Monday, August 31, 2009

Self-Discipline for Success

There is one special quality that you can develop that will guarantee you greater success, accomplishment and happiness in life. Of a thousand principles for success developed over the ages, this one quality or practice will do more to assure that you accomplish wonderful things with your life than anything else. This quality is so important that, if you don't develop it to a high degree, it is impossible for you to ever achieve what you are truly capable of achieving.

The quality that I am talking about is the quality of self-discipline. It is a habit, a practice, a philosophy and a way of living.

All successful men and women are highly disciplined in the important work that they do. All unsuccessful men and women are undisciplined and unable to control their behaviors and their appetites. And when you develop the same levels of high, personal discipline possessed by the most successful people in our society, you will very soon begin to achieve the same results that they do.

All great success in life is preceded by long, sustained periods of focused effort on a single goal, the most important goal, with the determination to stay with it until it is complete.

Throughout history, we find that every man or woman who achieved anything lasting and worthwhile, had engaged in long, often unappreciated hours, weeks, months and even years of concentrated, disciplined work, in a particular direction.

Fortunately the quality of self-discipline is something that you can learn by continuous practice, over and over, until you master it. Once you have mastered the ability to delay gratification, the ability to discipline yourself to keep your attention focused on the most important task in front of you, there is virtually no goal that you cannot accomplish and no task that you cannot complete.

Successful people engage in activities that are goal-achieving. Unsuccessful people engage in activities that are tension-reliving. Successful people discipline themselves to have dinner before dessert. Unsuccessful people prefer to have dessert most of the time.

Successful people plan their work, and work their plan. They take the time to think through their responsibilities before they begin. They make clear decisions which they then implement immediately. They get a lot more done in a shorter period of time than the average person. And it all has to do with their disciplines.

Perhaps the most important benefit of self-discipline is the personal benefit that you receive. Every act of self-discipline increases your self-esteem. It gives you a feeling of personal power and accomplishment.

Each time you discipline yourself to persist in the face of distractions, diversions, and disappointments, you feel better about yourself.
  • As you continue to discipline yourself, you achieve more and more in life.

  • As you achieve more things, you feel more like a winner.

  • Your self-confidence goes up.

  • You feel happier about yourself.

  • You get more done and you have more energy.

  • You earn the respect and esteem of the people around you.

  • You get more rapid promotions and are paid more money.

  • You live in a nicer house, drive a nicer car, and wear nicer clothes.

  • You get a natural high from the thrill of achievement.

And the more things that you achieve as the result of employing your personal habits of effectiveness and productivity, the more eager you are to achieve even higher and better tasks. Your life gets onto an upward spiral of success and happiness. You feel great about yourself most of the time.

Every act of self-discipline strengthens every other discipline in your life.

Every weakness of self-discipline weakens your other disciplines as well. When you make a habit of disciplining yourself in little things, like flossing your teeth every night, you'll soon become able to discipline yourself to accomplish even larger things, like working long, long hours to bring a major task to completion.

Your entire life is an on-going battle between the forces of doing what is right and necessary on the one hand and doing what is fun and easy on the other hand. It is a battle between the forces of discipline and the forces of ease or expediency.

And when you develop the strength of character that gives you complete self-mastery, self-control and self-discipline, you feel wonderful about yourself.

  • You develop a deep inner sense of strength and confidence.

  • You replace positive thinking with positive knowing.

  • You reach the point inside where you absolutely know that you can do whatever it takes to achieve any goal that you can set for yourself.

Self-discipline is its own reward. Not only does it pay off in terms of greater self-esteem and a more positive mental attitude, but it pays off throughout your life in terms of the goals that you achieve and the success that you attain in everything you do.

Self-discipline is a skill and a habit that can be learned by practice. Every time you practice a little self-discipline, you become stronger and stronger. Bit by bit, you become more capable of even greater disciplines. As you become a totally self-disciplined individual, your entire future opens up in front of you like a broad highway. Everything becomes possible for you and your future becomes unlimited.

Saturday, August 29, 2009

One Step At a Time

"One Step At a Time" - that is the sum of all success and each and every achievable quest. Each step represents a sign to show you that you are very close, even if it is tomorrow, tomorrow will require its own steps and no being can do it for you except your own self.

Which expert in the building trades has ever built a great tower and never started with one brick?

Who has ever started to walk without crawling and standing up to take that triumphant first step?

I shall take each step, unshaken by all the chains that I allow myself to bind me, and rebuke them out of my path.

The chain of fear.

The chains of the mind that make me feel inferior.

My past failures and faults

I will rebuke these for these will invite procrastination and stop the next step that will bring me closer and that giant step that will cause my future to flourish. In this manner, I will become a slave to my accomplishments and life will have meaning.

In the harshest of all storms, in the scorching sun and the coldest days, I shall know that these are there to help me to be stronger for nature has seasons that keep benefiting its habitat.

Each and every rebuff and obstacle I will call friend, for they will teach me the art of perseverance and endurance and my crown humbleness, as these are the secrets to all glory under the sun.

When all spectators tell me what to do, I will commit to learn only secrets they posses of success while forgetting their advise of pity, for the fear they hold is too contagious to my steps.

What storm does not pass under the sun?

What victory does not end?

Each day I will know that every event of failure and every event of victory shall pass. I will take one step and another one until this great tower, this legacy, is well completed.

Only with a step.

Friday, August 28, 2009

10 Tips for Creating a Life and Living Your Dream

Stop doing things just because others expect them of you. Your heart must be in it to finish the race. When we do things just because we 'should,' we eventually reach a place of resentment, anger, and rebellion.

Get your priorities straight. Spend your time, talents, and resources with the people, activities, or things that are meaningful to you. Stop wasting these on people or things that are not adding value to your life or that keep you from moving forward towards what you want to be or do.

March to the beat of your own band. The most satisfying experiences in our lives are when we are engaged physically, emotionally, spiritually, mentally, or intellectually. Life is meant to be effortless. If you're tugging and pulling, and everything feels like an uphill battle, then you're doing the wrong thing.

Do what you're good at and the money will follow.
Whether you're a brain surgeon or a dogwalker, be the best you can be at it because you love it. Your enthusiasm and love for what you do is what will make you successful in the long run. Enthusiastic and positive people attract others to them who want that too.

Share your dream with others, but be discerning.
Realize that not everyone you share your dream with will be thrilled for you. Avoid the nay-sayers and focus on those people who can support you even if they don't agree with you.

Stop making excuses and just do it. The reason (excuses) for why you have not taken that first step does not matter. What matters is that you take that first step NOW.

Determine what your ideal life looks like. Most people's initial response to this is 'I don't know.' If you did know, what would your ideal life be like? Who would you want to live with, who would you like to meet, where would you like to live, what activities/shows/parties/places would you like to experience or be with?

Identify the stumbling blocks that can be turned into stepping stones. Your past experiences and adversity can create opportunity for you. It's all in how you look at life and how you choose to use those experiences so that you eliminate the blocks and move on in spite of them. Victory is yours!

Reduce your learning curve. Learn from the experiences and mistakes of others. Instead of reinventing the wheel, take what you can apply from the trials and challenges others have overcome then tweak the process to fit your own situation.

Align yourself with a role model/mentor. Having someone who's 'been there and done that' is one of the best ways to get yourself on track with what you want to accomplish or be. A mentor will be supportive, offer the benefit of his/her expertise and knowledge, and will listen to you when you need the support the most.

Thursday, August 27, 2009

Making the Best of You

They say 'make the best of a bad situation.' But I believe the bad situation makes the best of you. Even the irritations of life can be useful. President Abraham Lincoln showed us how this is so.

One of his cabinet appointees, Edwin Stanton, frequently found flaws with the president and criticized him - sometimes in public. Lincoln seemed to show excessive patience with him. The president was asked why he kept such a man in a high level position.

Lincoln characteristically responded with a story. He told about a time he was visiting with an old farmer. He noticed a big horsefly biting the flank of the farmer's horse. Lincoln said he reached over to brush the fly away. As he did so, the farmer stopped him and cautioned, 'Don't do that, friend. That horsefly is the only thing keeping this old horse moving.'

Even life's many irritations and problems have their place. They may cause us to change directions. Or prod us to greater achievement. Or keep us moving along when it's easier to go nowhere.

Are you simply making the best of a bad situation, or will it make the best of you?

Wednesday, August 26, 2009

The price of arrogance


Is it

Simply a human condition

The following article is based on daft, spontaneous thoughts which can strike us all at the oddest moment, such as a busy motorway service station, or simply watching folk while relaxing on a weekend shopping expedition! Everyday meeting places where humans go casually about their daily life, happily mingling with fellow humans in the locality.

Doubtless you have been in similar situations and if you think about it, do these very normal human social interactions someway mirror that African Serengeti documentary you watched on television last week?

We naturally assume we are different (superior) from all the other animal species on this planet, but given the opportunity, when our guard is down, apparently we are quite happy to emulate some of them, a natural instinct? Of course, perhaps suggesting that if it wasn't for that monumental fluke during our evolutionary journey through to today we may still be chewing grass, or eating nuts along with many of our close animal relatives.

Homo Sapiens have most likely been around in an upright stance; during various stages of recognisable evolution for an estimated five to six million years, Seems like eons of course, but it is not so very long compared to let's say, the total extent of all life on this planet!
Now what I find remarkable, even frightening, is that during this relatively short existence, perhaps several billion humans have spawned, produced the next generation and then simply died, its true' and I'm wondering about that age old question, what's It all about? Is all existence merely a mindless conveyor belt of life for no specific reason whatsoever, or are we on an intelligent, calculated journey to a distant future that at this moment we cannot possibly comprehend?

These days humans can generally expect an anticipated, but unavoidable death somewhere between zero and eighty/ninety years, quite lengthy compared to our ancestors relatively shorter lifetime just a mere two hundred years ago. Well I suggest that this ever increasing life expectancy is totally against nature's original plan for us, which was simply that succeeding humans remain on this planet just long enough to produce and rear the next generation!
Today with our comfortable, healthy lifestyles, we objects strongly to natures old fashioned short life concept and assisted by ever advancing medical science, we have developed an almost demonic will to survive for as long as possible, often allowing us thirty, or even forty years of extra life after our child producing/caring days are over.

Good for us you may think, but this ever growing long life trend is really confusing nature, as it allows the human populations to grow unrestrained, disastrously affecting the natural, delicate balance between all species, while our bad habits readily pollute this precious planet in the process! Not unreasonably, nature would prefer us to become fertiliser immediately after we have done the business, which is of course, totally acceptable for all other life species, isn't it?

Now correct me if I'm wrong, but I think this problem for nature (and us) started when the human species developed a reasoning ability, a progressive, fairly recent condition, perhaps unique to our species. Doubtless because of this reasoning power, we are almost totally self-righteous, assuming that we are the Special Ones' in an overall plan for the existence of all things, should there be one! Most of us naturally (or unnaturally) assume that we are going somewhere spiritually after physical death!

A quite understandable concept, as our most powerful survival instinct, together with this new reasoning ability will not let us die, ever! Of course it is perfectly acceptable for all other species to just rot away, unless of course it's Fido the family dog, who being a beloved friend will naturally be allowed to join us in the great hereafter. So not only are we humans exceptional, we can actually choose a lesser creature to accompany us on our spiritual journey, Wow!

It is little wonder that we humans as a species are now totally arrogant, actually believing that we are by far the top dog on this fragile world and that no one has in the past, or will in the future supersede us. A most terrifying egotistical thought, and to top that, we even deem within our amazing conceit that we are almost totally responsible for all the good or bad that happens to this planet, its true!

Of course there is little doubt that we should accept some responsibility for the problems that beset this small fragile planet, although I would suggest the damage is mainly cosmetic, repairable by us or nature once our species has run its course. How long the latter will be depends on how we deal with our innate self importance.
Life on this planet is presently unfathomable, all existence almost certainly delicate and like everything and everyone, only able to take so much abuse. So take heed my friends; if we are not careful, arrogance and conceit will almost certainly be the final downfall of ourselves, all other life forms, even this very world that ably supports us.

Tuesday, August 25, 2009

Formula for Success

The more desire you have to improve some part of yourself, the more successful you'll become.

After every basketball game, a high school basketball coach watches the videotape and analyzes what the team did so he can reinforce the things the team did well and suggest ways to improve the things they didn't do well.

Just as the coach reviews the team's performance after every game so he can suggest ways to keep them in the win column, you should review your performance at work and develop a winning game plan. Actually, you can use the same strategy as the high school basketball coach. Here's the coach's winning formula:

Goals: First and foremost, you have to know what you're shooting for. In the team's case, it's to win. What are your goals at work? To be the best in your area or department? To get a promotion? To reduce the number of errors in your department? To increase productivity?

Skills: Once you have a goal, you must have the skills to be able to reach your goal. If you don't have them, you have to acquire them. If you want to be a computer programmer, for instance, then you must learn the language. Whatever you decide you want to do, you must learn and develop the skills necessary to put in a top performance every day.

Execution: Now, just having the skills doesn't mean you can use them well. You must be able to perform them to perfection. That means practice, practice, practice.

Support: We all need to work together to reach our goals. No one member of the basketball team can win the game alone. Players need one another and rely on one another to get the job done. The same applies at work (and at home and school too).

Leadership: The team has a captain or cocaptains -- leaders -- to ensure the team executes the coach's game plan. Companies need leaders who direct their efforts toward profitable endeavors.

Desire: Last, but by far not least, you must have the burning desire to reach your goal -- whatever that goal may be. You can possess the sharpest skills, execute them perfectly, and have the most support and the best leadership -- but if you don't care, chances are good you'll still fall short. You must WANT it. And that's what it takes to win. You can have anything you want if you want it desperately enough.

Don't get discouraged;It's usually the last key in the bunch that opens the lock. Author Unknown –

Friday, August 21, 2009

Change Your Point of View

by Joe Gracia

You've probably heard of Stephen Covey, author of "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People." He uses the word paradigm a lot, which simply means a belief, or a point of view.
Dr. Covey believes that you need to have a paradigm shift before you can make dramatic breakthroughs in your business success -- or your life.

Here's a story I heard a few years ago that illustrates the point perfectly.

Imagine you’re in London’s Heathrow Airport. While you’re waiting for your flight, you notice a kiosk selling shortbread cookies. You buy a box, put them in your traveling bag and then you patiently search for an available seat so you can sit down and enjoy your cookies.

Finally you find a seat next to a gentleman. You reach down into your traveling bag and pull out your box of shortbread cookies. As you do so, you notice that the gentleman starts watching you intensely. He stares as you open the box and his eyes follow your hand as you pick up the cookie and bring it to your mouth.

Just then he reaches over and takes one of your cookies from the box, and eats it! You’re more than a little surprised at this. Actually, you’re at a loss for words.

Not only does he take one cookie, but he alternates with you. For every one cookie you take, he takes one.

Now, what’s your immediate impression of this guy? Crazy? Greedy? He’s got some nerve?! Can you imagine the words you might use to describe this man to your associates back at the office?

Meanwhile, you both continue eating the cookies until there’s just one left. To your surprise, the man reaches over and takes it. But then he does something unexpected. He breaks it in half, and gives half to you.

After he’s finished with his half he gets up, and without a word, he leaves.

You think to yourself, "Did this really happen?" You’re left sitting there dumbfounded and still hungry. So you go back to the kiosk and buy another box of cookies.

You then return to your seat and begin opening your new box of cookies when you glance down into your traveling bag. Sitting there in your bag is your original box of cookies -- still unopened.

Only then do you realize that when you reached down earlier, you had reached into the other man’s bag, and grabbed his box of cookies by mistake.

Now what do you think of the man? Generous? Tolerant?

You've just experienced a profound paradigm shift. You’re seeing things from a new point of view.

Is it time to change your point of view?

Now, think of this story as it relates to your business. Perhaps you've been doing something the same way for years, but never stopped to think about how it could be done better. A little bit of research and brainstorming may make you see what you’re currently doing in a whole new light.

Maybe, you've only been using newspaper advertising to market your business, and haven’t been open to other methods of marketing.

Seeing things from a new point of view can be very enlightening.

Possibly, you've been annoyed at one particular client who may have complained about some aspect of your service, but when you actually take the time to understand his frustration and his point of view, you may suddenly experience an entirely different perspective.

After all, he may have just helped you to avoid problems with future customers.

Think outside the box. Don’t settle for the status quo. Be open to suggestions. Be open to changing your point of view.

Things may not be what they seem.

The secret of success is hidden in your daily routine.-- Jody Victor –

Thursday, August 20, 2009

Grow Great by Dreams

The question was once asked of a highly successful businessman: "How have you done so much in your lifetime?"

He replied, "I have dreamed. I have turned my mind loose to imagine what I wanted to do. Then I have gone to bed and thought about my dreams. In the night I dreamt about my dreams. And when I awoke in the morning, I saw the way to make my dreams real. While other people were saying, 'You can't do that, it isn't possible,' I was well on my way to achieving what I wanted." As Woodrow Wilson, 28th President of the U.S., said: "We grow great by dreams. All big men are dreamers."

They see things in the soft haze of a spring day, or in the red fire on a long winter's evening. Some of us let these great dreams die, but others nourish and protect them; nourish them through bad days until they bring them to the sunshine and light which comes always to those who sincerely hope that their dreams will come true."

So please, don't let anyone steal your dreams, or try to tell you they are too impossible.

"Sing your song, dream your dreams, hope your hope and pray your prayer."

Wednesday, August 19, 2009

Don't Change the World

Once upon a time, there was a king who ruled a prosperous country. One day, he went for a trip to some distant areas of his country. When he was back to his palace, he complained that his feet were very painful, because it was the first time that he went for such a long trip, and the road that he went through was very rough and stony. He then ordered his people to cover every road of the entire country with leather. Definitely, this would need thousands of cows' skin, and would cost a huge amount of money.

Then one of his wise servant dared himself to tell the king, "Why do you have to spend that unnecessary amount of money ? Why don't you just cut a little piece of leather to cover your feet ?" The king was surprised, but he later agreed to his suggestion, to make a "shoe" for himself.

There is actually a valuable lesson of life in this story : to make this world a happy place to live, you better change yourself - your heart; and not the world.

Tuesday, August 18, 2009

Weakness or Strength?

Sometimes your biggest weakness can become your biggest strength. Take, for example, the story of one 10-year-old boy who decided to study judo despite the fact that he had lost his left arm in a devastating car accident.

The boy began lessons with an old Japanese judo master. The boy was doing well, so he couldn't understand why, after three months of training the master had taught him only one move.

"Sensei," the boy finally said, "Shouldn't I be learning more moves?"

"This is the only move you know, but this is the only move you'll ever need to know," the sensei replied.

Not quite understanding, but believing in his teacher, the boy kept training.

Several months later, the sensei took the boy to his first tournament. Surprising himself, the boy easily won his first two matches. The third match proved to be more difficult, but after some time, his opponent became impatient and charged; the boy deftly used his one move to win the match. Still amazed by his success, the boy was now in the finals.

This time, his opponent was bigger, stronger, and more experienced. For a while, the boy appeared to be overmatched. Concerned that the boy might get hurt, the referee called a time-out. He was about to stop the match when the sensei intervened.

"No," the sensei insisted, "Let him continue."

Soon after the match resumed, his opponent made a critical mistake: he dropped his guard. Instantly, the boy used his move to pin him. The boy had won the match and the tournament. He was the champion.

On the way home, the boy and sensei reviewed every move in each and every match. Then the boy summoned the courage to ask what was really on his mind.

"Sensei, how did I win the tournament with only one move?"

"You won for two reasons," the sensei answered. "First, you've almost mastered one of the most difficult throws in all of judo. And second, the only known defense for that move is for your opponent to grap your left arm."

The boy's biggest weakness had become his biggest strength.

Monday, August 17, 2009

What's the Secret of Success?

"Takes pain," said the window.
"Keep cool," said the ice.
"Drive hard," said the hammer.
"Be up to date," said the calender.
"Never be led," said the pencil.
"Be sharp," said the knife.
"Make light around you," said the fire.
"Stick to it," said the glue.
"Be bright," said the lamp.

Comfort Zone

I use to have a Comfort Zone
Where I knew I couldn't fail
The same four walls of busy work
Were really more like jail.

I longed so much to do the things
I'd never done before,
But I stayed inside my Comfort Zone
And paced the same old floor

I said it didn't matter,
That I wasn't doing much
I said I didn't care for things
Like diamonds, furs and such

I claimed to be so busy
With the things inside my zone,
But deep inside I longed for
Something special of my own.

I couldn't let my life go by,
Just watching others win.
I held my breath and stepped outside
And let the change begin.

I took a step and with new strength
I'd never felt before,
I kissed my Comfort Zone "goodbye"
And closed and locked the door.

If you are in a Comfort Zone,
Afraid to venture out,
Remember that all winners were
At one time filled with doubt.

A step or two and words of praise,
Can make your dreams come true.
Greet your future with a smile,
Success is there for you!

Friday, August 14, 2009

Don't Quit

When things go wrong as they sometimes will,
When the road you're trudging seems all uphill,
When funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh.
When care is pressing you down a bit.
Rest, if you must, but don't you quit.
Life is queer with its twists and turns
As every one of us sometimes learns.
And many a failure turns about
When he might have won had he stuck it out:
Don't give up though the pace seems slow –
You may succeed with another blow.
Success is failure turned inside out –
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt.
And you never can tell how close you are.
It may be near when it seems so far:
So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit
It's when things seem worst that you must not quit.

Thursday, August 13, 2009

Big Difference

The Boss drives his men, The Leader inspires them..

The Boss depends on authority, The Leader depends on goodwill..

The Boss evokes fear, The Leader radiates love..

The Boss says "I", The Leader says "We"..

The Boss shows who is wrong, The Leader shows what is wrong..

The Boss knows how it is done, The Leader knows how to do it..

The Boss demands respect, The Leader commands respect..

Wednesday, August 12, 2009

Creating Opportunity

An enterprising person is one who comes across a pile of scrap metal and sees the making of a wonderful sculpture. An enterprising person is one who drives through an old dilapidated part of town and sees a new housing development. An enterprising person is one who sees opportunity in all areas of life.

To be enterprising is to keep your eyes open and your mind active. It's to be skilled enough, confident enough, creative enough and disciplined enough to seize opportunities that present themselves... regardless of the economy.

A person with an enterprising attitude says, "Find out what you can before action is taken." Do your homework. Do the research. Be prepared. Be resourceful. Do all you can in preparation of what's to come.

Enterprising people always see the future in the present. Enterprising people always find a way to take advantage of a situation, not be burdened by it. And enterprising people aren't lazy. They don't wait for opportunities to come to them, they go after the opportunities. Enterprise means always finding a way to keep yourself actively working toward your ambition.

Enterprise is two things. The first is creativity. You need creativity to see what's out there and to shape it to your advantage. You need creativity to look at the world a little differently. You need creativity to take a different approach, to be different.

What goes hand-in-hand with the creativity of enterprise is the second requirement: the courage to be creative. You need courage to see things differently, courage to go against the crowd, courage to take a different approach, courage to stand alone if you have to, courage to choose activity over inactivity.

And lastly, being enterprising doesn't just relate to the ability to make money. Being enterprising also means feeling good enough about yourself, having enough self worth to want to seek advantages and opportunities that will make a difference in your future. And by doing so you will increase your confidence, your courage, your creativity and your self-worth, your enterprising nature.

Tuesday, August 11, 2009


Forgetfulness is like a song
That, freed from beat and measure, wanders.
Forgetfulness is like a bird whose wings are reconciled,
Outspread and motionless,
-- A bird that coasts the wind unwearyingly.

Forgetfulness is rain at night,
Or an old house in a forest, -- or a child.
Forgetfulness is white, -- white as a blasted tree,
And it may stun the sybil into prophecy,
Or bury the Gods.

I can remember much forgetfulness.

Harold Hart Crane

Monday, August 10, 2009

4 tips to a Lifetime Happiness

How many Mornings do you wake to with low energy or low self esteem. Sometimes, you don't even know you are feeling down. It becomes a habit to start out each day feeling bad. I want to offer some tips to add to every morning, that will only take a few minutes each day to Yield a Lifetime of Happiness and Success.

Tip number 1.

Give yourself Victories each day Often we are our own worst enemy. We do not allow ourselves the chance to feel joy when we accomplish the smallest things. Get used to Verbalizing out loud and in writing the word Victory. When you wake up in the morning, say out loud Victory! After you get ready, Say out loud Victory! When you arrive at work safely say Victory! After accomplishing each thing on your to do list say VICTORY! Give yourself many victories a day and you will see the change in your feelings. Write them in your day runner or daytimer or whatever you use. Organize yourself each day, when you finish an appointment, no matter the outcome, say Victory and WRITE THE WORD VICTORY IN YOUR PLANNER. We are beginning to reprogram our minds. We are getting rid of the old programing and adding the new Happiness program!

Tip number 2.

Every Morning when you wake up: Write down 3 things that you are thankful for. Sounds easy doesn't it? There is a catch. You can only write down 3 I am thankful for items each day. Everyday, they have to be different I am Thankful fors. A friend of mine tells the story about me, that one day I wrote down I was thankful for Toothpaste, Toe Nails and Ears. He thought that was funny, but what would we do without those things. There are many wonderful people on the earth, who do not have each of them. There are so many little things in life we fail to remember and show gratitude for. It is important to write I am thankful for _________. That action will create a reaction of Positive feelings and gratitude in our subconscious. Get a small journal or notebook to keep all your thankful lists in. After 3 weeks of that small exercise I would like to hear of your results. Keep it going for a lifetime and you will find a new person.

Tip number 3.

Look for ways to sincerely compliment others. One sure way to improve your self esteem is to tell others something good about them. Try it. If you are with a friend, instead of gripping about work or some other person, Offer them a sincere compliment. I am not just talking about trite words. I mean a sincere compliment. Example to a friend might be: I noticed that when you speak to others you offer them a very nice smile. or: When you come into the room, you really brighten it. Thank you. or: That outfit you are wearing is very flattering to you especially the color. or: I really like when you offer me advise, you are always so positive. I think you are getting the picture. By giving someone a sincere compliment, you will notice that you will find yourself with more self esteem, more friends, More happiness and more success.

Tip Number 4

Always say nice things about another. How many times have you been with a party or group of people and they are discussing another in a non flattering way. How many times have you told something about another that you asked the friend to not tell anyone and sure enough the person finds out, and their feelings are hurt. How many times have you been the victim of that same thing. It isn't fun is it? When someone asks you about another, your response should always be positive about that person. Everyone has something good about themselves. Find the good in others. Look for the good in others. When you look for the good and find the good in others, they will find the good in you. Anything you give out, you will receive. If you want more friends, be friendly. If you want more love, be loving.

If you want people to say nice things about you, even in private, say nice things about them. Stay away from negative speak and thought! Avoid it like the plague, for that is just what it is. Start today. Make a new habit. We all know that this new habit will take at least 21 days to take hold, But Stick To It!!. Yes you can. Yes you will, Yes you are doing it. You are born into this life with the ability to gain all. You are born a winner. Somewhere we loose the little things that will buoy us up. Write these 4 tips down and track your Victories. I promise you that in 3 weeks you will find the real Happy you!

Tip Number 1. Give yourself Victories each day
Tip Number 2. Write 3 things that you are thankful for everyday. Each day it must be different
Tip Number 3. Look for ways to sincerely compliment another
Tip Number 4. Always say nice things about Someone. Thank you for reading this article. I appreciate your interest.

Saturday, August 8, 2009

Neutralizing Your Two Major Fears

By: Brian Tracy

The Greatest Obstacle to Success
The fear of failure is the single greatest obstacle to success in adult life. Taken to its extreme, we become totally pre-occupied with not making a mistake, with seeking approval for security above all other considerations. The experience of the fear of failure is in the words of "I can't", "I can't." We feel it in the front of the body, starting at the solar plexus and moving up to the rapid beating of the heart, rapid breathing and a tight throat. We also experience this fear in the bladder and in the irresistible need to run to the bathroom.

The Fear of Rejection Holds You Back
The second major fear that interferes with performance and inhibits expression, is the fear of rejection. We learn this when our parents make their love conditional upon our behavior. If we do what pleases them, they give us love and approval. If we do something they don't like, they withdraw their love and approval-which we interpret as rejection.

The Roots of Type A Behavior

As adults, people raised with conditional love become preoccupied with the opinions of others. Many men develop Type A behavior which is characterized by hostility, suspicion and an obsession with performance to some undetermined high standard. This is expressed in the attitude of "I have to, I have to," and is associated with the feeling that "I have to work harder and accomplish more in order to please the boss" who has become a surrogate parent.

The Most Common Trap

More than 99 percent of adults experience both these fears of failure and rejection. They are caught in the trap of feeling, "I can't, but "I have to," "I have to," but "I can't."

The Key to Peak Performance
The antidote to these fears is the development of courage, character and self-esteem. The opposite of fear is actually love, self-love and self-respect. Acting with courage in a fearful situation is simply a technique that boosts our regard for ourselves to such a degree that our fears subside and lose their ability to effect our behavior and our decisions.

Action Exercises

Here are two things you can do to increase your self-esteem and self-confidence and overcome your fears.

First, realize and accept that you can do anything you put your mind to. Repeat the words, "I can do it! I can do it!" whenever you feel afraid for any reason.

Second, continually think of yourself as a valuable and important person and remember that temporary failure is the way you learn how to succeed.

"Perform at Your Best - No Matter What!"

Friday, August 7, 2009

3 Strong Reasons to Take Action Today

"The possibilities are numerous once we decide to act and not react." George Bernard Shaw

One of the biggest mistakes I believe people make when trying to improve their lives is one of the simplest. They just don't take action based on what they learn from blogs or books.

And that's no good at all.

If you aren't already taking action and doing so consistently you really need to start now. Here are 3 powerful reasons why.
  • No one is coming.
    This may sound a bit harsh. But the sooner you realize that no one else will do this for you the quicker you will improve your life. Personal responsibility is essential to improve and control your own life. Without that what you want will stay a dream or a sporadic activity/dabbling that leads to pretty much nothing in the long term.
    You can blame your problems and lack of success on anyone you like and waste your time and energy. You can get help from family, friends, books or blogs. But your life is your responsibility and it's up to you to create in the way you choose to.

  • Apply the knowledge or it is pretty worthless a lot of the time.
    Yeah, reading this blog, other blogs or books can make you feel good. You are learning about all of this awesome and useful information so it kinda feels like you are making progress and improving your life.
    Now, reading positive and helpful material can help motivate you in a world where you may be surrounded by more negative inputs like the news or people around you. Nothing wrong with that. I personally find it to be a good habit to spend a bit of time with a good personal development book rather than an extra half hour a day watching the news.
    But I believe that many people fool themselves into thinking that reading in some way will replace action. That reading will take care of your problems in some magical way. I used to think so. It´s at the same time a pleasurable and frustrating headspace to be in. You tend to read a lot and think that the next thing will be the magic pill that will finally solve your problem.

  • You understand by doing.

    There are no real magic pills of course. That idea is created by immaturity in person who still thinks to him/herself: "Mommy, it want it now!".
    When you read a lot you think that you understand things. But you never really understand anything until your experience it. Yes, knowledge can help you to avoid pitfalls and improve quicker. But it can't relate how it feels to experience something. And it can't relate how you experience something since we are all a bit different from each other.
    When you start doing things you might also discover that things are often a bit more messy in real life than in books where it may seem like you only have to follow a clean ten step method to get the results you want. But that's part of the fun of living life rather than just thinking and reading about it.

Thursday, August 6, 2009

Successful Management - 10 Simple People Skills

Here are ten things you can do, which will remarkably change the response you get from your people, the key asset you have in your business or organization:-

  • Just Have Conversations About anything - Talking to and more importantly, listening to your people regularly and informally is a great asset. It doesn't matter what it's about, Your understanding of them and their trust in you will magnify if you devote priority time to this each and every day.

  • Listen & Show you are Listening - Take the time to really listen to each of your people, rather than just tell. If you truly hear, they will respond. Hearing is more - it is about what you do with the stuff you've listened to. And by using your face, your body language, eye contact and what you say (see 3 below), you will go a long way to showing that you are listening closely.

  • Ask Another Question - Such a simple tactic. Ask secondary questions about what you've been told. Nothing, but nothing builds rapport and relationships like this. It shows that what they have been telling you is valuable, is interesting and builds their confidence. And you have been there to make that happen.

  • Support - Your people need you to help them along the way. With your support, they will flower and grow. Support is what they hear from you - it works both ways.

  • Coach - Don't get bogged down with technicalities. Coaching is about helping them see where they want to get to from where they are now. It's about exploring the possibilities - their possibilities, not yours and calling to action. Simple as that.

  • Clear Expectations - By ensuring that all your people know exactly what you expect of them, they will tune in to delivering it. Confusion over performance is demoralizing and saps energy. Take the time to be clear.

  • Pay attention - In any conversation with your people, take the time to give your full attention. Do your utmost to avoid being interrupted or distracted and truly value them for what they are saying to you - or the message you are giving them.

  • Show an Interest in Them - These are real people and if you delve a little, it will show up. Having a real interest in who they are, their hopes and fears, their passions and what's important to them makes a big, big difference to how they perceive you. Get to know the name of their dog, if their dog is their most prized possession!

  • Follow Through - During conversations you may offer actions that will be of value to them. Responses to what they have said to you. Make sure that you deliver these. Follow up and report back. Take actions you say you will. If you can't, tell them why.

  • Remember Conversations - When you have subsequent conversations, recall something that was said previously and bring it up. This is hugely rewarding for them and lets them know that they said something of value.

Great managers really understand their people and work out ways to get the best out of every one of them.

Wednesday, August 5, 2009

5 Steps to Relationship Marketing Success!

Relationship marketing delivers many benefits to a design firm, big or small. Slowly but surely, as you build your client and prospect list, you'll be able to reduce marketing expenses, build referrals, and grow your business in step with your clients' needs.

  • Change your Perspective from "Here's what I do" to "What do you need?" The cornerstone of successful relationships is to discover precisely what your clients need and want. Your clients say they need a Website. But what they mean is they need to increase sales revenue. You can develop the right kind of site to do that, but only if you understand your client's basic needs. You find those out by asking questions: lots and lots of questions!

  • Recognize your Vulnerability
    In the midst of a project, you might be in touch with your client several times a week. But it's the time between projects that is crucial to relationship-building. Once the work is done, you drop out of that enviable top-of-mind awareness position. Over time, your client isn't as likely to think of you as their first port of call for a solution to their problem. This is when you're most vulnerable to replacement by a competitor.
    Fortunately, an affordable solution can help you retain those clients you worked so hard to acquire.

  • Keep in touch
    It's such a simple concept, but keeping in touch often sinks to the bottom of the 'to do' list. The single easiest way to keep in touch is to publish an email newsletter. Ask clients to subscribe and insert a subscription box on your site to capture email addresses of prospects who like the look of what you're doing.
    The secret to a good newsletter is to avoid blatant self-promotion, and instead offer valuable information to your subscribers. With their permission, you have the opportunity to drop into their email boxes every month with news, tips, case-studies, FAQs, and other relevant info that subtly promotes your services, reinforces your brand, educates your clients, and builds trust.

  • Position Yourself as an Expert
    So many Web designer sites are elegant portfolios, and while they look great, they don't say anything. Words matter. Prospective clients are looking for more than thumbnail images of sites you've built. Your job is to tell them how you can meet their needs. Your Website is the perfect place to start, but the focus must be on the client, not on you.
    Include white papers on design issues, special reports, case-studies, and links to other resources that will educate your clients on the inner workings of design. Be careful to avoid jargon, overly technical concepts and acronyms. If you're publishing an email newsletter, use it to introduce this new content and bring subscribers back to your site.
    When you are perceived as an expert, you become attractive to prospects who use the Web to research. They see you as someone who has answers to their questions, and who can help solve their problems. Not only that, the added site content should also improve your search engine rankings.

  • Grow to Meet Client Needs
    Websites are hardly stand-alone entities that need an occasional tweak. For most businesses, they're but one tool amidst many that are used to build brand, inease revenues or minimize costs. And by offering more tools that help your clients reach their goals, you become more valuable. Build affiliations or strategic relationships with copywriters, photographers, search engine marketers, and other specialists whose talents will benefit your clients.

Tuesday, August 4, 2009

Create Your Daily Personal Growth and Development Activity Schedule

- By Brian Tracy

There are seven disciplines you must develop if you want to achieve all that is possible for you. You can learn these disciplines through practice and repetition until they become automatic.

Goal Setting - Every morning, take three to five minutes to write out your top goals in the present tense. Get a spiral notebook for this purpose. By writing out your ten goals at the beginning of each day, you will program them deep into your subconscious mind.
This daily goal writing will activate your mental powers. It will stimulate your mind and make you more alert. Throughout the day, you will see opportunities and possibilities to move more rapidly toward your goals.

Planning and Organizing - Take a few minutes, preferably the night before, to plan out every activity of the coming day. Always work from a list. Always think on paper. This is one of the most powerful and important disciplines of all for high performance.

Concentration on your Highest-Value Activities - Your ability to work single-mindedly on your most important task will contribute as much to your success as any other discipline you can develop.

Exercise and Proper Nutrition - Your health is more important than anything else. By disciplining yourself to exercise regularly and to eat carefully, you will promote the highest possible levels of health and fitness throughout your life.

Learning and Growth - Your mind is like a muscle. If you don't use it, you lose it. Continuous learning is the minimum requirement for success in any field.
Time for Important People in Your Life - Relationships are everything. Be sure that in climbing the ladder of success, you do not find it leaning against the wrong building. Build time for your relationships into every day, no matter how busy you get.

Action Exercise - These seven disciplines will ensure that you perform at the highest level and get the greatest satisfaction and results from everything you do. Study these seven disciplines and then make a plan for how you can incorporate each of them into your daily life.

Monday, August 3, 2009

The Hidden Reasons for Employee Nonperformance

The Hidden Reasons for Employee Nonperformance
They Don't Know Why They Should Do It
They Don't Know How To Do It
They Don't Know What They Are Supposed To Do
They Think Your Way Will Not Work
They Think Their Way Is Better
They Think Something Else Is More Important
There Is No Positive Consequence to Them for Doing It
They Think They Are Doing It
They Are Rewarded for Not Doing It
They Are Punished for Doing What They Are Supposed To Do
They Anticipate a Negative Consequence for Doing It
There Is No Negative Consequence to Them for Poor Performance
Obstacles Beyond Their Control
Their Personal Limits Prevent Them from Performing
Personal Problems
No One Could Do It
A New Management Approach That Gets You the Best Results
Use Preventive Management To Maintain Good Performance

Saturday, August 1, 2009

Tips to Ignite Innovation Inside Your Company… and Light Your Way out of the Recession

The recession is in full swing, and companies everywhere are feeling the pain. Yours is likely no exception. Shrinking budgets, sweeping layoffs, that's settled over your workforce make it hard to see the proverbial light at the end of the tunnel. Sometimes, even the most optimistic leader finds him or herself wondering, Is there an end to this particular tunnel? Sure there is, but you're going to have to excavate it yourself--and you're going to have to light your own way.

It’s not about product development. It’s about new services, business processes, means of communication, and methods of collaboration. Companies that can inspite innovative ideas--good, workable innovative ideas--will be able to adapt to the new realities we face. Those that can't, won't.

The spirit of innovation, of course, is people working together eagerly, intelligently, and productively. When this synergy happens, ideas pour forth like water. Innovation is all about good teamwork. It's really that simple.

So how can you deliberately create a more innovative culture at your company? Here are some tips to help you get started:
  • Understand the new role of leadership. The focus should be moving toward such "right-brained" skills and talents as creativity, empathy, intuition, and the ability to link seemingly unrelated objects and events into something new and different. That means leaders must a) create and maintain a safe, respectful environment where individual creativity can emerge to its fullest potential, and b) focus that creative energy in the right direction based upon the core purpose of the team and the targeted goals.
    If you're a "command and control" type, you'd better start rethinking your style. Today, successful leaders aren't flashy and aggressive. They lead through inspiration and collaboration. Look at your current behaviors and determine which are helping you achieve your vision for leadership through engagement and which are holding you back. Start small--and stick with it.

  • Search for untapped talent on your team. Frankly, it is in our individual and corporate nature to try to deal with differences by eliminating them. However, employees are far more complex and unique than they might appear at first glance. Unearthing the hidden talents your employees possess is the first step toward using these areas of hidden development to your team's advantage.
    Employees who are recognized as unique, and who are seen as having significant contributions to make, become more engaged and passionate about their work. They light up to far brighter levels than ever before. Look for the hidden strengths and untapped potential of your existing employees and you'll see them transform before your eyes. It's almost like hiring a team of new creative superstars.

  • Encourage creative abrasion…but swat ferocious fireflies. Are you uncomfortable with conflict in the workplace? Don't be. Conflict is natural, expected, and, because it's a sign of diverse thinking on your team, even desirable. You can call a productive conflict "creative abrasion." However, leaders must take steps to keep the conflict focused on the issues and not let team members direct their ire at one another personally. And you must deal with ferocious fireflies: toxic, manipulative employees who gain the trust of others on the team only to viciously turn on them later. If you have one on your team, you must eliminate him or her immediately. Otherwise, it will be impossible to build a culture of trust.

  • Deal with other, more insidious "trust busters," too. Besides the presence of a ferocious firefly there are three other problematic behaviors that damage or limit trust. They are: 1) a refusal to share personal information; 2) sarcasm disguised as humor; and 3) one or more disengaged members of the team.
    In order to innovate, people must be able to connect with each other in a real, deeply personal way. If just one person refuses to open up or truly engage, or if he throws barbs at other team members under the guise of humor, he'll cause an erosion of trust. And in the absence of trust, no real progress can be made.

  • Make sure quieter fireflies have a chance to glow. You've no doubt noticed that certain people naturally dominate the discussion while others tend to hang back and go with the flow. Problem is, if your big talkers and "star employees" are always allowed to verbally run over the quieter/less visible members of your team, the same ideas and solutions will always get implemented. Some simple tricks can prevent extroverts from taking over and introverts (who may have some brilliant ideas under their hats) from getting overlooked.
    Insist that everyone jot down their initial ideas in silence and then share them, round-robin style. Impose a time limit so that no one is able to out-talk her quieter teammates. Sometimes, simply moving a predictably dominant person away from the front of the room and parking her next to a more reserved team member can change group dynamics dramatically.

  • Don't let team leaders keep too tight a lid on the jar. Just as fireflies' lights fade when they're held captive, a leader who dominates and controls his or her team will squash creativity. If you're the leader, you must take deliberate steps not to do this. For instance, don't sit at the head of the table. Use positive reinforcement (both verbally and nonverbally). Don't get into a prolonged conversation with only one or two other team members. If you're not very, very careful, you'll end up biasing the people in the room by virtue of your position of power.
    People have a natural tendency to defer to the leader, even when he or she is trying very hard not to be dominating. You have to watch everything: tone of voice, body language, facial expressions… everything.

  • Make meetings fun, exciting, and inviting. For instance, you might bring a creativity toy or two--something interesting enough to engage someone's hands but not so fascinating that it distracts them from the reason for the meeting. Use a whiteboard rather than the dreaded flipchart. And try techniques like mind-mapping (for left-brain thinkers) or brain-writing (for right-brain thinkers) to get creativity flowing.
    Boredom and drudgery do not facilitate innovation and problem solving. That's why it's so important to make sure you're holding light, fun, engaging meetings that people actually want to attend. If they don't want to be there, they won't be in the right frame of mind to accomplish anything worthwhile--and they won't.

  • Shine the light of accountability on your team. Even the most energetic, productive meeting means nothing if people don't follow up the decisions they reach with action. As a team, create a common picture of what personal accountability looks like. Then, delegate very specific assignments to very specific people. Finally, set a date for a follow-up meeting in which everyone must report on whether they fulfilled their commitments, and if not, why not.
    Uncomfortable as this may feel at first, it shows everyone that lame excuses won't be tolerated. This applies to the leader as well.

  • From time to time, escape the office for a creative excursion. When you really need to tap into your team's creative talents and boost their ability to work together, you need to get offsite. Yes, even in--in fact, especially in--these stressful times. Like excursions that truly create lifelong lessons and connections you can immediately apply to improve your performance as a team and a business unit.