Monday, July 20, 2009

A new me !

A new me!!

Look what we’ve done to ourselves. God blessed us with gifts innumerable. Our intelligence, good health, our talent, our rightful thinking, our just heart, our soul with a grateful smile.

We have abused it with ill thinking, with reasons selfish and self fulfilling. Our thoughts from positivity slide to the most evil at the blink of an eyelid. In every situation we see what is it that I have to gain. In every action a desire to be reciprocated better by someone is expected, in every deed a selfish ulterior motive is hidden. I wonder, are we what we are or do we pretend to be what we are not? Does our dreams manifest into mindless cravings or do we derive sadistic pleasure in others fall. I wonder.

I have always believed each soul is unique gifted with the power to excel, succeed and win. Yet, we compare ourselves with others in measurements that are petty. For every soul is unique, so will every capability each soul is granted be. We struggle to succeed, make money and see who finishes first.

I ask, shall life be not more merrier and happier if we just accept ourselves, love what we have and then focus on accomplishing what we are unique at?

Why the race? Why the competition? Why the unnatural jealousy that god did not create us for?

Why don’t we just learn to love ourselves? Why don’t we just learn to love others uniqueness and success? Why don’t we just learn from others uniqueness? Wouldn’t life be more colorful in all its brightest sunshine and wouldn’t we be more beautiful from inside and not just the exterior?

Let us learn to love ourselves and continuously expand our capabilities on a daily basis. Let us learn to love others. Let us learn to mark our own benchmarks beyond our imagination irrespective of others milestones.

Let us just learn everyday of what new can be done towards our work, relationships, family, friends, and our soul.

Lets us just focus on being a fresh and a new happy soul everyday. A soul that spreads warmth, happiness without any expectations into others life like a morning sun ray. Let us be a new us everyday.

I pledge today to be a new me everyday!!

Mohnish Nair
10 pm, Mangal Aarambh, 20th july 2009.

Coping With Stress and Anxiety

The following strategies have help you cope with stress and ease panic attacks. They will be helpful to you in many ways.

Eat Regularly
Eat small, healthy meals every 2 hours throughout the day. Keep safe snacks with you at all times in case you get stuck waiting. In addition, keep yourself hydrated!

Eliminate Stimulants
Stimulants - simple sugars, caffeine, and cigarettes - can cause you to feel the symptoms of a panic attack and, for some people, can actually cause panic attacks. Limiting or eliminating your use of these stimulants can help to eliminate panic attacks.

Breathe Deeply
Learn to breathe deeply. During a panic attack or in the midst of a fearful moment, people tend to take frequent shallow breaths. This style of breathing may cause you to experience tingling in our hands and feet and to feel light-headed. Taking slow, deep breaths can calm you. Put your hand on your stomach and breathe in so that your stomach expands. Practice this. After you learn how, try taking three breaths in this way whenever you experience stress: breathe in for a count of 8 and out for a count of 7.

Learn Creative Visualization Techniques
Creative visualization allows you to escape the stress of the moment and create a different reality. You can even fool your body into believing it is experiencing the vision in your head instead of the reality in the present. Visualize sitting in a calm environment - at the beach or in the mountains. Imagine yourself taking a vacation or succeeding at a challenge. Use these creative visualizations to cope with panic, to image success in stressful situations, and to provide yourself with a break from the stress of daily life. As with deep breathing, the more you practice, the better you will be able to utilize this tool in the midst of a panic attack.

Practice Relaxation Exercises
To progressively relax yourself, find a quiet corner of your home and lie on the floor. Beginning with your toes, tense and relax each muscle group in your body - from your toes to your head. When you are completely relaxed, take a moment to notice how you feel. The more you practice this, the better you will be able to recall this feeling in the midst of a panic episode or a stressful situation.

Participating in daily exercise, such as walking, can relieve stress and alleviate panic attacks. Make the time doubly effective by using your walk as a time for prayer or meditation. Start your walk with a question to God about your life, an affirmation about yourself ("I am loved," "I am okay," "I am a survivor."), or a simple prayer ("Thank You," "Bless this moment," "Guide me.").

Research by psychologist James Pennebaker has shown that people who used writing to make sense of their traumatic life experiences had the long-lasting effect of feeling happier and less anxious. Pick up an inexpensive notebook. Every morning, take fifteen minutes to dump all of your negative, stressful stuff into that notebook. Write three pages of this stuff. At the end of writing about what is difficult, write five experiences or people or situations that you are grateful for. (For example, "I am grateful that I am alive," "I am grateful that the sky was a beautiful shade of blue," "I am grateful for the smiles of children.")

Carry a small notebook in your purse. Just as you begin to experience the symptoms of panic or stress, write down the following: the situation you are in, the sensations you are feeling in your body, the thoughts you are thinking now and the thoughts you were thinking before experiencing the first symptoms, your present feelings and what you were feeling before the symptoms began. As you do this, remind yourself that what you are experiencing does not define you - it is simply something that is happening. You are not the symptom. This exercise can help you, over time, to pinpoint the causes of your panic attacks. It can also relieve the symptoms of panic attacks.