Friday, July 30, 2010

Brain Chemistry and the Law of Attraction


By Kristine Clemenger


For those who need some science behind their mystery, I would like to write about the brain chemistry that takes place with positive and negative thinking and helps to facilitate the Law of Attraction and explain the underlying science behind the mysticism.

The mind is a powerful thing. The subconscious mind is always at work whether we know it or not. We all have many stories that we tell ourselves all day long, day in and day out. We have been telling ourselves these stories for so long and they are so deeply embedded in our psyches that we are often unaware of them. We tell ourselves things like "you are so stupid" or "you are so clumsy" or more happily, we tell ourselves "you are such a nice person" or "you can figure this out, you know how to do this". Regardless of the stories we tell ourselves whether they are helpful to us or harmful to us, our brains, our mind, our subconscious reacts accordingly. Our brains are like computers, what we feed into them and what they experience is what they put out. Garbage in, garbage out. Good stuff in, good stuff out!

Hypnotism, bio-feedback, imagery, positive thinking, and affirmations are all based on the same idea as the Law of Attraction and guiding your subconscious mind.

Our minds and brains are powerful. By using biofeedback, hypnosis, meditation and other techniques you can regulate your heart rate, temperature and blood flow. You can improve in a physical activity such as throwing free throws by practicing in your mind. Most professional and Olympic athletes employ this kind of training in addition to practicing with their physical bodies.

Thoughts can be so powerful they can cause physical reactions in your brain and your body. Negative thoughts (related to emotions such as anger, sadness, hopelessness etc.) release chemicals in your brain that make you feel bad and trigger physical reactions such as sweating, faster heart rate, shallow breathing, and tense muscles. Your brain and body then work in a less efficient manner. Conversely, when you think happy thoughts (related to emotions of love, joy and hopefulness) the opposite takes place; your heart rate slows, you feel calm, your breathing slows and deepens and your muscles relax. Your brain and body work better and more efficiently and your mind is calm and clear. We know these things from biofeedback machines and brain imaging studies. Positive thinking makes your brain work better and negative thinking actually decreases brain function.

As famous hypnotist Marshall Sylver says "thoughts are things". What is meant by this is that thoughts are measurable as electromagnetic energy just like everything else in the universe. And so thoughts also have a cause and effect. What we tell ourselves changes the way we act and react in the world. Those thoughts change our actions and how we live our lives. They cause us to behave differently and that in turn, causes others to react differently to us and may change the course of our lives dramatically.

Thursday, July 29, 2010

What Leadership is and How to Develop It


By Seth Czerepak


Is figuring out what leadership is as daunting of a question as say...the meaning of life?

Or maybe you've heard this one, "If a tree fell in the woods and no one was there to hear it, would it still make a sound? "

Are you tired of all this philosophy on what leadership is? Will creating a definition of leadership really help you become a better leader? What if, instead of postulating about the definition of leadership, we take a close look at great leaders in action and see what they really do.

How was Jesus Christ a great leader? Some may say it was because of his passion for service, given his selfless devotion to his disciples and all his followers. His form of leadership, originally popular in churches, has caught on in the corporate world, with several of Fortune Magazine's "100 Best Companies to Work For" now practicing it faithfully. Jesus believed leadership is stewardship. In the corporate world it's known as servant leadership.

Winston Churchill led England during one of the most turbulent times in history, World War II. England survived because of the vision Churchill helped create through his moving speeches. One such speech was his, "We will fight on the beaches..." speech delivered to the House of Commons in 1940. Churchill delivered a consistent message, throughout all his speeches, that no matter how dire the circumstances England would never give in to her enemies. In Churchill's eyes, leadership is clear vision.

Fred Smith, the founder of FedEx, first envisioned the company in a term paper while he was an undergraduate student at Yale. His time in the US Marine Corps convinced him that his business model was viable. Smith risked his entire $4 million inheritance on his fledgling startup, and soon learned the harsh realities of business when his company started losing $1 million per month. He then took a bigger risk by flying out to Las Vegas on a whim. $27,000 in blackjack winnings later, he realized good things may be just around the corner. For Smith, leadership is taking calculated risks.

These examples are far more effective at demonstrating what leadership is than any philosophical definition. When you put the elements we learned here together with influence, problem-solving, integrity, and perseverance you start to get a very clear picture of leadership, and it starts becoming quite obvious that leadership is really character. Character, for that matter, is built from living from unchanging principles.

Living by these principles helps you persevere when your dreams hang in the balance, rally your nation behind a single cause, and look fear in the eye and not blink when you know when, how and why your life must come to a tumultuous end. Character is the backbone of leadership, the backbone of principle-centered living, and the rock that will help you stay the course when the going gets rough.

Do you struggle with decisions sometimes because of all the external pressures pushing in on you? Do thoughts of winning others' approval, the cost of financial failure or your quest for perfection cloud your mind or sometimes make the decision for you? You're experiencing something very normal, but it's taking a toll on almost every area of your life, whether you realize it or not.

You have that rock solid foundation deep inside you, but it gets locked away when you need it the most. Download your free e-book, "The Human Condition", and start learning how to bring that foundation out of hiding so you can start embodying the character of a great leader.

Wednesday, July 28, 2010

How to Get The Best Out of Your Life


By James Jolie


In the future, more and more people will be spending a lot more time on living a full, happy and productive life. They will invest more time in learning about life, more time will be used for practicing living a good and fulfilling life and more time will be spent learning how to develop a good quality life for themselves.

If you spend 20 years playing tennis, you could become a tennis expert. You may even become a tennis champion. You could become a professional banker if you spend 10 or 20 years in a banking job. If you spend 20 to 30 years operating as a doctor, you would become a very experienced doctor. For 20 to 30 years, similarly, if you could sing songs; sing every day and practice a lot; you can be a very good singer.

Time decides your life results. So if you allow yourself to continue to learn all through your life about how to be happy, how to be healthy, how to get and keep a good relationship, how to become wise, how to become or stay young, how to have a good quality of life; you will become a professional at enjoying life's bountiful qualities.

Living a full, happy and productive life in the future will be what more and more people will be spending a lot more time on. More time will be spent learning how to develop a good quality life for themselves, and more time will be used for practicing living a good and fulfilling life as they will invest more time in learning about life itself.

It can never be reclaimed, so spend your time wisely. Use your time to learn how to get the very best out of your life... by learning more about you and your world. Soon it will be gone... you will only get one chance to use this minute.

Get the very most out of it ' just make sure you do that.

You can not influence the past, nor should you live in the future but you should spend your time making 'now' the very best you possibly can. What will happen in your life in the future will depend directly on what you think and do now. So, 'now' is very important when related to timing. You can not change the past, nor can you predict the future but you can influence 'now' by making it the very best minute of your life. If you deal with 'now' in a positive manner you will be able to positively affect your future.

The results that you will ultimately achieve in your own life will depend on how you spend your time.

To learn and improve your life seize the time now. Use that knowledge you learn to maximize your enjoyment of your life as you seize the time to learn about yourself. Seize the time to develop your life by implementing the plans that you similarly seized the time for when you decided to invest in your life... by planning for the future. Seize the time to get a new fashion life!

Tuesday, July 27, 2010

Self-Discipline in Your Workday


By Kristen Burgess

Productivity and success depend on discipline - that's a fact. It's also a fact that nobody else is going to come along and make you do what you need to do to succeed. You have to do it yourself - you must have self-discipline. If you lack this vital trait you'll find yourself completely dependent on others for external motivation - and you'll probably be pretty lazy, too. You lose respect in the eyes of your coworkers, friends, and employer.

There's an old term called "setting yourself to a task." It expresses what self-discipline is nicely. It's the ability to determine a task for yourself and get down to work on it - without needing anybody else to prod you along or make you work. You know something needs to be done, so you get it done.

You can start building self-discipline in yourself by getting the clock's help. Create a routine or schedule for your day and stick to it. Draw it up and when the clock says it's time to work, you work. When the clock says it's time for a break, you can take a break. When it says it's time to eat, go ahead and eat. You can use timers to help yourself, too.

If you really need help staying on task, this is the way to go. Just do what your schedule says. If that seems too rigid for you but you still need a little bit of help, create routines for certain parts of the day - for instance, what you do when you get up in the morning (including what time you drag yourself out of bed).

Stick to your schedule or routine and don't allow interruptions or getting side-tracked. These are external self-discipline tools you put in place for yourself. Stick to them.

Do remember that you need to give yourself breaks. Pushing yourself too hard will lead to burnout, so make taking a break here and there a priority. After two or three hours of working take a break and get up and walk around the block. Take a real break to eat - eat your meal and read a book, or eat then go for a walk. Do something to get away from your work a bit. Enjoy days off fully - go and have fun without dwelling on work.

These will give you a chance to recharge and come back to your with focus.

Remember to watch for distractions. Turn off or get rid of things that distract you. Avoid multi-tasking.

Self-discipline will be much easier for you if you learned it as a child, but even if you had a fairly responsibility-free childhood and struggle with discipline now, you can learn the habits you need. Remove distractions and set up external controls.

It is OK to ask for help with accountability if you're really struggling. If you have a project you're working on, ask a close friend, your spouse, or even your mom to hold you accountable. Each time you talk to that person on the phone they can ask you if you've worked on it. Just knowing that someone else is holding you accountable can help you develop self-discipline and persistence.

Monday, July 26, 2010

Funny Quotes - Adding Fun to Life


By Brian Kuvic


Fun frolic and festivity is a part of life. All of us like to celebrate together and this needs a medium of communication. Communication without humor would be like a garland without flowers. It would then be a routine process of transferring information without any newness and excitement. But thankfully things are not so. Life is full of plethora of emotions like- love, anger, happiness, anger etc. One such emotion is fun and it goes without saying that fun is an important part of every domain of our life. Amidst these, the funny quotes play a major role. Be it a normal day to day conversation or a formal presentation, a pinch of humor through such phrases makes the complete atmosphere more amiable and interactive

One recent development in the use of such hilarious quotes has been on the social networking sites where people put random thoughts, messages and quotes on public forums like Orkut, Facebook and Twitter. This has been a recent method to catch attention of their friends and acquaintances as this way they can interact with them frequently and with ease. The variety of topics they post on such forums varies but humor is always one of the most favored topics for the same. People write quotes written by them or copy it from different sources, but the motive remains the same, popularity and affinity with the fellow mates. And this successfully works for a majority of people because everyone likes fun and enjoyment irrespective of their color, nationality or any other parameter. This is because other things like choice of music, eating habits or dressing sense may vary from person to person or from region to region but a taste for fun never changes. Almost everyone understands this form of communication and also enjoy it at the same time

Funny quotes can be made for any topic on earth ranging from serious issues like politics and love to trivial every day issues like classroom or cooking. It depends on the sense of humor of the person to extract out the fun of ordinary moments. There are a few exceptionally gifted people who can make up funny phrases from every situation of life. Such are the kind of people who brighten up the lives of everyone around them and spread happiness around

Sometimes these funny quotes are also used to spread serious messages to the vast audience from diverse background because humor appeals to all. This helps people spread the message quite easily. It has also been increasingly used for social welfare and for business purposes. One of the most evident examples of this is the use of humorous sayings in print and outdoor advertisements and also in television commercials. Everyone, be it kids or adults like such advertisements and remember it for a longer period of time which translates into the success of the brand. This formula has been used for ages and is still effective and successful. Such quotes are used in taglines too so that people remember them. As a result of this connection, people also tend to use these quotes in normal everyday conversation which also helps people increase the brand recall

People also use such quotes in greetings and messages to people they care about. They do so to bring a smile on their faces

We can say that funny quotes add that spice to life which helps break the monotony of life and also brings people close to each other by sharing the smiles and laughter together with each other. This helps them build a bond among each other which is built on the base of smiles and laughter. This strong foundation helps relationships to bloom and also create happy memories from them

This tool is used by all for a variety of purposes; right from a normal human being to great authors like George Eliot. Big literary geniuses have said intelligent things in the most humorous way and there lies their skill. This is a very trivial thing but it has so intrinsically meshed with our life that we cannot separate it. They are now such an important part of life that we cannot imagine life without it

Saturday, July 24, 2010

Do You FEEL Successful? The Secret to High Performance (Emotional Intelligence)


By Dave C Hawkins


There's a great ocean between thinking, and doing. Everyone's got that golden invention that would tip the world upside down - millionaires overnight they'd be. But millions of people keep their ideas to themselves. Millions of opportunities live, and die in one mind.

But what comes of 'feeling' and doing. Is feeling and doing the same as thinking and doing? They couldn't be further apart...

"Trusting your gut instinct."

When people 'feel' and do, it's immediate. It's not a thought, it's just done. True achievement is when people continuously act/react on feeling, alone. They've practiced so much that the instructions don't even need to become a thought - it's instinct, it's habit, and it's like a God playing with mortals.

So why are people so full of broken aspirations and hollow dreams?

When we 'think,' we are translating feelings into thoughts. These feelings are messages from our instincts, our habits, our hormones, (the 90%) and even what we're physically seeing. By the time we've stopped to think, our logical brain has already desperately started to rationalise these messages.

During this process we get all the mixed messages. Now we have countless messages that your logical mind is trying to put some meaning to. Eventually we 'rationalise' the answer but by now it's hopelessly corrupt.

We get the following - · What if... · But... · I can't do that... · I'm not ready...

IMPORTANT POINT Our instincts, habits and hormones manifest themselves, if at all, in our conscious mind (10%) through feelings. When we act on feelings we are harnessing the raw power of the emotional mind. (90%) Star performance comes when you have put the conscious time into training, and have taught your unconscious mind all it needs to act upon. Through thinking you contaminate the message, and it results in limited performance.

When you have put your 10,000 hours into any one practice, whether that is playing the violin, or learning a martial art, true skill isn't about conscious focus. It's about living in the moment and just doing it.

"When you feel you get results"

Story: Ace!

As I write this book, a Tennis match has just this minute finished that will change the face of tennis; and no doubt the perceived stamina potential of humans. The previous record held for the longest game of tennis, if I'm getting my facts right, was 24 games to 26, which in itself was an incredible score when you consider the average game is a straight 'first to six games wins.'

It's Wimbledon 2010; American born John Isner is playing French born Nicolas Mahut. They're up to 59 games all and still serving at 120 mph. The powers that be, however, have decided to call it a night. It's getting dark. The next day the mutual resilience continues. Finally though, one relents. John Isner breaks away to win the game at a phenomenal 70 games to 68, after 11 hours 5 minutes of full throttle tennis. The match was stopped for the evening at 59 games all but it still stands to reason...

E.I Skills displayed: - Self Awareness - Communications - Handling Stress - Managing Feelings - Assertiveness

- How did they go on for so long? There are two explanations:
1. Both players were of an extremely close ability in performance.
2. Comparatively, they had very strong mentalities - this is where E.I plays a part.

These players, from the moment they stepped out onto the court were in 'feeling' mode, they would rely on all those years of training, the leveraging of the 90%, as the game progressed. If these players had been thinking, they would have 'thought' they were tired and 'rationally' called it a night after say, 20 games. If they were 'thinking' it would have destroyed that natural focus. They were just feeling, and as a result of that, they would have continued to play until their bodies collapsed.

"A thoroughbred horse will run until its heart bursts and it dies on the spot. A man will go to thirty per cent of his capacity and then he drops - but he is not dead by a long way. At this stage the mind must take over or force or fear takes over the mind to extract another thirty percent at least that is available." -- Legionnaire, by Simon Murray

How can YOU become a star performer?

"Every battle is won before it is ever fought" -- Sun Tzu

To put it simply, the single most important aspect is to prepare -- simple as that. Ask any fitness coach in the world, and they will tell you the most important part of your exercise routine is the warm-up.

If you don't prepare, acting on feeling alone is suicide, you simply can't leverage the power of your 90% because it doesn't know anything. Just because you 'feel', doesn't mean you should. But the more prepared you are, the better position you are in to rely on your 90% when it takes control in stressful performing conditions.

"Numerous experiments have conclusively found that abilities to handle emotions are better indicators of future success, than I.Q levels"

We humans are hard wired to 'know,' or rather, think we 'know'. Following, is a small section from a book called The Intelligent Investor. It's a seminal work on stock investing by Benjamin Graham, a man who taught Warren Buffett a thing or two. Incidentally, it's a book that reinforces emotional control over intellect, and if Warren Buffet endorses it, you know he was talking some sense.

"It turns out that our brains are hard wired to get us into investing trouble; humans are pattern-seeking animals. Psychologists have shown that if you present people with a random sequence-and tell them that it's unpredictable-they will nevertheless insist on trying to guess what's coming next. Likewise, we "know" that the next roll of the dice will be a seven, that a baseball player is due for a base hit, that the next winning number in the Powerball lottery will definitely be 4-27-9-16-42-10-and that this hot little stock is the next Microsoft."...Just remember this on your next holiday to Vegas, ok?

If, on the other hand, you have prepared, (and the line between being prepared and not prepared is hazy but read on) your chances of success are raised. Even if you fail, your mistakes will give you vital clues about the state of your 90%.

Just one mistake 'in the field' is better than endless preparation. Why? Because preparation becomes repetition and a mistake becomes pathos.

Imagine a player who has natural talent. This player is using his 10% very efficiently; it just makes sense to him. Take a seasoned professional who is leveraging 90% and you begin to see a whole different game. 90% is not only more powerful, but it's more consistent too, because it doesn't rely on the 'accident prone' 10% (the conscious mind).

Action Steps...

Do you understand the difference between thinking and doing, and feeling and doing?

Do you understand why people don't achieve?

Do you understand that great performance is about relying on your 90%?

Do you understand that when you feel, you get results?

Do you understand the importance of preparation?

Do you accept that we humans are wired to see what's not there? (Dice patterns, the weather, you name it. Even ghosts!)

Friday, July 23, 2010

Read Fast For Obtaining More Knowledge


By Joanna Davis


In this globalization era, the lifestyle forces us to live instantly. Learn everything fast and do anything quick. It will give efficient time for us to get all what we want. To jump start you must know how to read fast. In this case you need to learn speed reading.

Yeah, it will assist you to read information quick. Once you know how to read speedy, you'll obtain knowledge more. For you know, our reading speed changes as we grow in life. In high school, we typically read 200 words per minute. On university, our reading speed faster into 4 words per minute. After we graduate from campus, our reading skill drops into 200 words per minute. Of course, you won't lose your capability in reading, right? Get the basic techniques to develop your speed reading.

1. Don't be focused in every single word

You are rather to look at group of 2 to 3 words. For example, For instance, this sentence could be grouped in this manner. When you read the sentence, it's better for you to divide into: for instance / this sentence / could be grouped / in this manner.

2. Improve Vocabulary

When you find new words, you must familiarize yourself with this word. So, when you read the same word, you will not be confused.

3. Don't Move Your Lips

If you are typically person who always move your lips when read a book, for speed reading force yourself to read fast. Try to apply the first tip above and it will make you stop to move your lips.

4. Read More

Ensure yourself to spare 15 minutes of daily time to read a novel. It equals to 18 books a year. The more books you can improve speed reading.

5. Know the Reason

When you are reading a book, you must know the purpose. If you only want to find the main ideas, you can skim the material. For speed reading, it is okay you are not focus in every word.

6. Speed Up

Improve your own skill with spend few minute a day. Read a book faster than your average time. You can use your hand or an index card to guide your eyes. Time yourself to read few pages at your normal speed. And compare it! It will help you to obtain more information in limit time.

Thursday, July 22, 2010

Life Needs Happiness


By Gerry Hopman


When you smile at someone, the person will smile back, except perhaps for some of the grouches. You do this with everyone you meet, soon more people will be smiling.

Smiling and laughing are contagious. A research study done at Harvard Medical School, University of California, San Diego, found that happiness spreads amongst people up to to three degrees removed from one another.

What this indicates is if you are happy, your friend and your friend's friend's friend will be happier as a result of the initial happiness you shared.

Realizing that someone is happy makes you 15% more likely to be happy yourself. Research also found that people who have more social connections lead happier lives.

Happiness is influenced by the personalities we are born with and can be nurtured in how we take care of ourselves. in other words, everyone can increase his/her happiness if he/she knows how to look for it, work at it, and take hold of it.

As you become more engaged with other people and activities, the level of joy tends to increase. To increase and maintain happiness in your life - set goals!

The happiest people have clear, concise and purposeful goals. Goals that stem from your own individual desires and interests are the ones to pursue.

It is the pursuit of the goal and not the goal itself that brings about joy and feeds the feelings of independence, self-confidence, accomplishment and happy fulfillment.

Remember! If you lose your zest for laughter - you lose your zest for life.

Wednesday, July 21, 2010

How to Cut Time Wasting From Your Marketing Life in Three Steps


By Thom Lancaster


It's amazing how much time every marketer wastes. Time which can better be spent creating products, or otherwise trying to grow your online business. In this article I want to expose three things that you are probably doing, each of which is taking away valuable minutes from your day. Even if you're only making one of these three mistakes, if this costs you 10 minutes a day, that's over an hour a week you could save. Over the course of a year, you could create multiple products in that time.

The first thing you are probably doing is checking your e-mail too often. Make it a rule that you will only check your e-mail once or twice a day. There' s no reason why you need to deal with every single e-mail the second it enters your mail box. People will only expect that if you start to set it as a precedent. Instead, make people understand that you operate under a predefined system where e-mail, although important, doesn't rule your life. People can still contact you if they have an urgent need. That's what telephones are for.

The second thing you should do is to turn up instant messenger. It's amazing what a time sink this is. Once people get into the idea they can contact you and expect an immediate response you'll find that you are drawn into conversations and struggle to get things done. It's okay if you're a messenger addict. You can still set aside a predetermined period of your day, after your work is done, for fun on messenger. But, that's purely if you've accomplished your goals. Otherwise, instant messaging is a luxury you can't afford when you grow your business.

The final thing you should do is to cut out checking forums on a regular basis. Just like with e-mail, there's no need to monitor every time someone replies to one of your posts. You certainly don't need to be trolling around forums just looking for something to reply to. Forums are good for occasional entertainment, or to use when you're looking to solve a specific problem. Cut them out the rest of the time and you'll find that you get much more done.

I'm sure that you're making at least one of the time wasting mistakes that I mentioned. Just think how much time you could reclaim by cutting down on e-mails, messaging or forum usage. Think of these as a treat, rather than something you do as a matter of course. Your online productivity will thank for you for it.

Tuesday, July 20, 2010

Walk a Different Path!


By Sean M Mantack


Do you follow everyone else's path or do you make your own? You are all responsible for your own life, whether you are young or old rich or poor. You can be coerced and manipulated into doing things that are normally out of your everyday character, but the final decision is always your own to make.

You only have one chance to walk through the enchanted garden of your life, there is no set route that you must take so I encourage you to walk a different path. You have no idea what wonderful visions await you as you explore uncharted parts of the enchanted garden, there are new experiences just waiting to be discovered and documented by you. Do not follow the well trodden path that numerous others have travelled before you, become a pioneer and decide to explore all the possibilities that your life has to offer.

There is no point in following what everyone else is doing (unless that is really what you want to do) in this life, you only have one life to live so why would you want to live it following the herd instead of being the guiding light of your life?

Seek out your own path, be a trendsetter instead of a dedicated follower of fashion. Be an explorer, be curious about where you can go, what you are capable of and what life has in store for you. Stretch yourself, break free from the chains of conformity that bind the masses and walk a different path, walk a path of your own choosing rather than a path that somebody else has chosen for you.

Tackle life on your own terms, be adventurous and do lead an extraordinary life rather than a mediocre existence. You and you alone have the power to make your life exactly what you want it to be, you just have to decide to be a leader where your life is concerned rather than a follower. Do not choose the path of least resistance where your life is concerned, look for opportunities to explore uncharted territories and to cross new frontiers.

Get out of your comfort zone and see what you are capable of achieving in your life, refuse to do as others have done before you, be the master of your fate and the captain of your soul. You have a choice, you can follow in the footsteps of all the people who took the safe well trodden path that was chosen for them, or you can decide to walk a different path.

Sean is a Life Coach and Master NLP Practitioner specializing in helping clients who are feeling "STUCK" to get "UNSTUCK" and to achieve more in less time than they ever thought possible with the power of goal setting and self empowerment.

Monday, July 19, 2010

The 3 Year Secret


By Dave Osh


Many people want to change jobs in order to become happier and successful. After the change, they find that they are still unhappy and unsuccessful in their new jobs. Then what? They start "shopping" for the next job believing it will ultimately make them more happy and successful. The rat race for the "perfect" job they will never find continues because they never ask "is it about the job or is it about me?"

New comers to an organization, at every level, tend to focus on the shortcomings of their new employer instead of their own. They do not think about the changes they need to make in order to be happy and successful. Yet, it is highly unlikely that an organization will change dramatically just to meet their expectations. It is their responsibility to Adopt, Adjust and Accommodate.

It is very hard, on any rung of the corporate ladder, to do this. The more senior the position, the more difficult it is. What do these people do? Do they quit their jobs and move on to another company or do they choose to Adopt, Adjust and Accommodate?
iveness on the job escalated exponentially. Other colleagues tell me they have experienced the same thing. It's as if after the 3 year milestone one breaks through all the initial barriers and begins fulfil
I have personal insight into this issue. After 3 years in each of my management positions, my effectling true potential.

What happens at this milestone of 3 years?

We know our business model to the smallest details, we know our customers' needs wants and desires, we know our markets and we know our industry. It is a combination of knowledge and experience. But above all it is the point when we fully assimilate our company's mission and values. We Adopt them as our own. We Adjust to the company culture and the unique way the business is run. We Accommodate the requirements of the stake holders - shareholders, board, top management, etc.

For this reason, I am reluctant to hire managers that do not break through the 3 year milestone. 80% to 90% of the resumes received by my office for new management postings are of people that have spent 1-2 years on their jobs. Some people have spent only a few months in a job and are already soliciting a new one. More astonishing, they claim achievements that most of us cannot claim in a lifetime. Should we take these candidates seriously? Is job hopping a life pattern that they will continue after they join us?

There are 2 lessons here.

The first lesson is for employees. We should stick to our employer for at least 3 years. During the first 3 years we will do our utmost to Adopt, Adjust and Accommodate without losing our ability to take initiative and add value to the company. At the end of 3 years, we are in a better position to judge whether our employer fits our life mission.

The second lesson is for employers. We should hire team members who have performed consistently for the same employer for more than 3 years. Five years is even better. These are leaders with stamina. These are leaders that will stay long enough to grow their personality and commitment to the organization through time. These are leaders that will stick to it long enough to make genuine and long lasting contributions to the organization and all who work with them.

Time is VALUE in leadership.

Saturday, July 17, 2010

Apologies to Bill Gates


By Charles T Chris Compton


One month during the last century, I rather presumptuously opined that "Bill Gates needs to get a life." In a monthly message as President of the local bar association, I took note of reports that Gates' number 2, Steve Ballmer, had audited Bill's last-year calendars to point out where his time was not best spent. It was safe to guess, I said, that "Ballmer did not encourage his boss to spend more time with his new kid, or in church, or reading a good novel, or writing poetry, or visiting friends.... After all, Microsoft loses money if Bill pauses to pick up a $500 bill on the sidewalk."

My point was that I and most lawyers tended, in ordering our priorities, to put quantifiable short term goals ahead of the less obvious payoffs from, for example, pro bono work or training-much less sacrificing a billable hour listening to a Mozart's Sonata for Piano and Violin in C Major. I urged all us lawyers to leaven the Gates singular focus with "serious doses of family, right-brain, and no-brain activity: learning the two-step or Irish jig; mentoring a foster child; riding a bike across America; studying the Koran; trekking in Nepal; becoming a gourmet cook."

So here we are ten years later and guess what? Bill Gates has become one of the world's great benefactors and a model to us all. The July 5, 2010 issue of Fortune, "The $600 Billion Challenge," reports that Bill and Warren Buffett have been quietly working to secure pledges by the world's billionaires to donate at least 50% of their fortunes, either while alive or through their estates. That challenge could bear fruit enriching the lives of millions for centuries to come. Already the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation, to which Buffett is adding much of his wealth, is investing over $3 billion a year in the fight against malaria, HIV/Aids and other scourges of civilization. Meanwhile Mr. Gates, still Microsoft's non-executive chairman, makes time to drop off or pick up his kids from school when he's home, and his "family almost never misses spending Sunday evenings together.... "

In my first run at this, I concluded that "Time is indeed precious. The waste is in spending it all in one place." Still true. But also true, in spades, is that Bill Gates has a life. And is using his time to ensure and enrich the lives of many others. My apologies, Mr. Gates.

Friday, July 16, 2010

New Age Spirituality Concepts


By Jose Bulao


The New Age is a term that encompasses a lot of concepts derived from diverse sources which for centuries have contradicted one another. The one term which may describe all these phenomena is the word non-normal. New Age refers to all those concepts which are non-normal to most of humanity in the current time, what Dick Hebdige called "a subversion to normalcy."

So New Age Spirituality refers to a kind of spirituality that is not the rule in the present culture in which we live, whether we are westerners or easterners, whether we live north of the equator or south of the equator. It is a spirituality that is a subculture in our mainstream culture.

Its main concepts may be classified according to its view of God, of spirit, of man, of the planet earth, and of the heavenly bodies.

The first concept in New Age Spirituality is the absence of a creed or set of propositions to believe in. Whereas every institutional religion has a creed to stand by, like the Apostles' Creed in Christianity, New Age Spirituality does not have a creed like that. But this does not mean it has no set of ideas to offer to other people. It has. And these are concepts which are more or less common to the many streams which claim or compose the New Age Spirituality.

The second concept then of New Age Spirituality is its assertion of a God who is different from the God of established religions. The God of the established religions like Christianity, Islam, Judaism, Hinduism is a transcendent God, one who is beyond our mind to consider, whom we cannot experience by our own powers.

On the other hand the God of New Age Spirituality is a God who is one with the universe. He may be the universe itself, or he may be us and the universe. And he is not transcendent, beyond our mind and powers to experience. We can experience this God here and now by meditation, by yoga exercises, by revelation from this God himself, and even by drugs.

The third concept of New Age Spirituality is its concept of spirits. We are all surrounded by all kinds of spirits, from angels to souls of the departed. And the spiritual world is superior to the material world. We can communicate with these spirits and those spirits can influence our life, maintaining our health and fortunes.

The fourth concept of New Age Spirituality is on its idea about the human being. The human being is an untapped potential of powers. The human being can do more than what we see him doing now. He has already discovered and harnessed the powers of electricity, of computers, of instant communications. He can do infinitely more. He is spirit with infinite powers at his disposal, if he only knew how to harness these powers.

The human being is a totally free agent, therefore. And he breaks loose from the traditional restraints of society in general and of the churches in particular.

The fifth concept of New Age Spirituality is concerning the planet earth. It is a living being on its own. The term used to refer to this planet is Gaia, the Greek goddess personifying the earth. Because of this, New Age Spirituality has a reverence for this planet earth. Hence persons who profess New Age Spirituality have programs on environmental care. Because of this they advocate simple living so that the environment will not be destroyed.

The sixth concept concerns the heavenly bodies, the sun, moon, planets, their satellites, the stars and other heavenly bodies. These heavenly bodies, according to New Age Spirituality, have a consciousness of their own and they influence lives, human and non-human, on this planet earth.

From these basic concepts flow the other concepts and practices such as yoga exercises, controlled and supervised meditation, meditative, soothing music, communicating with the dead, use of crystals in health care, mind travel to heavenly bodies, psychic knowledge of the future and of the minds of others, practice of alternative medicine, reincarnation, karma or the accumulation of good and bad merits, eclecticism in religious beliefs tending to form one universal religion, respect for women as leaders in religion, respect and reverence for ancient civilizations, emphasis on personal, mystical experience as opposed to dogmatism and ritualism of the churches, the dawning of a new age of abundance and happiness.

Thursday, July 15, 2010

Personal Success - Managing Your Energy


By Willie Horton


Our world, our entire universe and, indeed, your own daily life operates like a big energy-exchange machine. Ground-breaking discoveries in the field of quantum physics has begun to confirm just how this energy actually works. But, for starters, we already know that everything is made up of energy. Superstring theory, which the CERN teams working on experiments with the Large Haydron Collider will, in time, be confirmed experimentally, states that the most basic components of everything in the universe are superstrings of energy. You've got trillions of superstrings of energy that combine into particles, molecules and cells which, all together, add up to what manifests as the physical you. To quote the physicist Brian Greene, your superstrings are like violin strings. When they are all in tune, your life is like a beautiful symphony. But how often does that happen? How often do you feel completely in flow, that all is well, that you're completely content and that all is simply falling into place for you? Isn't it more often the case that some of your strings are out of tune and your daily life sounds more like a second-rate school brass band!

The funny thing is that, even though most people have no idea of superstring theory or, indeed, that we are simply comprised of energy, the ordinary man-in-the-stress (or, obviously, woman!) even uses common expressions that describe the physical results of our superstrings being 'out of tune'. Strangely enough, these everyday expressions generally refer to the energy centres in our body which ancient mysticism describes as the primary or key energy centres, known as chakras. Let me explain what I'm talking about by way of example. If you're nervous, you might have what we describe as butterflies in your stomach - the direct physical consequence of a state of mind. If you have something difficult or unpalatable to say or some bad news to impart, you might experience a lump in your throat. If you're feeling down you might have that sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach. Indeed, the pit of the stomach is a key energy centre often referred to by successful people when they talk about gut instinct or gut feel. And how come that tension and nervousness can lead to a 'tense nervous headache'? One thing is for certain, many people actually use expressions to explain that they're 'drained' or that that their 'energy is low'.

The simple fact is that, whether you're aware of the scientific explanation or not, you are aware that your state of mind creates these physical knock-on effects. What's the point of all this? Well, the normal state of mind, which psychology has concluded tends towards the negative, is the starting point for of all manner of ills and, crucially, is the source of discomfort in our everyday lives. The normal subconscious mind turns our energy in on ourselves - and, as a consequence, produces these physical effects - so that we end up sabotaging ourselves, having been left, quite simply, with too little available energy to put into that 'energy-exchange machine' that I mentioned earlier. We may be only too well aware of the consequences of a negative state of mind: low self esteem, lack of self confidence, a general feeling on unease in certain circumstances, stress and depression. But these are extreme examples of a more subtle and deeply-rooted problem.

The inward focus of our energy means that we don't have a sufficient amount of energy available to invest in what we're supposed to be doing right now and it is this 'disability' that keeps normal people within the psychologically self-created confines of their normal, not-too-bad life. And as our world and your life works on the basis of a return on the energy that you put into the act of living, with little concrete investment comes precious little return. Little wonder that people are unhappy and unfulfilled.

You've got to break this cycle of self sabotage. You've got to start investing more energy in your life, by putting more of you into living in the present moment. You've got to be interested enough in your own success to bother to actually turn up to the only place that life is lived - the here and now. You can start, right now, by taking five minutes, finding somewhere quiet to sit, closing your eyes and simply listening to the sounds that you hear. This silences the constant noise in your head and drags your subconscious mind's attention away from its inward self-destructive obsession. Most importantly, it enables you begin to train yourself so that you can turn your otherwise inwardly-focused energy out into a world that is only waiting to respond to your presence, to your focus. In this way, by putting a little more is, you'll get a lot more out of life - straight away.

Wednesday, July 14, 2010

How Patience Can Save You Big Money


By Kristi LeGue


Some of you may know my story, some of you may not. I am really not bashful about sharing it because I want people to learn from my mistakes. I recently realized that I want to share with all of you the same things I want to share with my three boys. If I can teach you something before it happens, I will save you from the same pain and frustration I went through. For a year and a half now, I have been driving around a really cute little Camry. Yes, I have had three boys and three car seats squeezed into the back of this little Toyota Camry for the last 20 months. Although I love this car, it has not really been a cup of tea. Let me go back and explain a Cliff Notes version of my story.


In June of 2004, I had a little Honda Accord very similar to my Camry in the picture. I gave birth to my second son that same month. I quickly realized (like on the way home from the hospital) that a 2 year old and a newborn with a rear facing car seat do not fit well in a Honda Accord. My husband and I went out and purchased a used Ford Expedition. While it served us well in size for three years, being raised with Honda's I was disappointed in the repairs I had to perform in those three years with such low miles on the Ford. In August of 2007 I had had it with the Ford and its repair costs so I went and bought a fully loaded 2007 Toyota Sequoia Limited brand new...for $55,000. What was I thinking? Don't ask me because I don't know. I went home so excited that night. However, the proof is in the pudding (as they say). I was up all night that night, sick to my stomach trying to figure out how I was going to pay the $726 a month car payments for the next five years.


Long story short, this was the same time the gas prices decided to jump up over $4 per gallon. I was spending about $1,000 per month on my car alone. Holy cow! I started to panic in August of 2008, the economy was starting to go down and my husband's electrical work was starting to slow down significantly. I called my friend who is an auto broker and she found me this beautiful Toyota Camry for a great price...but it was still brand new. I was $7,000 upside down in my Sequoia and I had to fully finance the Camry. My kids barely fit in the back seat, but I had to make it work because we were going to sink if we kept the Sequoia. So, I have been driving around this cute, sporty and fun Camry for the last 20 months. However, when my children were in the car, I was pulling my hair out.

"Mom, Shawn keeps looking at me!"
"Mom, Nathan is touching me!"
"Mom, Derek is punching me!"
"Mom, he is breathing in my space!"


I just couldn't take it any more! For the safety of my children and my sanity my husband and I started to look around for USED full size SUV's. My instinct is to make a decision and make it happen...quickly. However, when I mentioned this to Lindsay, my Tax and Accounting Manager, she advised me her Dad was an auto broker and did this for a living. Between her and her dad, they gave me some insanely good advice on buying a car. Here are some of the nuggets of information that saved me these last couple of weeks.


1. Patience, Patience, Patience - Wait for the right car to come to you. Take your time, there is absolutely no need to rush this. You are going to be driving this car for years. Be patient and everything will fall into place.

2. Do your homework - Look around on the internet, go to Carmax, look at other dealers for exactly what you want. Test drive all of the cars you are even considering purchasing. Find out everything you can about the different cars, resale value, maintenance and repair records, Carfax reports, Consumer Reports. This is one of the largest buying decisions you will be making throughout your life, don't take it lightly.

3. Buy used over new - I have always purchased new cars (except for the Expedition), but honestly, I have learned that it makes a lot more sense to buy something used. You lose an enormous amount of value the moment you drive off the lot with a new car. Even if it has 10,000 miles, you can get a screaming deal with a used car and you won't take such a hit driving off the lot.

4. Know your price point - Figure out what your budget is and don't let someone persuade you to go over that. You have to stand firm. On the other side, don't set it too low and then jump all over the place. Do your homework up front and stick to it.

5. Start looking when you feel the urge, don't wait for it to be urgent - I clearly waited too long to start looking for a new car. I was so anxious about it I was tearing my self up every time I got in the car with my boys. Once you start to feel the need for a new car, start your search with patience and clarity.

Tuesday, July 13, 2010

Leadership Coaching - A Continuously Changing Education


By Jamey Clifford G Means


In terms of leadership coaching, people are an important asset. However, this is not used and known by everyone. Since there are still businesses which lack the correct leadership and treats the workers as part of the disposable variable cost on the subject of the economics of things.


With leadership competencies changing as the competitive environment changes, leadership coaching likewise changes with it. As the new international environment brings with it higher ambiguity and also skepticism, other important forces also have an impact on businesses and corporations. A great deal of, if not completely, facets of management will need a shared approach to leadership. Today's model of productive leadership is a learning environment which capitalizes the whole company's workforce asset potential.


The failures in conventional methods of training and also coaching have happened as a result of leaders and managers that are merely outdated in the learning vehicles of time. These are also affected by the unchanging habits, patterns as well as outcomes. As a solution, a kind of leadership coaching may be used, one of which is known as behavior-based coaching.


The important value produce by behavioral-based coaching is high opinion for others and a method of communication that stimulates real exchange. This kind of unadulterated openness results in not only a larger self-awareness as well as a increased understanding of other people. There's also several important behaviours or psychological-based diagnosis tools a leadership coach needs. Being a leader, you must manage to improve the employees as well as draw out the best inside them.


For you to hasten the procedure, there's a requirement of more skillful leaders to be able to realize success in making a tomorrow which will sustain the business or firm. In addition, there exists a need for leaders that have focused on inner mastery, who know themselves and deliver their best selves onward in a day-to-day basis. You can never lead if you haven't followed. Leaders are likewise examples.


To be competent to coach leadership into a person and also produce a leader among followers (the employees), we will need to continuously mold them as a person. As somebody who has not still drawn on all his / her latent potential, as someone who still has a great deal of qualities to deliver forward. Employees are persons too, not merely some disposable variable cost. Leaders ought to figure out how to clarify their visions, beliefs, and values, and realize how to stretch their capacity to lead and influence. Moreover, using the proper coaching they need to manage to infuse these characteristics to their subordinates.


On a different note, teachers from the past preached that one's ability to will can be a secret weapon to success to everything on earth. As a footwear manufacturer always stated, "Nothing is impossible". Well, I guess it's true to each man or woman that has the grit and also perseverance to will it in to reality. History has demonstrated time and again that an individual, who possess a determined will, will ultimately win and grab the day.


There was an individual that said there are three types of people in the world; the Wills, the Won'ts and the Can'ts. Choose the first. Be a leader which will push the organization forward along with your workers.


I suppose after realizing the dilemma of several firms being grounded in the history of old behaviors, you can have the ability to have a strategy for future years. Nevertheless knowing only part of history will not be enough to totally alter the future. We should all try to shoot for the sky. With these information along with the appropriate form of leadership coaching, everything is possible.

Monday, July 12, 2010

Busyness Or Business?


By Lynn Banis


Do you get caught in the busyness of the days activities? Don't get effort confused with results. We all have tons of things on our plates and it is so easy to pick the low hanging fruit because it can be done quickly and easily. The problem with this is that the low hanging fruit may not be the most important or have the impact you need. It does feel great though to cross stuff off your list doesn't it?


Try breaking the big, important things - the business things - down into small pieces that you can tackle. Make sure you have created doable pieces. One of reasons we avoid tackling big projects is that they seem overwhelming when we look at them as a whole. Identify the steps you need to complete to finish each of your smaller bundles of work. Then create an action plan for getting them completed. Once you have each piece done you can cross that off your list and still see some progress. The sense of accomplishment that gives you often creates some momentum to get the rest of the job done. When you have momentum going for you your motivation seems to increase as does your energy so you get more done. Funny how that works isn't it?


It is true that you do have to get to some of the low hanging fruit also. Some of it probably needs to be done each day. Why don't you try mixing it up a bit? Plan on doing some of the tough stuff first and then reward yourself with doing some of the easier tasks. That will also give you a great feeling of accomplishment. Think in terms of priorities. Get the important stuff done and then work on the little stuff. It will make all the difference in your productivity.


Some people get really stuck trying to figure out how to get at the big, not-so-fun stuff. If you fall into that category you might want to try hiring a well trained coach. Your coach can help you look at all of the things on your plate and prioritize them. Then you can work together to come up with some ways to break that tough stuff down into small pieces. Your coach will help keep you focused on the important things, will act as your support system for getting it done and will help you celebrate your successes.

Saturday, July 10, 2010

Memory Improvement Methods Can Certainly Improve Your Life!


By Jessica Tavares


How many times have you been driving back home and out of the blue experienced that sinking feeling that you have forgotten about something. You wander through the doorway and your husband or wife greets you lovingly and hands you your anniversary presents.


It is at that time that you recognize yet another twelve months has gone by while you have thoroughly forgotten your anniversary once more. For those who have had this encounter before it is time for you to take a look at planning a noticeable difference for your memory. By using a few simple training memory enhancement techniques it will likely be simple for you to make a impressive improvement in your memory without having to get worried again about forgetting things. This is when memory improving techniques are nice to know.


There are various different areas for your memory. These include recalling:

• appointments and special occasions
• names and faces
• truthful facts in addition to,
• lists.


Within each one of these areas you will find different memory development approaches and applications that you might use.


If you are the kind of person who can not remember another person's name there are numerous methods which you can use. Probably the most common one by people worldwide would be to connect a rhyme in relation to their name. For example should you be out at a get together and get introduced to a new individual titled Tony. The very first thing for you to do will be to be sure to reiterate his or her name a few times while conversing. "Hello there Tony I am glad to meet you." This will aid in confirming their name as part of your short-term memory.


To help lock that name within your long-term memory the following thing you need to do should be to associate it along with a rhyme of some kind. e.g. Tony the pony. So now every time you look at that individual through-out the event reiterate to yourself mentally "tony the pony" and begin to picture that individual as a pony. When you have that secured inside your mind it really is practically not possible to fail to remember. Development to your memory truly is this simple.


Another great action to take is try to coordinate your rhyme together with a prevalent attribute regarding his or her appearance. Therefore it can help to identify him or her down the road as well.


One major one of the common memory enhancement strategies in terms of lists is to make a word saying/sentence or just remember the first letters within the list. Using this method it can help to jog your memory to just what exactly was on the list. For instance if you needed to head out to the store and try to remember 5 various products you might do it similar to that of the following.


Lollipops
Loaf of bread
Chocolate bar
Apples
Ketchup


Take a look at your checklist and in this case you can regroup it to be.


Bread
Lollipops
Apples
Chocolate bar
Ketchup


As you can tell from the initial letters in this instance it spells Black. So now all you need to do is keep in mind Black and as soon as you arrive to the store it will aid you to know there was 5 things and they started out with B L A C K


When you understand most of these straightforward tiny memory betterment techniques you can possess a amazing memory in virtually no time at all.

Friday, July 9, 2010

The Bells of Your Reality Ringing (How to Make Life Better)


By Joshua Clayton


Get organized! Those two words are like the bells of your reality ringing in your ears and mind when you think about it. Sure, they seem irritatingly simple. But, they are indeed the most realistic words you can say to yourself and hear in life. I am not saying, "be a perfectionist," but I am saying in a very deeply passionate way, get organized. That is the only way to put it when dealing with life and all its things. Sure, more complex words than I am saying here would be more dishonestly mystical, which is the last thing anyone reading and heeding this article needs. No, indeed, I am being totally and honestly rational and realistic in a "cold blooded" way here, and in all of my articles, no matter how seemingly gentle the approach.But no matter how "cold blooded" I get, I am loving and passionate in my approach and personal reality. To be genuinely organized, you or anyone who is organized has to have that passion for their reality and their approach, me included. For, is sloppy ever sloppy in an organized way? No, it is not. Seriously think about it, genuine congruency or clarity is never sloppy.


Sure, if I was making this up as a fairy tale full of lies and nothing, I would be doing a horrible job. Because I am writing about the unvarnished realities of life we all face as conscious human beings on this Earth, and probably elsewhere where there is consciousness. For the bell that rings, no matter what does say get organized, especially when you are not.


Think upon this: Organization and goals are the keys to success, even the "worst success writer" if they do exist has to admit that! That is a universal reality of achievement,if it was not, then we could be as disorganized as we please and genuinely "get away with it" and "Slack off" easily. No, that is not how the principle of reality works and reality does work on definite principles and logical laws, no matter what.


Realistically, I cannot think for you, I can only think for myself. But through the medium of the typed word, I can give you this advice, yet again. Before you fail, get organized. Sure, it rings like a bell throughout this article, I admit. But that is how life works, that is how existence works and that is the most important principle there is in existence and life, in that order. Sure, this is a simple article telling the reality of the situation at all levels. Is not what it all comes down to a unified law of reality as principle? Yes, I know so. Otherwise, planes or bees would not be able to fly and gravity would not work through the principles of aerodynamics, even. Nature without any remission, follows the law, and the law is one, it is reality and it is organized to work in the way it needs to no matter what. Reality exists successfully because of this. So take a hint from reality and get organized yourself.

Thursday, July 8, 2010

Flirting With Eye Contact - Proven Seduction and Attraction Techniques Using the Eyes


By Chase Tylerson


The first thing I think about when I think of a truly incredibly beautiful and stunning girl is the eyes. Of course a great figure, butt, breasts etc. play an important role too but when you are talking "model quality" and "top.5%", all of those are given. The real standout for me is the eyes. They are truly the windows to the soul. They can show the hidden depths a woman has or perhaps the vapid lack of depth. Now reverse engineer that, if the eyes can be so important isn't it perhaps important to know what she is saying while flirting with those eyes. I think so! If you do too, please read on...

Making eye contact is essential in flirting with eye contact

When you see a girl you like you should attempt to make eye contact. This is for a couple of reasons. For one, by making eye contact you show confidence. For another you are testing the waters. It is not hard to tell if a girl as revulsion or interest when she looks at you. If you exchange eye contact and flash a smile and she reciprocates, you know you have a great shot at continuing on to the next stage in your seduction routine. If she laughs and giggles or looks like a deer in the headlights, you may not want to waste more time with her, she seems uninterested.

Maintain eye contact, do not let your fears make you avoid eye contact

Have you ever seen a girl looking at you or had her reciprocate by returning a flirty gaze only to think something like this, "Damn she's looking at me. OK what do I do now? I have to look away fast, I don't want to seem like a creep or a pervert, and I can't scare her off. Look at her friends, now the wall, now the door, is she still looking..." This is the wrong thing to do, but it is what most guys do anyhow. You have to get and hold her gaze and maintain eye contact for 1-2 seconds. 2 seconds is an eternity in a stare but you need that long to seem confident and sure. Any more than that and you will come off as a creep/pervert so no more than 2 seconds please.

Wednesday, July 7, 2010

What it Takes to Be a Good Leader


By Andrea Dilea


Being a leader takes on a lot of responsibility whether you are a leader at a school or community organization, a workplace union or an advocacy group. Leadership is as empowering as it is exhausting - a leader is always the subject of a lot of expectations. There are no set of rules that you can follow to satisfy the demands of your organization. Leadership needs you to be versatile, headstrong and compassionate all at the same time.


Having a strong mind and a stoic set of beliefs are basic requisites of a good and effective leader. Making crucial decisions is an indispensable function of a good leader, therefore one needs to be analytical, reasonable and influential in order to lead and bring on results. Inherent to effective leaders are resilience amidst trials and meekness in their triumphs.


Leaders are confronted with different issues and situations at different times. Some of these can be very complicated and leaders are not expected to make the right decisions at all times. Instead, a leader is expected to decide for the best interest of the group and to lead the same into facing the consequences of such decisions. A good leader knows how to unify minds into focusing on the same goal or mission.


A good leader has an open mind and an open ear. He is patient at hearing the opinions of those in a group but cannot be easily swayed by a difference of perspective. Instead, he picks up the critical points and forges a decision based on the strong mind that he has and the confidence he possessed over his capabilities.


Lastly, a good leader has to be essentially opinionated. It is necessary for all leaders to take a stand and have a strong opinion on anything. That is the essence of leadership. One should have an open mind but eventually decides on what is good or bad for the interest of the group. Positioning and taking stands should be the strongest attributes of a good leader.

Tuesday, July 6, 2010

Giving Up And Getting Up


By Babajide Jinadu


In life, people ask themselves what they where created for? Why they were created? Their purpose on earth? etc. Many have come to understand this question and even answered it themselves while others are still out there looking for people to answer it for them. They fail to know that the answer lies within their inner subconscious.


I am not here to give answers to these questions but I am here to show you the difference between the two categories of people we have above. Giving up! What does it mean?, how does it affect people positively or negatively? How do people cope with it? All these questions arise, but giving up really to me means you are a failure, you have dreams, visions, goals, targets which you must meet, you then have to strategize on how to achieve it, risks involved, time frame etc after all this you start on your mission of trying to achieve your set target, but on the way you face challenges, meet with problems some you foresee others you don't, what really makes you stand out from others is your approach to handling the matter. Some take up the challenge to the extent that they almost lose everything they own, even their families reject them. That's the point am talking about, I know you can guess what others do they "give up". By giving up let me list what you tend to miss out on for not forging ahead:


1. You will never know the outcome of what you started


2. You are tagged a failure.


3. You will even lose more than what you can recover if you had stayed on.


4. People will never remember you because you failed and nobody wants to recon with a failure.


5. You will remain in your present position and never move ahead.etc


There are more but I know you have gotten the picture of what I mean. "Getting up", this is the man who having gone through all the challenges life has offered him still prefers to stay on, he never wants to be tagged a failure and all he sees his is target no matter the pressure he will face to give up, he will stay on and he definitely will win.

Saturday, July 3, 2010

Writing, Accountability Are Two Ways to Achieving Goals


By Ellie Nieves


Deciding to turn over a new leaf usually comes with new hope, renewed focus and a desire to start with a clean slate. Are you in the process of setting new goals? Here are 5 steps to get you started:

1- Consider what you want to achieve: Goal setting requires thoughtful planning and consideration. Carve out some time to consider what you want to achieve. Perhaps you want to take your career to a new level. Maybe you want to improve your attitude or build new relationships. Whatever your goals are, take the time to flesh them out.


2- Count the cost of achieving your goals: Know how much achieving your goals will cost you. For example, if your goal is to write a book while you're working a full-time job, you will likely have to give up your free nights and weekends to get it done. Is that a price you're willing to pay? There is nothing more discouraging than failing to achieve a personal goal because you weren't willing to pay the price of committing to achieve it.


3- Write your goals: It has been said that goals that are not written down are just wishes. Written goals will give you clarity of vision and a sense of purpose. Be specific when you write your goals. Prioritize your goals and include dates and sub-goals to measure achievement over time.


4- Review and revise your goals: Make it a habit to review your goals on a regular basis. Regular exposure to your written goals will give you a long-term perspective and the motivation to achieve. Additionally, it will afford you the opportunity to revise your goals should your circumstances change.


5- Stay on course: It will be easy to lose sight of your goals when the luster of the new year wears off. One good way to not lose sight of your goals is to recruit an accountability partner who is invested in your well-being. Share your goals with your partner and commit to meeting quarterly to review your goals. At each quarterly review, honestly assess how you're doing. What worked? Where did you fall short? Do you need to reassess your priorities? An accountability partner will encourage you to keep your eye on the prize.


When you achieve a goal, remember to celebrate and enjoy the satisfaction of your accomplishment. Achieving goals will motivate you and give you the confidence to achieve your best.

Friday, July 2, 2010

How to come out of depression?




Depression affects quality of life. Take care and professional support to come out of it and live a full life.


Shweta would keep feeling blue and disinterested in being with friends. She did not want to carry on with her usual activities. Work seemed like a burden to her and jokes stopped making her laugh. She thought that as time would pass she would feel better. But her feelings of inertia and listlessness steadily increased. Soon she developed suicidal tendencies. Little did she realise that she was succumbing to a psychological disorder called depression. One in four persons suffers from a mental illness in their lifetime. Unfortunately, most do not even seek treatment.



What is Depression?

Depression is a psychological disorder with pervasive feelings of depressive moods. It is triggered due to an imbalance in brain chemicals. There need not be an event or incident that stimulates depression. One might feel depressed even for no reason at all. The term depression is mostly used to describe a temporary mood called, 'feeling blue'.


The morbidity rate of depression is higher than that of stoke or diabetes. According to the WHO by 2020 depression will be the second most mortal health problem, globally.


People ignore depressive feelings, by believing that they will subside with time. But depression is not something you can just snap out of. Taking advice from friends and relatives may not be the best thing to do. It needs to be treated with professional help.



Causes of Depression

There may not be just a single cause for depression but it could be a combination of many causes. A few of them are listed below:


•Having a hereditary problem that leads to chemical imbalances in the brain.
•Being in a negative social environment.
•Taking anti-depressants that change the levels of neurotransmitters (chemicals in brain).
•Consuming excessive processed foods.
•Following a hectic lifestyle, long working hours and insignificant leisure time.
•Living under high levels of stress.
•Developing low self-esteem and a pessimist personality.
•Suffering from medical conditions like cardiovascular diseases, diabetes and hypertension.
•Having poor sleep quality and insomnia.
•Developing post partum depression i.e. depression that occurs after giving birth due to hormonal changes in the body.
•Suffering from pre-menstrual syndrome (PMS).
•Experiencing negative life incidents and stressors.


Symptoms of Depression

It becomes easier to identify depression if you are aware of the symptoms. Consulting a psychiatrist can be a good idea in case of severe persistence of more than three of the following signs for about two weeks.


•Feelings of sadness, anxiety and emptiness.
•Experiencing loss of appetite, weight gain or weight loss.
•Being restless or irritable.
•Finding it difficult to think, remember and make decisions.
•Feeling sluggish, low energy levels and loss of interest in social activities.
•Getting up in the middle of night or insomnia.
•Feeling lonely.
•Trying to avoid attention.
•Finding high noise levels intolerable.
•Feeling constantly sick or getting headaches.
•Fatigue sets in and you feel worthless.
•Feelings of ending life or suicidal tendencies.


Who is at risk?

Anyone can be a victim of depression. People get affected depending upon their genetic predisposition, life experiences, situations, incidents and personalities. Individuals can suffer from depression regardless of their age, sex and religion. But individuals who are suffering from seriousmedical conditions or those who have experienced negative life incidents are more at risk.



Curing depression

Once you have identified the symptoms, do not leave yourself unattended. Find the right ways to come out of depression. Some basic but crucial action points have been listed below:


•Consult a psychiatrist.
•Follow prescribed medication and therapy.
•Talk to somebody you trust about how you feel.
•Try taking up a new hobby, even if it seems hard.
•Avoid being alone.


Preventing Depression

Does it seem like you are on the edge of going under depression? If yes, then you can try the following tips to avert depression. Preventing depression can be difficult at first but regular efforts can save you of further suffering.


•Pay attention to your feelings of sadness, anxiety and irritability.
•Get your headache cured: a warm oil massage can do wonders.
•Make your bed comfortable and sleep well. Sleep early, so you get enough sleep. Have a cup of warm milk before going to bed.
•Treat yourself to a body massage, a pedicure, a manicure, a bath salt soak or a new outfit.
•Try aromatherapy oils.
•Have a balanced diet; avoid aerated drinks and junk foods.
•Begin your day by listening religious audio CD that permeates peace.
•Stay away from cigarettes, alcohol or substance abuse.
•Stay in touch with friends.
•Take walks. Exercise helps fight depression.
•Join a dance class. It will keep you happy.
•Be positive. Say nice things to yourself.
•Join a laughter club or invest in a CD of a comedy TV series.


Consulting a psychiatrist helps

A visit to a psychiatrist is not just meant for a person with an extreme mental illness. It is very different from taking advice from your friends. Psychiatrists can help identify problems objectively with a professional outlook.


When we have a headache, we try everything we can to get rid of the pounding pain. But we ignore our moods, feelings and emotions that keep calling out for our attention. We easily take for granted the need of consulting a psychiatrist.


After consultation a psychiatrist may prescribe medication or even psychotherapy sessions, depending upon your condition. Speaking to a psychiatrist can help improve the situation to a great extent. Once you have come out of depression, watch out for the symptoms in future. Keep up the lifestyle you have embraced. After following these rules if depression raises its ugly head again, treat it before it becomes monstrous. Remember, your mental health affects your physical health and vice versa. Improve thequality of life by treating both.

Thursday, July 1, 2010

Work - A Four Letter Word


By William Fleck


Work, of course, is defined as moving mass through space...so much for science. Literally tens or even hundreds of millions of people on this planet do this every day. From the lonely, shoeless worker in a ricepaddy in Thailand to the taxi driver in New york City to the crane operator building a skyscaper in Dallas, Texas...they all fulfill the definition of a worker. They all have a way of moving mass through space and they all receive pay for their efforts....walking a treadmill to pump water from an irrigation ditch...transporting a passenger down Broadway...seeing another floor take shape in a building. And most of them derive some degree of satisfaction from doing the work and, perhaps, seeing the fruition of their efforts. The really lucky...or maybe, the smart...ones find a way to bring a measure of creativity or invention to their work and thereby enhance the quality of their lives while engaged in that work. They find ways to keep the juices flowing and make the load a little less heavy and help the time to pass more quickly.


An acquaintance of mine...sort of a distant acquaintance since I have met him briefly but twice...but whom I feel I know through his talks and seminars...is a quite important member of the internet marketing team that I and my wife have tapped into. He has managed to refine his workweek into a relatively short period of intense and concentrated activity. Apparently, he has a fairly large house and some time ago either he or his wife brought up the possibility of putting shutters on the windows. nineteen pairs he would need...quite a few and the ones he fancied came in at almost a thousand dollars a pair!! Yeh...some shutters! Well he'd worked...there's that word again...with tools all his life under his father's tutelage. So he decided to "go creative" and purchased $2,000 worth of materials and went at it. Almost a whole summer was consumed, part-time, in the creation of these 38 shutters and the question is: why did he do it? Well, first of all, he wanted to do a service for his lovely wife and family. That was the main reason he articulated in his little talk. Also, they added such atmosphere to the home. Those were the reasons he gave for doing the project. But I suspect there was more to it than that. I think he truly enjoyed the process, the creation of something tangible...with his own hands. He presented them as a gift to his wife and family and nobody paid him to do it! Sure, a couple of power tools crashed and burned in the course of the summer...he got a few barked knuckles and one deep cut in his hand. but that goes with the territory, as the saying states. I'll even wager he could have afforded those shutters. I know he could have.


The only remaining question is: was it work? According to the formal definition, one would have to answer, yes. Would he call it such? Not likely! Remember, I said that I believed he really enjoyed the process and the reward as reflected in the eyes of his loved ones. That made it worth...more than worth...the hours spent being creative and doing what he wanted to do.


There is a piece of advice that was given me many years ago by a unique lady in the person of Sarah Caldwell. I say unique because when she was made, they broke the mold. there are a number of people who might say that the mold was broken while she was being made! Anyway, she seemed to take a shine to me and gave me quite a number of opportunities to appear with her opera company in Boston. Oh yes, the advice! She said, "Billy"...she always called me Billy when I was in her good favor..."Billy, find out what you really love to do in this life and then con someone into paying you to do it." I've never forgotten that bit of counsel and managed to have a respectable career doing what I loved to do: perform on the operatic stage and I've had some wonderful and memorable moments to look back on. That seems to be history now, but I'm still dancin' just as hard as I am able in other parts of the "show biz" world and am involving myself, along with my lovely lady, in the field of internet marketing....could it be just another aspect of show biz....maybe!