and community research/writer and this past year learned what it is to be a ghost writer for a travel writer working on a big web-based project here in British Columbia. She is currently working on getting her first novel published this year and also learning more about ebooks.

Saturday, May 22, 2010

teaching good communication skills

These days, the education system is also laying focus on teaching good communication skills to mold the formative years of a child into a well organized and approachable professional. High school teachers face lot of challenges in teaching these skills as children mostly learn what they hear every day in their homes and schools.

Here we have gathered some good ways that can help teachers for effectively imparting the knowledge and understanding of communication skills.

Group Learning

Divide students into two groups and conduct a debate or a puzzle for them. Ask both the groups to interact with their team members and prepare a debate. All the students on one group will freely communicate with each other to win the debate.

Game Shows

Here you can make use of the traditional weapon, divide and rule. Divide students into three groups. Ask Team A to prepare few questions on telephone communication skills or verbal communication skills and then tell them ask the question to Team B and Team C. whichever team answers the maximum questions is the winner. Similarly, ask Team B to prepare few questions of interpersonal communication skills and tell them to ask the prepared questions to Team A and Team C. finally, tell Team C to prepare and ask questions on self development. This will complete major aspects of communication. At the end, whichever team earns maximum points will be the final winner. reference: personality development games

Listening in Motion

Ask one student to explain any concept related to communication skills learned in the previous class. Observe both the speaker and the listener. Give every student a chance to speak what he learnt. This way they will learn to speak in a group and will gain confidence. Don’t forget to give appreciation or suggestions for improvement when necessary.

Saturday, May 15, 2010

Get the Life You Want by Making Better Decisions and Better Choices

By Claude Camilleri

Life is all about the choices we make. Sometimes we make good choices and sometimes we make "not so good ones". When at school, we were given a choice of subjects we wanted to major in. This big decision paved the way to a specific direction in our lives.

It is true we can change our direction at any given point. The truth however, is that each choice presented to us makes us who we are, this means your every choice counts. Everyday we have decisions and choices to make. We choose what we wear, the food we eat, the way we behave.

As we grow older, we base our choices on our own experiences and on the information our minds have accumulated through time, thus creating filters. These filters give us character traits. In fact, when presented with choices, most of the time, we do not really think about the outcome, we just do.

Why is this? In my opinion, it is because we know ourselves best, we know what we want and we know what we like.

But, what if we really took a moment and thought through each of the choices presented to us? What if we took an extra minute to really think wisely about the outcome? Do you think our life could change for the best?

In my opinion, the Answer is Yes. Life can be amazing if we make better choices and better decisions.

Next time you need to make a decision and are faced with choices, take some time out to ask yourself one question.

Is this the best decision I can make? Example - You find yourself in a shop and their is an item you really like and want. You know deep inside that although you really want this item, it would not make much sense buying it, as your finances are very low. Then the little voice inside your head plays tricks on you and you end up buying the product.

What happened! Did you really have your say?

A good suggestion would be to take two steps back, STOP and THINK about the choices that lay in front of you. Remember to ask yourself " Is this the best decision I can make? "or ask yourself, "What would someone like Richard Branson do in this situation? What would his final decision be and why?"

Do you get the picture. The secret of making a good decision is to take the time required to reason with the effects your choice will have on your future.

Friday, May 14, 2010

Tips for a Successful Customer Care or Tele Calling Executive

We are now in the financial crisis and it is more difficult to make new customers and retain the existing consumers. So we have to often contact or inform our customers about our products and service. Tele calling is an effective and economic method for contacting and informing our new and existing customers about our products and service .But it has to be done carefully. A tele caller can make a effective and efficient call by following the underlying tips.

1. Know the purpose of your call: Before calling have a clear idea and objective of calling a person or any organization, You should certainly know the purpose of your call.

2. Being persistent in your work: The more you are persistent in your work you must likely to get success in your work and we can gain the information that we want.

3. Ask for the permission to speak: After introducing your self and your company ask for the permission whether he would like to spare some time talking to you. Do not continue talking without the permission to speak. It will irritate the customer.

4. Listen to the back ground: Distractions and disturbances occur at the background ask, politely whether you would like to speak at that moment or not. This shows the respect you have for the person and in work. It will be highly appreciated by the client or customer.

5. Set up telephone appointment: If the person sounds busy set up an appointment when would be the right time to call but make it sure you fix up the appointment.

6. Prepare the list of Questions for which you need answers: To stay on track and gather maximum information from the customer, prepare the list of questions for which you need answers.

7. Use the option or choice methodology: Give them choices or options then they will automatically come down with their convenient time like which is better whether Monday or Tuesday? And is the option 10 am or 11 am?

8. Follow Q/A, F/Q technique: Q – Asking Questions A – Wait for answer. F – Feed back should be given as well as taken from the customers. Q – Clarify Question finally to make everything to be clearly understandable

9. Speaking too fast: Our mind is not too fast to concentrate and handle two things at once. If you are speed in your talking, other person will not understand what you are talking about. Talking too much without getting listener involved is totally waste and if he or she is not getting involved it is no use to proceed further.

10. Asking for the decision with in first few seconds: Don't expect the customer to take decision after few seconds you started speaking the customer may take decision after a long time you started speaking. It takes sometime to analyzes and understand what you are talking about and take decision.

11. Sounding dumb: Don't hold the time for a long time with out talking. It is nothing but if you are thinking over on phone, which is a mark of negative impression.

12. Lack of confidence : It can be noticed over telephone. Telephone operators or sales people should always have confidence to succeed in whatever they are doing.

13. Talking about your self and your products : People do not care about the product but only the results. If you talk too much about your self, your product and your company it is no use for them. So concentrate on the benefit what they get if they own our product.

14. Closing the Call: After our sales call or service call is nearing completion say thank you and greet the person with some blessings like "have a nice day" or "had nice talking with you" or "All the best". It will help us to keep a relationship or for making a second call in the near future.

Thursday, May 13, 2010

Body Confidence 101

By Irene Roth
Do you know what to do to take care of yourself? Do you try look and feel your best at all times? Do you watch what goes into your mouth?

A lot of girls find it hard to take of themselves so that they could be happy and healthy. They don't feel in charge of their bodies and this can be a recipe for disaster when it comes to developing self-esteem and self-confidence.

No matter what has happened to you in your life up to this point, your body still belongs to you 100 percent of the time. This means that your choices about your body have to be totally yours as well. Treating your body well is never a part-time job: It is a lifelong pursuit. Here are a few tips on how to take care of your body.

1. Don't think negatively about your body. Your body image is how you see yourself in the mirror, picture yourself in your mind, or talk about yourself about your body. When you have a negative body image you see yourself inaccurately by bashing your body. This is a widespread problem for girls. Body confidence shows in how you carry yourself that is how you walk, talk, and present yourself to the world. Think about the amazing things that your body can do and compliment your unique assets. This type of positive self-talk can help you to make respectful choices about your body.

2. Take a lot of care with how you look and how you dress. The way you dress and make up your face or even pierce yourself can all be reflections of who you are who you're trying to be. Sometimes, you make statements by how you dress that doesn't reflect your inner beauty. Make sure that your style is uniquely your own and not something that is portrayed through the media. Your look should be all about your personality and what makes you feel good about yourself.

3. Feed your body healthy food. You need to eat healthy foods packed with vitamins and minerals to nourish your body and fee great. Some girls truly enjoy food without guilt and know how to make smart food choices. Others develop a messed-up relationship with food, starving themselves or going on exercise binges because someone called them 'chubby'.

4. Get moving every day. Take a look at the choices that you're making about physical activity. Do you get enough exercise? Maybe you stay glued to the couch instead of going for a walk. Or maybe when you exercise you act as if you're training for the Olympics. When exercise is taken too far or you don't get enough, you can do serious long-term damage to your body.

So, take care of your body as much as possible. By taking care of your body, you will gaining a lot of body confidence and self-confidence as well. And life as an adolescent is much better if you have confidence

Wednesday, May 12, 2010

3 Simple Ways to Reconnect With Lost Dreams and Find Your Life's Calling

By Denny Stockdale

In my recent travels across the country meeting people that want to rediscover their lost dreams and find their life's calling, I'm always amazed at how many of them believe they don't have any dreams left.

I am here to tell you: nothing could be further from the truth!

It breaks my heart, but most of these people are stuck in a rut and don't know how to get out. And the worst part is: it just doesn't have to happen.

If you want to break out of your ruts (and I KNOW you do), here are 3 simple ways to reconnect with lost dreams and find your life's calling.

1. Think of your child hood. Take a deep breath, close your eyes and imagine what it was like when you were 8 or 9 years old. What excited you about the future? What did you enjoy doing? Who were your friends? Who were adults that had a positive impact on your life?
As you reflect on these questions, see what comes up for you. Write a few things down.

2. Over the next week, keep track of what energizes you. Carry a notebook with you and take a minute or two a few times a day to write a quick note about what really excites you.

3. Ask a few close friends what they think your dreams are. Sometimes, you might get so lost in the day to day routine that you forget. Your friends and family often have perspectives that will help you. You just need to have the courage to ask bold questions.

These simple exercises will give you clues to what your dreams are. If you can dig deep enough, you will open the door to help you reconnect with lost dreams.

No matter how long you've been working on uncovering lost dreams, chances are you are missing one of these important points. The good news: you can follow the simple steps I have outlined and reconnect with lost dreams and find your life's calling.

Tuesday, May 11, 2010

Time Management - An Important Skill to Master

By Terry Loving

Mastering time management requires a clear plan. Your best time management tool is having a plan that keeps you focused, sets specific goals, and implements a project timeline. It is then possible to outline daily action steps to move you toward your goals.

Create an action plan that you can stick to and systemize. A good plan allows you to revise and adjust as necessary. When something isn't working you see it quickly and can make the adjustments now, not later. Revise your system and stay on track toward the bigger goal.

The following are 6 suggestions found successful to manage time and stay focused. Implement those

1. Outline the plan on a white board wall- visually - Not two or three plans - ONE plan.

A white board allows you to see the vision you hold, make additions, changes and adjustments, set project deadline goals. Use colored paper notes for ideas that can be added, moved and adjusted as the plan evolves.

2. Create Action Steps in a "To Do" List at the end of the day - Celebrate what got accomplished today and move the "Hot" priorities to the top of the list to do tomorrow. Get those done first thing before anything else.

3. Manage your email time - Do not open the email until you've spent at least 2 focused hours working on the "to do" list. Train clients and customers that emails are responded to twice daily. Provide an emergency phone number to call if they need you right now. Thank you Timothy Ferris and "The 4-Hour Work Week" for this valuable hint! (Available on Amazon)

4. Schedule regular breaks - walks or exercise - a minimum of 20 minutes - to refresh your brain and energize the body that gets so tired of sitting at the computer. Fresh air, some vitamin D, a new perspective a chance to laugh and breath deeply will breath life into your creative juices and help you stay focused.

5. Use a timer to keep your phone calls and breaks within a reasonable time frame.
There is a computerized "egg timer" that allows you to realistically judge how long you have been on a call.

Use it if you provide a service and charge by the hour.

6. Don't rely on your memory or that of someone else for all the details. Document what you have done for the day - Keep your records current. File receipts, record passwords and registration keys, enter invoices. Short notes to yourself in a file on your computer- where did I file that? What did I sign up for? Make consistent notes in a "daytimer - calendar" of upcoming events and phone calls. Record the details from those that were completed.

These are just a few suggestions for Time Management Best Practices. By choosing those that fit your work style and forming the good habits early on, you will find that time management skills become a strategy that contribute to the success of any business or task. Organizing your time will give you the freedom you desire to accomplish all that you can dream.

Friday, May 7, 2010

Three Time Wasting Habits That Steal Your Life

By Kristin Hutchings

The most precious thing we have in life is time. Time constantly escapes us and therefore it is in our best interests to use it wisely. Unlike money, time cannot be saved up so it is vital that we use our time in the best way to enhance our lives and the lives of those around us. This means stopping wasting time on negative habits. We are all guilty of this on occasions. However, if we were to give up the time wasting habits that literally steal our lives from us, we would have the hours and weeks and years to do far more important things such as pursue a career, write a book, travel the world or spend time with family and friends. So what are the three biggest time wasting activities and what can we do to put an end to them?

One - Comparing yourself to other people

This zaps so much time and energy. By concentration on what other people have, do or don't do you are likely to be wasting your time comparing yourself unfavourably with people you know. Time and energy that could be better spent elsewhere. If you are focusing a lot of others' wealth it is likely that you are neglecting your own. You should instead be concentrating on furthering your career or looking for a better paid job. Stop comparing yourself with other people and be your own competition. If you continue to live your life relative to what others have, you will never be fulfilled. There is always likely to be someone who has a bigger house, car, boat etc. These are just material possessions and it is not worth your time or effort striving to keep up with other people.

Two - Not forgiving yourself or other people

Holding a grudge is another waste of time and an activity that poisons you from the inside out. Many people are guilty of harbouring grudges that have been ongoing for years. This is a crazy state of affairs. Holding a grudge takes a lot of energy - and all of that energy is negative. It can leave you feeling bitter and angry and it can seriously affect your health. Dwelling on the bad things that happened years ago, keeps you stuck in the past and unable to live life in the present. For this reason, forgiveness is essential. Forgiveness does not mean that you forget or condone the actions that hurt you or the actions you carried out that hurt others, but what it does do is release you from the negativity of what occurred. It helps you create a better life. Forgiveness is a positive action and once that bitterness is gone you are free to focus on more beneficial activities. None of us are perfect - we all make mistakes, so learn to forgive yourself and others and then move on.

Three - Criticising

Criticising others constantly is a very unattractive trait as well as a huge waste of time. The same goes for criticising yourself. It simply makes you feel bad and once again, unable to use your time constructively. It is also a waste of time to try to defend yourself against certain types of criticism. Perhaps someone has verbally attacked you on the internet in a forum or chat room. You will soon realise that trying to defend yourself takes a lot of time and effort and is, on the whole, pretty futile. Criticism is pointless and negative and usually carried out by people who lack self-worth. Criticism is also bad for the health because of the negative energy it creates. So, tell yourself that criticism is a waste of your valuable time, take a step back and go and focus on something better instead. Think about how you can go about making your life better rather than indulging in anything that has a negative impact on it.

Wednesday, May 5, 2010

Meditation Or Medication?

By Robert E Darby

Strange Reluctance
This article explores the serious subject of our species strange reluctance to wake up and become aware of the world as it truly is. The purpose of course is always the achievement of greater awareness and a higher level of consciousness concerning the true nature of reality. And along the way we look at the different ways in which we attempt to avoid not only our responsibility for the condition of our world, but the realization of the condition itself.


Medication of course represents the material world. Our response to the value and quality of the material reality that we created, is measured by the extent of our dependence and reliance on any substance or mental strategy that is able to numb or dull our senses, or in any way aid us in our desperate need to deny and or avoid the realization of the fact that we actually created this material reality in the first place.

We actually saw it back when we were kids when we looked at the world around us and wondered what the hell is this. So why didn't we just say oops! and start over again? I guess it was easier to get a prescription for vicadin or take up shooting heroin and hope that the reality would just go away all by itself. And by the time we realized that wasn't going to happen, we were so comfortable with our mothers little helpers that we had become essentially disabled. I wonder if this qualifies us all for a disabled persons license plate?

I know that I would much rather fire up a dooby than try to answer the question of how we allowed this material world to come about? And I would probably rather sign up for medical heroin than try to deal with the next question, which is what can we do to fix our mistakes?


Meditation represents the spiritual world. And if you're in the mental habit of believing that this is an entirely different world from the material world, then you should probably back off the vicadin for awhile. Drugs for the Human life form don't always come in a pill, liquid or powder. We have the power to deceive ourselves simply by misusing our own minds. Yes, our ability to think is a two edged sword. Fantastic!

Meditation is a powerful tool, but it is just a tool and thus can be misused like any tool. As tools go, meditation is slightly different in that it does not lend itself readily to abuse when performed correctly, but one of its minor benefits is sometimes misused, which is the ability to relieve stress and anxiety, both of which are symptoms of life in today's material world.

The problem with meditation is that it isn't a walk in the park. And part of our strategy for dealing with the Frankenstein we created is finding easy ways to avoid responsibility for the monster, and therefore meditation doesn't qualify. But meditation is a tool that enables us to not only explore and realize the spiritual reality, but it works just as well for exploring and realizing the material reality. Ah, but it is so much easier to just drop another vicadin and keep pretending.

The Awakening

Will our species epitaph be "destroyed by fear and ignorance"? One of the strangest realities of today is that we may be the victims of the idea of comfort and security more than anything else. Yes, the single minded obsession with these two concepts leads to a kind of complacency and indifference which essentially shuts down the processes of learning and growing. Does that make you blink? Are you wondering what this idiot is talking about? Are you wondering what the hell learning and growing has to do with the price of tacos in Iceland? Well, there is one of the problems. We just don't have a clue about what is going on anymore, which assumes that we ever had a clue in the first place.

Does anyone even think about learning and growing? I know, but we lost track of things when we lost track of the actual real world that takes place as each second of our lives passes with the passing of time. But now it all passes without our even noticing it. We long ago stopped feeling the breeze on our skin, tasting the world around us and experiencing the rich array of phenomenon that each moment brings to our perceptions, but we are no longer there to experience the real world because we are almost exclusively focused on a static conceptualized version of reality, a reality made up of words and thoughts, a reality that rarely changes or challenges and from which we get our comfort and security, which we somehow have come to believe are the most important things in life. Meanwhile the decay of complacency and indifference works its corrosive influence upon our civilization as inexorably as the wind and rain bring down mountains.

So, meditation or medication? It is long past the time for the Human species to wake up and grow up and snap out of the self induced trance that is the result of our obsession with fear and ignorance, and take a long good look around us and recognize our mistakes and learn from them and figure out how to fix them and move on to explore and realize our infinite potential.

Tuesday, May 4, 2010

How Are You Intelligent?

By Ann Ronan, Ph.D.

Now please notice I didn't ask, how intelligent are you? That's an entirely different question. Our culture puts a great deal of weight on assessments given to you when you're in school...I.Q. tests, S.A.T.s, A.C.T.s...alphabet soup. This is unfortunate. These tests only measure a portion of the different types of intelligences including linguistic and logical-mathematical intelligences.

Years ago, I was delighted to find Howard Gardner's work on multiple intelligences in the K-12 school systems. He identified 8 different types of intelligences. They include linguistic (good with words), logical-mathematical (good with numbers and reasoning), spatial (picture smart), bodily kinesthetic (body smart), musical (music smart), interpersonal (people smart), intrapersonal (self smart) and naturalistic (nature smart).

Another author, Daniel Goleman, says we can also have emotional intelligence and that this kind of intelligence is an even stronger indicator of success than I.Q. Emotional intelligence can be learned, it's not fixed at birth. The different emotional intelligences include self-awareness, altruism, personal motivation, empathy, and the ability to love and be loved.

Ok. So what does all this have to do with you being happily self employed, working from home doing work you love and making plenty of money? I find that many of my clients doubt that they are "smart" enough to succeed in their own business. They often don't recognize the gift of their own unique intelligence and how that gift can solve problems for others.

For example, I've met many interior designers who downplay their talent and under charge for their services. Now being someone who has had to return just about every piece of furniture I've ever bought on my own, I recognize clearly the gift of spatial intelligence in these designers. And that's one intelligence I sure wasn't blessed with! I save my self (and the sales clerks) lots of time and frustration by hiring designers.

Another example, I never knew that I had a natural ability for writing until I got to college. I assumed it was not difficult for anyone to write. Wrong! A college professor had us take an exam to determine if we needed to take a basic writing class. Of the 15 people who gave a writing sample that was judged by 3 teachers, mine was the only one that "passed" so I didn't have to take that writing course. That's when I had an aha moment of "oh, so this isn't easy for everyone." Prior to that, I just had no awareness of this gift. And now I am able to serve others with and charge well for my services.

So how are you intelligent? Don't downplay your interpersonal and/or intrapersonal skills. Those are often even more important than some of the others. They allow you to build rapport and relationships, to empathize with others and to be a good listener. These are some of the strongest skills you need in business and sales.

Monday, May 3, 2010

How to Survive Rejection

By Heather Holleman

There's a way to handle rejection with flair. I always come back to the same three truths to survive it.

When it comes - that awful companion, Rejection - and says no, I realize what the no signals.

It signals that I put myself out there. It means I risked something. It means I offered myself. These are good things. These are really good things.

But it doesn't make us feel any better in the face of a friend who spurns us, a company that jettisons our resume, a publisher who turns down our novel, or a family member who forsakes us. It doesn't soothe the hurt that comes from hoping for something that doesn't come about because somebody--or just circumstance--delivers that awful no.

But three things do soothe. Or at least they helped me this morning when I read another email rejection about a book proposal. I want to live with flair, after all. What does it look like to endure rejection with flair?

1. We do what we do because it's our calling--our unique way to offer a gift to the world. We do this whether or not it ever receives approval or recognition. We keep doing it because we serve others, because we want to make a contribution for love, not for money or prestige or even anybody loving it back. Phew! Aren't you so glad your doing is not dependent on our loving it? I had a student who didn't get a call-back for an audition for a major network singing competition. But this guy was born to sing. Did a rejection stop him? That week, we asked him to sing for us in class. He stood up, sang the most amazing renditions of various songs, and we cheered and hollered like crazy. He's not going to Vegas, but he delighted us. For that day, at that time, it was enough. Somebody, somewhere, wants to receive the gift we offer.

2. Every "no" is an opportunity for a "yes" somewhere else. I think this applies to break-ups, schools that reject us, and jobs that fire us. My dream school turned me down for graduate school. I wept and wouldn't leave my dorm room. I went to Michigan instead, certain I was doomed never to meet my Southern Gentleman. My Southern Gentleman also got into Michigan. You know the rest.

3. If I believe in a divine plan (which I do), I know that God does not withhold good things from his children. If I don't get the thing I want, it means it wasn't good for me (at least at this time). If it's good, and part of God's plan for me, then I can chill out and enjoy the wait.

Rejection is good for me because it brings me back to reality. It reminds me that I do things (write, teach, plan new projects) because I love to do these things. That's the reward--not any prestige or wealth or even anybody loving it back. And there's a divine mystery to the order of a life. The no is also a yes somewhere. I can rest in the timing and the plan of the yes.

Rejection is a beautiful and terrible thing. It's awful in the truest sense of the word. Awful: to inspire awe and deep reverence. I respect rejection. I'm thankful for what it reminds me of and how it helps me live with flair.