Wednesday, September 29, 2010
By Maria Parkinson
Happiness is something all of us seek and yet, many of us never find. We seem to think that one day "we will be happy when we get a new car or a big house or get married............." and the list goes on and on. Or, the other side of the coin is that we feel we should be happy every minute of the day and when we are not then something is very wrong!
The thing is, if we are continually searching for happiness in the outside world, we will be very disappointed. It may feel as if we are forever chasing it around the next corner with our butterfly net and it is always just one step away.
Happiness is a fleeting state of mind, just like the state of sadness or joy or anger. It is unrealistic and it would not be appropriate for us to be in a happy state 24 hours a day. If you think that sounds ridiculous, think about being at a funeral when everyone is mourning. Would it feel right to go about with a huge grin on your face?
Not only that but how boring would life be if we were all constantly happy? Contrast in our lives helps us grow and understand the value of all experiences. We need to be able to respond in all manner of ways according to what we are dealing with at any given time. All emotions and states are part of the rich tapestry of life.
Happiness can be found in reaching out and being in relationship with all things and people. It is about appreciating the little moments in life because these become our happy memories.
Happiness is a dance with whatever is in front of you. It is a deep connection to everything around you. It does not come from expecting others to bring you joy but rather stems from how you can create joy for others.
If you want to experience happiness more often, see what you can do to put a smile on someone else's face each day and notice how much happier you feel when you have achieved that.
Happiness is not to be found in material possessions. It is freely available to everyone at any time. All that is required to experience it is that you place your focus on moments in your life that make you smile.